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Double Down, Split, or Fold? #betting #bettingonyourself #investinginyourdreams #Blackjack

In many ways our lives can be a game of high stakes Blackjack, betting on the odds of winning or losing in some cases. When you play Blackjack, you have an option when you get your first two cards. If you have two of the same cards—a split—and those are aces or face cards and the dealer gets a five or below, the dealer is bound to bust (go over twenty-one and lose the game), and you have a great chance at doubling your bet and winning with two hands. Also, if you have two high cards that are not the same, and the dealer places his/her first card up and it’s below a six, you can “double down” and get one more card on each of your high cards, hoping you will get another high card and the dealer will bust, because of the likelihood of having to hit on a sixteen, usually will take the dealer over the maximum, twenty one. Again, this is how you monopolize and get more winnings in a game of luck called Blackjack, usually played at Casinos.

Every day, we either take chances on life or we “hold,” as in the game when you decide that you want no more cards. If you have a 12 on the first deal, you have a great chance at busting if your next card is a 10 or above. If the dealer has a high card, he or she has a great chance of winning, especially if the dealer’s other card is high. But you can’t see that other card. It’s facing down. You only see your cards and the one showing in the dealer’s hand. So, you must make a calculated bet. Do I hold and see if he wins, or do I take a chance at the deck dealing me something less than a 10? In most game of odds, if you are holding 12 or 13 and the dealer is showing a ten, then you are told the odds are better to take a hit. Even if you lose, the odds are still on your side to lose, so you might as well take the hit.

As our metaphor stands, in life we can get dealt bad cards sometimes, maybe most of the time. In the same instance, someone around us can get dealt great cards. Are we to take a chance and bet against the odds, or do we HOLD with our lives?

This is a great question in the high-stakes game of life. Today, I sit at my computer wondering what my next card will be. I have no idea. None of us do. You may be the Senior VP of a company and have a million dollar home. The next day, you may go into work and find that you have been fired in a company take-over. Your child can go out on to the street and get hit by a car. A hurricane or tornado can devastate a town in seconds. Last year, as I was watching television, the roof of my carport got swept up and off in the wind and got torn from the house. $9000 later, everything was okay with the roof. But at the same time, my BMW needed new tires, and had an oil and a transmission leak, another $5500. My home needed new plumbing, another 2000. My built in microwave broke—850. And my front tooth broke eating cereal—1700. All of this happened in two weeks. Suddenly, I was facing 19K of bills, when the week before I was completely financially solvent. I spent one year getting back to normal. No one expects devastation, but it happens. Did I try harder to make money? Indeed. Did I make more money, not last year. But the past few years I have made 20-30% more a year. Go figure!

My thought here is that no one knows what tomorrow will bring. No one knows the value of the card facing down in front of the dealer. Sometimes, we just live our lives fully, using our odds of being okay as a standard. You can’t hunker behind every test, assuming the odds will be against you, even when sometimes they are. You must be optimistic, or you will simply fold away your entire life and live in a safety zone. I see this time and time again in my clients. Some people have certainly had a bad time of it. But, most of them now take no chances with their hearts or finances. They choose to live in limbo—that Catholic spiritual state between heaven and hell.

After a terrible break-up or a sad situation like a friend’s death, you may sit on the couch for a month and sulk. But, eventually, a healthy person will find the strength to get back in the game of life, resisting the urge for homeostasis. If you suffer from this numb state of “do nothing, sacrifice nothing,” for too long, then you may want to seek counseling or get on an antidepressant for awhile. Unless we are willing to face life head on and flow with the change—bad or good—we end up dying spiritually.

Life is about living. Take a chance once in awhile. You’ll be glad you did.

Finding Authentic You, which is the name of my new book and self guide, is meant to help you find a way to get to all of your goals, understand your self and spiritual believe, discover the most distinct you, unlock all of your negative thinking, and help you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.

Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

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Who or What Are You Waiting For? #dreams #betterfuture #newthought #selfpublishing

My entire life I have been waiting for that one person to discover my talents and my abilities and make me famous? How many people, especially artists of all kinds, have felt that in your heart? Obviously, as artists, we haven’t had the means to build record or publishing companies, so we wait on managers, agents, and muckety mucks from big corporations to give us their stamp of approval, before we feel worthy to add our personal art to the conventional market. Suddenly, with this approval, we have made it! But what happens if we wait for 10-20 years, and no one takes us seriously, or we receive a modicum of success and then nothing? When the truth is, we have had the means to do all of this ourselves, but maybe didn’t have the knowledge, skill, or even the desire to market yourself.

Recently, after my last book was published, I noticed that I had SIX unpublished books, 10 unpublished CD’s, and one DVD that could be placed somewhere such as Amazon to be marketed worldwide. I thought someone or a company had to help me do that. In the past, before social and Internet buying had become the positive present.

However, as I went to websites and online help guides, I realized that the only move I had to take to get my work published was a step forward on my own two feet. In the past 10 weeks, I have been getting every one of my books, CDs, and my video ready for resale on Amazon and Amazon Kindle. The process isn’t exactly painless, but for someone who had been an editor for 12 years, most of what one needs to do, I have within my purview. So, I have decided to get my entire Web Store published and on sale on Amazon and Amazon Kindle within three months. That is my goal. I have about 1/3 of it ready to be placed online already.

As I have reread my novels and shared some of the books with close friends, I have realized that I have viable means for income that I simply left on the back burner to simmer for far too long. Even if only 10 people read or buy any of my CD’s, that’s way more than I have if the book is never seen.

I have had a clever idea about helping others, as well, to do the same. If you are in the space of wanting one of your books published or a CD or DVD marketed, just e-mail for some advice, and I will be happy to help you. (Bosebastian5@gmail.com)

Finding Authentic You, which is the name of my new book and self guide, is meant to help you find a way to get to all of your goals, understand your self and spiritual believe, discover the most distinct you, unlock all of your negative thinking, and help you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.

Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.
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Running New Software on Old Hardware: New Technology, New Thought! #technology #apple #newthought #Yahweh

Recently, I got one of those ominous messages on my Apple laptop that said, “You have run out of memory. Start removing storage from your hard drive to make room to run the current programs!” I have seen this message before. Actually, I saw a similar message: “You ‘may be’ running out of memory.” While investigating the new message, I realized that if I wanted to update my computer and the applications, I’m basically going to have to get a new computer. I can’t run new programs with out-of-date, old hardware.

This, of course, got me thinking of the metaphor: What new thoughts are you trying to run on an old belief system? Truthfully, most of my ideations of God and Spirit have morphed through the ages to something so much larger and undefined as words or definitions. I can’t imagine trying to run these new beliefs through my old mind without having very large ERROR messages cause a Brain Crash. I believe, this is what happens when we have an AHHA moment or a paradigm shift in our spiritual belief. The first BEWARE message happens soon after you make your new discovery: “What if I’m wrong? What if God sends me to hell for believing outside the Salvations scriptures?”

When I first ventured from my old Pentecostal beliefs to a New Thought paradigm, I had more than a year or two of attacks from friends, relatives, and simple brain blips that caused me to feel I operated in ERROR. But, what got me through to keep moving forward toward incredible change is the understanding that everything in this human world changes. Everything! If you aren’t changing, then you aren’t living. If you aren’t discovering, then you aren’t looking. If you think you know all about God, then you ARE in error. If God and the universe is every expanding, every moment of every day, to be able to define God is impossible. Even in the Old Testament in the Jewish tradition, the Jews were not even allowed to write the word Yahweh or God. The word was unspeakable and intangible.

To stay within the mystical boundaries of any spiritual practice, we do require some rules. But if any of the rules require you to stop searching for truth in any way, run quickly! Someone and something is on your side at all times helping you find all that you need to know, in any given moment, of any given day. This undefined existence requires acknowledgement, not definition. So, just knowing that something greater and more knowledgeable than you exists and guides you is all that Spirit asks. This openness, lead you to the wonders of the world every day of your life.

Finding Authentic You, which is the name of my new book and self guide, is meant to help you find a way to understand your self and spiritual believe, the most distinct you, unlock all of your negative thinking, and help you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.

Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

 
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Managing the Elderly: Caregiving for an Octogenarian #caregiving #managingelderlyadults #octogenarian

I never imagined that at 53 I would be taking care of an octogenarian. My mom is 81 and, everyday, by virtue of age and health, she loses a little more of her ability to manage her own life. I can’t imagine how losing control would feel, personally, but I know that I try to lead with compassion when she breaks something new, pretends it wasn’t her fault, and blames it on the product. I say gently, “This problem would be better faced if you just admitted that you made a mistake and move on.” She glances down with remorse and, I’m certain, wonders how much longer I will want to take care of her. He deepest fear, “How will I get along without help—the help of my primary caregiver (me), the help of my children, my friends, and my doctors?”

All of these concerns are just and right. Some days I wake up with the patience of Job, and other days I want to pull my hair out with frustration. My solution is to take time away for myself as often as I can, to keep my heart and mind healthy and stable. If don’t I take care of myself, I will end up angry and lose my patience quickly.

If you are a mother, father, or caregiver of any sort, taking care of Self is paramount. If you aren’t prayed up, healthy, and have ample self-care, you won’t be the person you need to be in situations that will involve taking care of the people who need you most.

Finding Authentic You, which is the name of my new book and self guide, meant to help you find a way to understand your self, the most distinct you, unlock all of your negative thinking, and help you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.

Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

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Singing Karaoke on Easter Eve: Being Your Authentic Self! #livingoutloud #dating #outofcomfortzone #Easter #findingauthenticyou

I would not have imagined that, on Easter Eve, I would be dining 30 minutes south of Atlanta in a small Mexican Restaurant singing Karaoke with two very old friends and a new friend, the fiancée of one of those friends. We laughed until we cried, beneath the caterwauling of many large southern cowgirls singing their country faves. Tonight, was an authentic evening just waiting to happen. All I had to do was be there.

You see, I have promised myself that life would not be about “trying” to have fun anymore. Life is about “being” fun wherever I go. So, tonight, despite the fact that I really only knew two songs in the entire Karaoke book, I took to the stage with gusto and belted out a couple songs purely for fun. I have to admit, I did sing: “You Raise Me Up!” for the holiday. You know what? I actually had fun singing, for the first time in a long time. I stopped judging myself and having to be perfect. All I had to be in that moment was me. As I did so, I gave everyone else in the room permission to be their authentic selves.

I have realized that in many places in life, pushing one’s behavior beyond truth, prodding at fame, and trying to kill your self to be perfect is a useless sense of energy. No one really cares if you’re perfect, but you. In fact, when you appear that you are trying to be anything more than real, your actions read as unauthentic. So, as in life also in mind! The result of trying to be more than you are will leave you anxious and painfully fearful of not being accepted by the masses.

On the Eve of Easter, I think about what Jesus felt during his time on earth. How long did it take the Son of God to accept his destiny? How many times did life come at him with false accusations as, “You aren’t the Son of God?” “Who died and made you God?” Can you imagine his best friends and family, the ones who were privy to his body odor and eating habits and grew up next his bad behavior? Did they think, the audacity of this man to think He is something special?

Some people I know drop me like a meatball off of a spoon when I offer up the newest insights coming from my Spirit. Most people I know, too well, aren’t prepared for me to be anything but a human man acting as a human being. But people who barely know me, standing at arm’s distance, tend to not judge by my appearance. Don’t the scriptures say that Jesus wasn’t accepted in his own village? This is truer than anyone would want to believe. You will find it difficult enough to simply be who you were made to be, but now you must do it in front of the people who love you and will judge you most. Being authentic to your calling is the hardest place to stand, sometimes.

About 10 years ago, I woke up to an angel or spirit asking me to sit at my computer and write. About eight hours later, I had finished a book that I soon hope to publish called: Theoraphasz: God Speaks in the Final Phase of Human Development. The hardest part of about publishing this particular book is that, in so doing, I have to ask my friends and family to believe that an angel actually spoke to me, personally. A gay man, nonetheless! Most people in the world will scoff, I imagine, especially men and women of God who expect God to come through the purest of normalcy. Publishing this book has taken me 10 years and accepting only my truest Authentic Self and my Divine Destiny, and believing I, too, am perfect in God’s eyes. I have nothing to lose now. So, I will go forth as intended.
Be looking for it on Amazon in about a month.

Finding Authentic You, which is the name of my new book and self guide, meant to help you uncover the most distinct you, unlock all of your negative thinking, and help you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.

Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

New UPDATED Link to Both the KIndle and the Paperback version of my book.

Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.

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GREAT EXPECTATION: What Do I Expect From Relationship #relationshipadvice #dating #divorce

I once was lost, but now I’m found! “I have ABSOLUTELY NO expectations about life and relationships!” Yeah, right, tell me something that I really can accomplish in this life time!

We all have expectations about relationships. Don’t tell me you think you don’t. We all go past GO directly to our primary desire: I want someone to keep me company; I want a sexual relationship, I want an intimate, monogamous relationship, a want a once a week date; or I want a fling. Pick one! It doesn’t matter which you pick, you still end up with expectations. The trick to life and relationship is to find someone who wants exactly (or nearly) what you want. And how, pray tell, do I make that happen, with a magic wand?

Well, it’s much easier than magic, these days. In the olden days, when I was just a pup, you actually had to meet someone in person and figure out if you had the same idea about relationships. Now, in the present Internet Dating era, all you have to do is type out what you want “once,” and, hopefully, the people reading your profile will be able to understand what you wrote. Trust me, though, comprehension may even be a stretch sometimes. I remember a few instances I have written in an online profile, “I am only interested in someone who is ready for relationship!!!” Exclamation point, exclamation point, exclamation point.

So, the first few responses were: “Do you want to hook up?” “Send me a naked picture!” “How big is your… ?” The last response is the most annoying, especially when you are talking about seriously being interested in love. Who really cares how big it is?

I ingenuously wrote back to all annoying comments, “Can you read?”

Online dating may be one of the few options that actually brings results these days, though, for me, it has brought one- to two-year relationships that have ended either abruptly or without answers. Should I begin to think, as most of my friends, that having a lot of good friends and an occasional sexual partner is about the best that this dating scene gets?

I’m actually visiting a friend with a 23-year-old son who is seriously considering marriage. His ideas about love and romance are so grandiose. When his father and I have been in and out of relationships far too many times to count, the juxtaposition is incredible. I want to tell him that I hope and pray his relationship will be everything he dreams it will be. Maybe it will. But, being on my side of the life-coaching couch, I hear far too many stories of misbegotten dreams and ill-gotten relationships to think that there is any reality in happily ever after.

Yet, I have to tell you, I still dream of meeting that one person who changes all my pessimism to an optimistic believer in love and romance. If you are one of those people who really wants to find love, but has been completely remiss in finding it, cheer up. You are in the company of millions of intelligent and wonderful people who just can’t seem to find the right person.

For women, I wrote a book called: Your Gay Friend’s Guide to Understanding Men, all about finding a straight guy. For anyone, though, finding love is mostly about Finding Authentic You, which is the name of my new book and self guide, meant to help you uncover the most distinct you, unlock all of your negative thinking, and help you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.

Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

Link to Amazon and Amazon Kindle:

Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.
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How Many People Does It Take to Satisfy You? #relationshipadvice #dating #divorce

Today, with the help of a brave friend, I came to the hard conclusion that relationships are changing, living things. Just like all living things, relationships can get sick, bring pain, and even die. On the other side of life, living things can bring joy, like the newborn baby, a puppy dog snuggling close, or a lover wrapped around you in passion. Relationship can bring all of these, if you are open and vulnerable. But, you can avoid one intimate relationship and end up in multiple relationships trying to satisfy your one lonely heart.

Every human being has many “parts.” A psychiatric therapy exists called “Parts Therapy.” The focus is on identifying the Internal Parts of the human mind. You may have a brave part or an avoidant part. This brave part may comingle with a childish part, and even an addict part. All of these Internal Parts exists together to make up the whole.

Worry not! You are not schizophrenic. That diagnosis is left for those who lose time when one of these parts is acting out. In other words, a schizophrenic person actually believes he or she is that one part for a certain time. When s/he comes back to reality, s/he doesn’t remember slipping into another personality.

So, it can be fairly normal to have various different sides of your personality coming out to play everyday, without having a psychiatric diagnosis. You can have a work side. You can have a family side. You can have a philanderer side. You can have a religious side. You can have a sports loving, party side. But, unless all of these parts are working together to make one happy Internal Family, you will be in psychological trouble trying to manage the family without a leader.

Sometimes in relationship, we try to satisfy more than one part of personality with different people. Who knows, maybe some of us can’t be satisfied with just one person. I hope I can find that one person. But, I know for certain, that without the many different kinds of friends in my life, I would be lacking somewhere in my social life. I have some friends who are there for compassion. I have some who make me think and drive me to my best self. I have some friends who are companions. I have other friends who like to party hard. Very few of these personalities are all wrapped up in one person. So, life is likely to lead us to many people to satisfy the entirety of our personality.

But, when this happens in intimate relationship without the consent of the people involved, you end up with a big mess on your hands. My attitude is to find someone for an intimate partner who satisfies a great deal of my needs mentally and physically. Then, invite friends into my life whom I need to fulfill the rest of my psychological needs. If your partner doesn’t like to party, and you’re a party animal. Then make sure you have the consent of your partner to party one evening a month or a week. If your partner is loving and compassionate and passion-filled, but isn’t as smart as you, don’t divorce him or her. Find a surrogate to fulfill the needs of your intellect.

All of life is about understanding this consistently changing mechanism called relationship. In my new book Finding Authentic You, I help you uncover the most distinct you, unlock all of your negative thinking, and help you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship is a fairly easy task.

Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Finding Authentic You: With 365 Daily Discoveries & 7 Steps to Effective Change

* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.