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Depression: The Silent Killer #depression #antidepressants #mentalillness

In the 90’s I had been in a committed, live-in relationship for seven years. I had discovered my partner was cheating, needed to leave him and our home together, wanted to leave him but was too comfortable, and felt paralyzed inside. Finally, I got the nerve to get my own apartment and venture out on my own. In the days that followed, I went to the doctor’s office for a yearly physical. The nurse practitioner asked me a few probing questions: “How are you feeling physically? Have you been through any situation where you have felt hurt or abused by another individual? Have you lost or gained weight without understanding why?”

In answering these questions, I broke down in tears in the office. I was still very saddened by the entire experience of the divorce. In the early 90s, antidepressants weren’t as common as they are now. The practitioner suggested I go on Zoloft and see if I feel better in a couple weeks. I had told him that I had been feeling down for almost two years, which concerned him. This news would concern me, as well, as a Life Coach. So, I did as he told me and took the medication. As the days unfolded, Zoloft made my stomach hurt. So, the practitioner tried another medication, Effexor, which didn’t seem to affect my digestion as much.

In three weeks, almost to the day, I felt as if I had crawled out of a very dark cave I had been living in—not just for two years—but my entire life. I saw trees and birds and nature as if I’d never ever recognized they existed around me 24-7. My entire life had been filled with abusive situations since I was young. Apparently, I moved into the inner recess of my mind to live for the rest of the hours of the day when my complete attention wasn’t needed.

I can remember people saying, “Isn’t that beautiful?” I would look at a flower or nature scene and simply wonder, what is beautiful? And, then, I would retreat back to my mind where everything was fantasy, and I could decide my fate with complete accuracy. I have been thankful to that psychiatric nurse practitioner who diagnosed my depression for my entire life, because I was, indeed, very depressed. I had gone undiagnosed for twenty years. I know for certain that many times in that twenty years I had suicidal ideations. Who knows if I would even be here to write about it, had I not been diagnosed.

Undiagnosed depression can cause many problems in the world. When you look at some of the world’s most terrible disasters, such as a student going on a shooting rampage at school and killing teachers and other students, we are simply looking at undiagnosed psychological disorders. So, who is responsible for these children and adults who can’t see for themselves that they have a problem? I remember discussing with a very good friend the need for him to get on an antidepressant. He was exhibiting all the signs that one sees in a depressed person: sleeping too much, gaining or losing weight, despondency, big highs and big lows, a great deal of illness, and a glazed over look in his eyes. He jumped down my throat and became angry with me. He thought that I was saying he was crazy. After I told him that I took an antidepressant, he still was angry. I explained about the need for serotonin in the brain to feel happy, but I really didn’t understand the dynamics of the brain then, so my explanation fell on deaf ears. Now, I was saying he was not only crazy but sick as well? I’m not sure. But, I don’t believe he ever got on any medication or went to the psychiatrist as I recommended. He stayed on a mental rolling coaster, until I quietly exited his life. This kind of exodus happens a great deal in depressed people’s lives, which only makes the problem worse.

Depression is all around us. We must take action and try to lead depressed people to help. All of the indicators of depression can easily be found on the Internet where anyone can see the contributing factors and even the medications that one can receive to help. We are in an age where these undiagnosed students should be found and helped before they reach the level of crying out for help by shooting people. No reason in the world exists for seven teachers a day to see a despondent child and not find a way to recommend to a parent, or someone in charge, that this student should get checked by a physician.

Helping yourself define your mental stability is all part of Finding Authentic You. Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version.

For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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The Aftermath of Bullying #bullying #selfesteem #beinggayinastraightworld

The Aftermath of Bullying
#bullying #selfesteem #beinggayinastraightworld

On World News, yesterday, a man who obviously had issues with rage and bullying was ordered by a judge to sit by the side of the road with a sign that read: “I AM A BULLY.” His terrible act was maligning a family with 3 disabled children, repeatedly. I sat with a friend while watching the news. My friend’s opinion: The bully should be jailed and the key thrown away. My friend has a close relative who is disabled, and he is a gay man. So, you can imagine that being bullied was a part of anyone’s life who has grown up different.

Personally, I used to get taunted everyday in high school. Sometimes, someone I didn’t even know would just pass me and say, “Faggot!” A couple times I got punched in the stomach and just simply fell over, wiped myself off, and put on a happy face for my next class. Life, being different, can be a challenge for anyone, whether it be sexuality, some kind of physical deformity, or something such as a religious belief that would cause you to have to wear a special head cover. Anything that makes you stand out as a child or young adult, will be fodder for bullying, you can be assured.

I’m thrilled that that the world and legislature and schools are punishing bullying more severely. This sends the message that’s it’s simply “not cool” to be an ass. And also teaches those children who idolize bullies that being in the “in crowd” isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

Ultimately, facing who you are and loving yourself is a big chore in today’s world. If you can’t love yourself, I wouldn’t expect to find relationships that are worthwhile, either. All of your relationships—friendships and intimate—are an expression of your self-esteem. So, take a good hard look at yourself. Either change what you don’t like, or make amends in your own heart for how you have bullied yourself, by repeating old, self-deprecating behavior over and over, until you believe these untruths about yourself. Loving yourself is the key to recreating a past filled with bullying.

This kind of change is all part of Finding Authentic You. Listen, I really need your help to buy my new book (below) and share it with friends. No project in this world launches without a community of people who value its importance. This is why I have made it $2.99 for the download version. For much more information about finding and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Insurance Costs, Premiums, and Managing Healthcare.gov #healthcare #obamacare

Today is April 13, 2014. I began my search for a new insurance policy after my TN Blue Cross small business insurance had been taken off of the table as an option, December 15, 2013. I had had great insurance, in my estimation with my old company. My co-pays were $15 for doctor’s visits and even hospital visits, most of my medication, if it was generic, was under $10. But, the best news was that the entire premium per month was only $136, when all other options were about 4x what that costs. This is pre-healthcare.gov.

My initial diagnosis for Healthcare.gov actually was fairly good, until I actually attained the policy I wanted. I made a couple of tries on the Internet site and a few phone calls to Blue Cross and Blue Shield of Tennessee to find out which network I needed to be in to have all of my Vanderbilt Doctors. It turned out that the network was “S” and that on a Silver Plan I could get a network S policy, with my tax credit, for only $79 a month. This particular policy had a $500 deductible. Once the deductible was met, I have no out of pocket costs. So, factoring in this $500 per calendar year, because it will inevitably be paid, my out-of-pocket medical costs per month is $120.66. Again, once that deductible is met, I will pay nothing for medicine, for doctor’s visits, or for an entire hospital stay.

So, I’m paying now less per month, even with the deductible than I was paying before, and I have complete coverage with no co-pay, including hospital visits. Pretty damn good stuff.

Now, the downside of the program. Since January, I have had a complaint call into healthcare.gov because the government sent the wrong information to Blue Cross Blue Shield, saying that I wanted a $179 policy. (To be fair, all of my application had to be reassessed after I did my 2014 taxes, because I attained a larger tax credit after that.)

So, I had to pay this extra $100 for two months before Blue Cross got the correct information from healthcare.gove. The 6 people I talked to at healthcare.gov agreed that I should be credited this amount at the responsibility of healthcare.gov, because it the overage was their fault, around $200.

It is April 13, and I have made 6 calls, and have had no sign of a return call yet. Each time, I’m told a representative will call me back within a week, two week, 10 business days. Yet, nothing. I’ve clocked in about six full hours trying to straighten out $200 worth of mess. I could just let it go, because I charge $95 for my time, normally, but now it’s principle I deal with. This is much like the alcohol addict who tried to sue me for my background music being too loud in her hypnosis session for modifying studying behavior. “She had a hangover,” I told the judge, as she denied drinking two bottles of wine a night. Fortunately, I kept records of everything. Eventually, I won the case. I could have folded and given her the money back she paid me. But, sometimes, if you don’t operate on principle, you lose important self-esteem and self-worth. Every moment I spent preparing for that case helped me realize that I was right. Sometimes, we just need to be right!

Folding your hands because of cost and time, when you’re holding a full house is not what your spirit would have you do, in most cases. Yes, I would agree that sometimes, with antagonists, it’s best to fold. But when the lesson isn’t yours, you must play your character with utmost poise until the end of the show.

This is all part of Finding Authentic You. For much more information about finding and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Students Die on the Way to a Dream—Who Is in Charge Here? #angels #spirits #spiritualadvice #fedextruckmeetsbus

You can be from any form of spirituality and question the fate of wide-eyed, eager student, who wanted to make better of themselves, entwined with an out-of-control Fed Ex truck to meet the death of 10 people, including the two drivers. No black box exists to help us unravel the mystery that might appease millions of onlookers yesterday. For me, it’s just one more example of the seemingly randomness of disaster and the innocent lives it takes.

Bus wreckHowever, if we look past our hurt and the havoc all of this wreaked in the lives of anyone involved, we might see a bigger picture. Example: one day I was stuck in traffic and decided to take an alternate route to the YMCA to teach my morning class. As I was driving home on the path I would have taken there, the remains of three cars and a truck were being towed away. Yes, a big collision had occurred about the exact time I would have been driving in that direction. I have no idea if I would have been a part of that wreck, and I hope to never know. But, I do know that I took the safer route that morning. Who or what, exactly, is watching us and leading our minds to safety. And more importantly, when we end up in a wreck or a disaster, are we in a path set for destiny?

I’m not one to truly believe in randomness. To a God who gave me a dream about 9-11 almost down to the building and the plane one year before the crash, when my partner worked in the World Trade Center, I don’t believe the dream was random. Someone, something, some entity, if you will, was guiding me away from disaster and my partner too. So, if this same spiritual force that gave me the dream is available to us, why are some still left to die unexpectedly. Is it destiny??

Freewill and Destiny have long been an issue in Religion.
People and Their Free Will:
If God made the game, its rules, and the players, then how can any player be free? Some arguments against God focus on the inability for humankind to process free will.
Moses Maimonides said:
“Does God know or does He not know that a certain individual will be good or bad? If thou sayest ‘He knows,’ then it necessarily follows that man is compelled to act as God knew beforehand he would act, otherwise God’s knowledge would be imperfect.…”
Some people counter this thought with God does know in advance what I will do, because free will is to be understood only as freedom from coercion. The actions of a human are determined by a human acting on relatively strong or weak urges—both from God and the environment around him/her—and his or her own relative power to choose.
Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada states the following: “…man does have limited free will; he can decide whether or not to surrender to the will of Krishna (God). All other material happenings and their implications are inconceivably predestined.”
Here are some other beliefs taken from Wikipedia:
➢ Molinism argues that God can know in advance what we will do, even though free will in the fullest sense of the phrase does exist, because God somehow knows how agents would freely act in any given circumstance.
➢ Omnipotence seems to include the power to set a limit on what can be known. Moreover, God chooses to know and predetermine some things, but not others. This allows for humankind’s free moral choices.
➢ Omniscience must include the choices humans will make or else God could not know anything after the very first human choice was ever made.
➢ Presentism means that God knows everything that has ever happened, is happening and will happen.
➢ “God is outside time” is a proposition that was first brought into existence by Thomas Aquinas and C.S. Lewis. This suggests that God’s perception of time is different, and that this is relevant to our understanding of our own free will.
Lewis writes in Mere Christianity:
“But suppose God is outside and above the Time-line. In that case, what we call ‘tomorrow’ is visible to Him in just the same way as what we call today. All the days are ‘Now’ for Him. He does not remember you doing things yesterday, He simply sees you doing them: because, though you have lost yesterday, He has not.
Then there is predestination and fatalism… Whew… Who knew that there could be so many conceptions of God and Spirit? The truth is, none of us know exactly the extent of God or what the existence of God means to each of us, personally. So, like politics, we can only agree to disagree.”
To create my belief, I just picked and chose what made sense to me and threw out the rest. That is what I do in life when it comes to personal belief. If this gives you the liberty to try my version of how to make your own authentic belief, I hope you try. We have to act in life from our core beliefs. When we invest in our most authentic self’s knowledge, we invest in something we can build a house on, a firm foundation. That is good.
When answering the question about is God the storm, or is the storm, God? You might want to consider exactly what you are willing to attribute to God as the Creator. Certainly, if you think God is responsible for the storm and its damage, then you would have to believe that God may also be responsible for you and me, for our decisions, and for our outcome.

The above is taken from Discovery 5 of my new book, Finding Authentic You. For much more information about finding and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Angels and Principalities: What do you believe? #angels #spirits #spiritualadvice #psychicenergy

I’m not one to dwell on theory and specific scriptures in the bible to make a point or even to create factual evidence for anything I believe. Humans wrote the bible, transcribed it, and the Catholic counsel of Trent took away parts they didn’t believe were holy. After that, it has been tampered with by men and rulers who didn’t want certain scriptures to be found, some of it hidden in scrolls in the Vatican, and some lost in the Dead Sea. Who knows what they all mean? However, sometimes its interesting to look at the different religions and believes, to see how they differ. The belief in angels and spirits is one of those places in religions that has quite the religious spin, if you will.

In the Catholic tradition, and perhaps some other Christian faiths believe in spiritual principalities and dominions of angels. A bible quote says that there are celestial beings, angels in heaven and dominions, and powers, and virtues. Even in Wikipedia, angels and spirits are explained in order of the first sphere being Seraphim, Cherubim, then thrones or Orphanim. The second sphere is Dominions or Lordships, Virtues or Strongholds, then Powers of Authority. The third and final sphere in the heavens is said to be Principalities or Rulers, Archangels, and then angels. Most of this theory was based on Thomas Aquinas’s book Summa Theologica, written in the fifth century and based its studies on two books of the New Testament: Ephesians 1:21 and Colossians 1:16.

So, by my cursory look at this, I have been praying to the lowest of all the dominions in heaven to help me on my path here on this earth. I always thought that angels were up in heaven at the right hand of God. But when you study Colossians and Ephesians, you see that many dominions and powers are said to be with God, and some are doing the work of principalities and powers to create the negative and hardship, as in the Book of Job in the Old Testament, when God called forth power to smite the brilliant Job and test his will and love for God. And some are working to aid us in our every day life.

Most people I know believe that these spirits and angels walk with us on another spiritual plane and guide us from tragedy, intercede on our behalf, and will actually keep us out of harms way, should it happen out of the will of God. I know I have had plenty of times when I should have been dead, had it not seemed like something celestials stepped in and stopped my car or another car with in centimeters of colliding with me. I’m sure all of you have stories like this, but not many have answers or reasons why they simply believe something exists with us.

In my new book, Finding Authentic You, I help you discover for yourself what you believe through guided meditation and help getting to the observer mind, which all have but seldom use in our awakened state. For much more information about finding and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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Oscar Pistorius: Looking Back at Your Deeds #pistorius #regret #relationshipadvice #divorce #oscarpistorius #reevasteenkamp

For much of the world, we look in horror at the allegations that Oscar Pistorius shot and killed his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp. Can you imagine how the 27-year-old track star felt yesterday when cross-examination began, and he was all but forced to look at the aftermath photographs of the murder by prosecutor, Gerrie Nel?

Most of us would do well to just forget the past and move on. But, every day, since this trial began, and I would assume moments after the shooting, Oscar Pistorius has had to face his actions, not only personally, but with the entire world watching. I wonder how I would fare in a situation such as this, or one like President Bill Clinton’s debacle with Monica Lewinski.

I’m a very emotional person. If I had done something as heinous as shoot someone I love by mistake, when I talked about it later, I’m sure I’d be squalling all over the place. But, trial experts say that Mr. Pistorius’s emotional outbursts worked against him.

I remember the trial of the Australian woman who was accused of killing her baby when a dingo actually stole and killed her infant. In the 1988 movie A Cry in the Dark Meryl Streep provided us with an excellent foray into this woman’s mind while she was on trial. The accused mother, thought to be in a cult that sacrificed children, was numb and devastated and in grave pain, so much so that no matter what emotion she showed, the public seemed to want her to be killed in the electric chair.

For this reason and reasons why never get to see, like questionable resources that can’t be used in court and information actually suppressed by prosecutors because of illegal ramifications, makes me want to stand back and let the courts and judges and the jury of his peers do the dirty business of judgment. Judging is one of the actions in life I enjoy the least. Most of the time, before I judge someone, I look at all the things I have done that could cause myself to appear guilty in the eyes others. Trust me, there are plenty

Last night, while I was having a drink at a bar, an old friend came up to me and asked me how I was. I told him this month had been rough. My mother was hospitalized. My live-in boyfriend moved out and broke up with me. And my best friend moved to Thailand. This all happened in two weeks. I was a little surprised when he didn’t much seem sympathetic nor compassionate. Later in the conversation he said something sarcastic about me going through a lot of “partners.”

I asked him how many people he thought I had been with in the last 8 years. He jokingly said, “Eight?”

Of course, this was completely untrue. I only see this friend and talk to him maybe once or twice a year. Most of the time the person I’m dating had not been with me. So, his information about me was skewed by his ideations of me being a player, no doubt. The truthful answer was 3, and I had broken up with none of them. I was the one broken-hearted and grieving, when my old friend apparently was accusing me of going through many men.

This kind of interaction can get the most cavalier person thinking about his personal persona. What are we actually conveying to those around us and how do we allow our authentic self out, without being tried and convicted of something we never did? For much more information about finding and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. Finding Authentic You will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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