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JIBO – A Personal Robot #jibo #personalrobot #relationshipAdvice #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment

A brand new robot, which you place in different parts of your house, to monitor you and your needs, just came onto the scene. You can say, as you arrive at your home, “Hi, Jibo, I’m hungry. Will you order some take-out for me?” Jibo replies, “Sure. Chinese, as usual.” And the menu flashes up on the screen. You can put Jibo by a child’s bed to watch her while she’s sleeping. You can put her in the kitchen with you, while you cook, read it your schedule, and give it reminders. Jibo is similar to Siri, but stays on all the time and has this ominous eye that moves from left to right, tracking if anything is going on around it. I don’t know whether to be frightened or intrigued, now that I think of it. What is the world coming to? Will we be developing personal relationships with these computers and giving them names? It actually looks that way.

Check it out! What would you rather do: come into your home, kiss your partner and ask what we should do for dinner OR command an object to do exactly as you ask, with no questions asked? I’m going to choose the computer. People are way too emotional and indecisive. I’ll keep my intimacy for humans and give my daily chores to a robot. Maybe we’ll all have better intimate relationships as a result.

This computer reminds me of an episode of “The Big Bang Theory.” The dorky character, Howard, builds a robot with hands to go into space. He, then, decides to try it for a personal, intimate task. It gets stuck on his junk, and his friends have to take him to the Emergency Room.  There, the attending nurse announces over the loud speaker, “Attention, all doctors! A robot is stuck to a man’s penis!” I’m laughing just thinking about it. What humans won’t do to circumvent dealing with relationship.

Relationship involve transparency, so creating one in our lives takes making room in our hearts and lives and requires emotional connection. How many people do you know—who are single—actually have that kind of time? I had been speaking to a guy I met on-line for about two months, who appeared, at first, to be looking for relationship. We actually met on a dating site specifically dedicated for relationship-oriented people call: OkCupid. We had gotten along really well for the first month. In fact, he and I had moved to Facetime every evening, before bed. Our conversations would last about 30 minutes a day, which is longer than most couples communicate face to face. So, as you can imagine, the relationship evolved into a deeper place, which is unusual, having never met the man in person.

Both of us, maybe not at the same time, came to the realization that having a relationship in two different cities wasn’t a good idea. Though, I enjoyed the expected, nightly companionship, much like having a computer talk to you, two dimensions wasn’t enough. So, we went back to texting and talking about every three days over the phone, as a healthier way to relate before actually meeting when I move to Florida.

What I realized, after this man wasn’t making his best effort anymore, was that he really didn’t have any time for a relationship in his life. He was tied to his job in an unhealthy way. One phone call a day was about all he had to offer in his life—that, and maybe the occasional weekend day to have a little down time. For me, that is not enough for a relationship. I need more connection. Most people don’t. In fact, I would probably fall into the Anxious Attachment category, because my heart needs a commitment from another person to establish any kind of intimacy. One who would need very little time for personal relationship and much more time for work, would fall into the category of Avoidant Attachment.

A therapist friend of mine and I were just talking about this on Skype this morning. He lives in Thailand now, because living in the U.S. was becoming too expensive for a man on disability. Both of us agreed that we have been far too demanding about how sexuality and relationship connect in today’s world. Most people we have dated simply feel that sex is just another step toward love. Where as, both of us had believed for quite some time that by the time a relationship reached sexual intimacy, a commitment should be in place. This, we also agreed, we had been demanding from our partners to protect our hearts. My friend has the great chance to see sex, now, the way other countries view sex, with a lot less condemnation and acceptance. So, having a casual sexual relationship may be a possibility, if we could separate our hearts from the sexual experience.

I’m still not sure how it will work out with me. Perhaps, I just need a robot!

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Dragging Harry from Hole to Hole #releasethepast #livinginthenow #relationshipAdvice #oldMemories #creatingYourAmazingFuture

Life is like the story about a Master Golfer, who had trouble letting things go. When asked how his golf game was, his answer: “It was rough. Harry had a heart attack on the seventh hole. The rest of the game was—swing—drag Harry—swing, drag Harry!”

Though I laughed when I first heard that joke, I know that my entire life has been about dragging the past behind me like a wrecking ball waiting to crash into my perfectly crafted NOW. What exactly can we do to finally rid ourselves of that heavy weight that keeps us from all that we deserve in this lifetime?

1. Take the time to go through the objects in each of the rooms in your home. Bring an empty box with you, as you go through drawers and boxes stored in each room of your home. Remove everything. Look at it. Decide it you need to continue to keep the reminder of your past—good or bad. Begin to fill the empty box with the past. I started with my bedroom. I was shocked at how many things were crammed under the bed, shoved in drawers, and packed in boxes in the back corner of the closet. I would sit with each box, like a prayer that I might say for the last time, knowing that my order had already been placed in the spirit. I no longer needed to request the same list of desires from God again. God listens! I’m the one who keeps bringing up the past and hoping it will change. I removed four full boxes of old memories, just from my bedroom. Metaphorically, that means I have been subconsciously sleeping with these memories every night. Some of the articles I gave away. Some I threw away. Some I recycled, like old pictures of times I will never get back, nor would want to.

2. Trust that the present is the perfect place for you to reside! Sometimes, life is difficult to understand but understand you must. Once, a friend took his own life after dinner with him the day before. First, I grieved hard—sitting in utter confusion. Now, I see that life is extremely fragile. We often don’t know people’s hidden struggle. Spirit asks us to look for signs, for anomalies, and ask—keep demanding truth and authenticity in every area of your life.

3. Don’t pick up new things to hold on to, on your way through life. If you keep filling up your arms with things to hold, you miss reaching out to touch the new and wonderful things all around you. Don’t worry about losing what you once had. Spirit is big enough to continue to let prosperity flow through you as you give and receive daily.

4. Lastly, live life daily with the thought that tomorrow may not come. I’m always surprise how much fear dissipates just by believing this simple thought.

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This book is about growing spiritually in the face of being disenfranchised from churches because of being gay. We have our own spiritual path to follow, no matter who decided we weren’t worthy. Take the time to read this and move through the 365 daily discoveries toward developing your own path toward the light, whatever that may be. There are no rules here! I promise you won’t be sorry!

 

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If I’m Still in Love with You, What Am I Going to Do? #ThePast #relationship #relationshipAdvice #oldMemories #creatingYourFuture

Suzi came into my office crying. I handed her a box of tissue and led her carefully to the most comfortable chair farthest away from me. Between sobs, she shared that her live-in boyfriend of one year had left her on Valentine’s Day, because he was afraid of the commitment. She didn’t know what to do, because she loved him so much. Her heart was broken, torn in two, by a dude who certainly didn’t deserve to be in Suzi’s life, let alone live with her three-year-old son. “Ah, Suzi! What were you thinking?” is all I wanted to say. Yet, I said little for another twenty minutes, while she shared the rest of the drama that led her to my couch.

What exactly is intimate love? Is it pheromones, oxytocin, soul connection, sexual attraction, or is it two people with compassion and friendship, who also have a sexual attraction? In most cases, the latter is what develops, while the other factors are the contributing enemies. But most therapist and psychologists these days are saying that Attachment Theory is the contributing factor to all intimate relationships. The only relationships that are worth keeping are the secure ones, which are in the very rare minority.

My first question to Suzi: “When you first met Joe, what attracted you most to him?”

She replied dreamily, “He had big, blue eyes and a smile that led me to his lips before the night was over.”

“So, you kissed that first night? Is that all?”

Now Suzi became shier. “Well, we went a little further than that.”

By that, I’m sure she meant the couple had had sex on the first date. This is the first sign of Anxious Attachment for Suzi, which developed from her childhood. I’m not a psychotherapist, but this kind of information stewed in my mind. My intention, as a Life Coach, was to have led Suzi to multiple, healthy choices that would change her life. But, to get to those choices, I had to understand what she faced with this apparently, Avoidantly-Attached boyfriend.

I asked her another pertinent question: “How long was it before Joe moved in?”

She answered, “He was about to sign another year lease with her apartment complex and asked me if I’d rather he just move in with me, so that we could split expenses. This was about six months into the relationship.”

“And you were comfortable with bringing a man into your son’s life and into your life after only six months of dating?”

She answered, the sobs diminishing as she spoke, “Well, I figured, if he wanted to move in with me, that meant he was committed to the relationships.”

Interesting theory. She never considered, until after this conversation, that the reason Joe wanted to move in with her was because she was a successful businesswoman. Suzi could provide for Joe, while he played music for next to nothing and conveniently lost his part-time job after the first month of living with her. Then, she let him babysit, sleep late, and watch television, while she worked. Oh, my God!

Here is the deal: Anyone can see that this story is wrong, wrong, wrong. All you have to do is get outside of the situation to see that Suzi had been used. She was too needy for a sexual and meaningful relationship and a father figure for her child to see the very real, potential dangerous circumstances. My thought, immediately, was that Joe found a more comfortable living situation with less responsibility. He probably thought having a child made him too attached to Suzi, so he bolted at the first chance he got. Suzi’s overwhelming emotions were based on situational issues from a man that never really loved her as much as her enjoyed the idea of having free sex with a hot woman who could support him and his mediocre music career without much effort on his part.

While you search for a secure, loving relationship, leave sexuality out of the equation. Sex does nothing but causes unrealistic attachment to people who are likely only there with you for the sex and for the potential for dependency. If someone is willing to get to know you—before intimacy—you probably have found a more secure individual.

Suzi kept coming for coaching for another couple months, while we sorted through her options. One thing is for certain: she needed to keep Joe out of her life and especially out of her child’s life. When, and if, she found someone who was compatible, compassionate, and loving, she needed to take her time with the relationship, and certainly, wait at least six months before she introduced her child to this perspective relationship. I helped her realize that she had two children to take care of—the one inside of her broken heart that never had secure love. And she had a very real three-year-old child who didn’t need to develop unhealthy attachments at an age when he had no choices at all. Both children needed her to be steadfast in her decision to be an adult in her next relationship, forgoing touch and intimacy until it was safe to enter in.

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Old Photos: The Story of Our Lives #nostalgia #junkthepast #memories #oldmemories #creatingyourfuture

Two dear friends are moving at the same time I am. We’ve all noticed that when we get to a drawer or a box of old photos, we press the pause button. I have spent an hour or two unpacking boxes with photos, only to keep 3-5 of them and trash the rest. The reason why I kept the ones I did was because they were of my grandmother or mother when they both were young. I like the idea of seeing them vibrant and healthy! The rest—what are we to do with all these memories—some bad, some great? My mom even had a picture of my dead grandmother in a casket! Really?

The picture of our past represent times we wanted to remember; otherwise, we wouldn’t have taken or kept the photographs in the first place. Ten to fifty years ago, remember that it wasn’t so easy to get a camera, film, and then pay for the development of a photograph. The cost was high and the sentiment deeper than today. However, as I sorted through my past by means of these pictures, I realized that the more I held on to old memories, the less room I had for new and wonderful memories.

An old hypnosis “walk-down” exists that really tells this story: The hypnotist gets the client very relaxed and takes him/her into a hallway of doors. When the client walks down the hallway, he or she begins as a young person, as early as he/she can remember. Then, the hypnotist invites the client to imagine holding a basket. As the client begins down the hallway, he or she is to imagine that it is the pathway of life. As in life, you meet many people as you grow older: friends, old teachers, enemies, family, abusers, and lovers. Each memory comes out of a door as a person from your past and hands you something that represents who they were to you, as he or she places an object in your basket. By the time you get to the present moment, your basket is so heavy that you can’t hold it any longer—with good and bad icons from the past. At the end of the hallway of door, you get to an golden, light-filled archway that has a wide gap between you and a blissful place. To get to this heavenly paradigm of peace and joy, you must take a large leap. If you don’t put down the basket, you will never make it to the new place. The story is: Can you lay down all of the past—the good and the past to see exactly who you are without this heavy mantel draped over you? Can you live without all that has shaped you and trust that you have kept what you need in your soul to take this huge leap into a new day?

I love this metaphoric trip and have been sorting out the very things that keep me from experiencing all that I can be today and tomorrow. Forget about the past and how it has weighed you down for so long. The past has never served you. Even its lessons are here with you in the present. The lessons don’t linger with the memory of the old. Our present thought has been forged by the past. This would be as if you brought a drill, a hammer, and chiseling tools to the next art exhibit of your beautiful sculpture. We don’t need to see the tools to experience the beauty that the past has carved into your life!

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Cath Labs, Cute ER Doctors, & Sympathy Pain #relationshipadvice #compassion #falsealarm #sympatheticpain #heartattacks

Three years ago, my mother had been complaining about pain in her arm, she felt dizzy most days, and her energy level had been depleting on a consistent basis. Of course, I booked an immediate doctor’s appointment and got her checked out. At first, her problem appeared to be her carotid artery. So, no emergency there. But, when she had a heart work-up, it appeared she needed a stent or two, because she had blockages in a couple of her arteries, and stents are small mesh tubes that are used to treat narrow or weak arteries, which move blood from the heart.

As I scheduled the appointment, went diligently through the motions of getting to the hospital catheterization lab, early in the morning, for all the tests that would prepare her for the stent operation; I, then, went through the grueling process of waiting. My oldest sister, my mom’s best friend and I were at the helm, getting coffees, taking rotations to the bathroom, and to the cafeteria. Three hours later, the family was called to the hallway to have a meeting with Mom’s heart specialist. He told us that Mom’s blockage was way to bad for a stent, and she had to have an emergency triple bypass. Only one of us would get to talk with her before she was given anesthesia. I was chosen.

When a parent, close relative, child, or friend is in a life-threatening situation, the worst goes through your mind. I wondered if my mother would make it out of this operation alive. Had I been a compassionate son? What was the last thing I had said to her, when she complained over and over about the same aches and pains? Did I make it to the batter’s plate, time and time again, when God called me to be a good son? Many pertinent questions filled my mind as I wandered the winding halls of the basement laboratories to find my mother in a tiny, curtain-drawn cube, alone and scared.

I couldn’t grab her fast enough and hold her tightly, while we both cried. She was in shock. Though I, also, was in shock, I told her she would be fine and that I would be the last face she would see before the operation and the first she would see afterward. My mom and I have a very close bond, albeit somewhat codependent relationship. No one in the world loves me more and is prouder of me than her. I can count on that love daily. So, losing her would be a heartbreak, for sure.

Hours past, before we heard that she was okay and in recovery. All who were close, spent the next few days taking turns in the hospital, making sure she never had to make a decision alone after what she had gone through. When she returned home, she recovered quickly. In fact, I’ had never seen anyone go through bypass surgery with such ease. She was on a treadmill the day after the operation and out of the hospital door in two more days. When I had to give her a shower, her scar frightened me more than leaving her alone to wash the places of her body I couldn’t and wouldn’t want to reach.

Two days after her return home, I began to have pains in my chest. I couldn’t catch my breath. Suddenly, I was afraid I was having the very same heart problems my mother had just had. Of course, I told no one—especially her. I simply went to an emergency doctor’s appointment and got my sister to take care of my mom. After ten minutes in the doctor’s office and an echo cardio test of my heart, the physician announced, “Don’t be frightened, but I think you’re having a heart attack! A gurney will be here in two minutes and you’ll be wheeled to the emergency room for more tests. Thanks for visiting us!”

After eight long hours on a hard bed, back and forth to the Cath lab, tons of cute doctors and nurses checking me out, and me checking them out, I was diagnosed with GAS! You heard it right. Twenty thousand dollars later, I had gas. Since I hadn’t eaten in eight hours, I didn’t even have gas anymore. What I did have was frustration, anger, and a very hungry stomach, and possibly, some relief.

So, what did I learn from this situation? Sometimes, when you are so compassionate to someone whom you love, dealing with a stressful situation, or not taking care of yourself because of the aforementioned, you can end up having sympathetic pains, compassionate heart attack symptoms, and, you guessed it—gas!

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This Book is a guide to spiritual discovery. It has 365 daily discoveries that will lead you to your own personal connection with the divine. The first chapter is all about the seven step of change. Thereafter, I give you stories about my personal spiritual growth or a client’s situation to teach how to garner your personal power!

 

 

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Reality Check: On Death and Dying #death #grievingloss #loss #dying

One of my favorite quotes is from a book called, What Happy People Know by Dan Baker. “Every moment that’s ever been, or ever will be, is gone the instant it’s begun. So life is loss. And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.” Notice Dr. Baker doesn’t say, “But the secret of happiness…” He says, “And the secret of happiness is…”

Dr. Baker knows, with certainty, that death for anyone or anything (relationships, work, friendships) is eminent, because life changes in an instant, and every relationship is on a trajectory toward death. So, someone has to die in a relationship eventually. You must retire. Someone must move away. Our deepest love falls apart. This is reality; it’s not pessimism. When you truly get this truth, your entire life will change.

Life begins when you accept that death is imminent, because you immediately realize the gift you have been given in each relationship (even your relationship to work or a hobby). Conversely, with this realization, you may decide that a certain relationship or friendship or work situation is taking too much of your energy and isn’t worth holding on to. Either way, when you realize you have only a certain amount of time on earth, you lose fear and become bolder in your choices. You stand up for what you believe. You recognize the gifts that are directly in front of you. In other words, you take hold of your power IN THE NOW!

Personally, this fact has been clearly hitting me in my face this past month as I prepare to move forward to a new home in a different state. Friendships I thought were dead have found life. Friendships I wish were dead have found renewed vengeance. I have learned that the only thing that has the capacity to change is my point of view about all of it. In the face of a friend trying to ruin a poignant dinner with buddies because she doesn’t think she should move on from the past, has only cleared away the dross for those who want to stay true friends. Clients who left my life because they were afraid of change must learn to deal with their own losses without me. The new relationships with my sisters and mother must change, as Mom learns to lean on her daughters instead of always looking to me to be a life raft.

I get it! Life is—and always has been—about change! It is inevitable and imminent. We grieve our losses, because they are reality, and parents pass away eventually. But, the gift in this harsh reality is that Spirit is always making room for something new and wonderful.

Are you ready to accept this truth and live in the Now? This should be the question we ask ourselves everyday to stay completely present.

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Papa’s Got a Brand New Car: Living Your Dream! #prosperity #prosperityconsciousness #moneyproblems #jamesbrown

“Papa’s Got a Brand New Bag” was a song written and recorded by James Brown. It was his first song to hit Billboard charts and, also, won him his first Grammy Award. Right now in my own consciousness, I’m just about ready to embark on a brand new everything, as I’m moving to Florida in a month. My house is sold. Most of things are packed, and I have sold or given away everything that I haven’t used in the past two years, anything that has a bad memory attached to it, and especially those items that were attained during a relationship that no longer exists. What exactly have I done to produce “prosperity consciousness”?

Everything you need to know about creating prosperity in your life can be contained in one small aphorism: “If your vessel is full, nothing more can fit in it. If it is emptied, the universe has the opportunity to fill it with something new and wonderful!”

To explain further, if you fill your life with hassles, personal issues, problems, complaining, and old behavior; where will there be room for your brand new life? As I was moving through every item in my house, meticulously, before I packed it; I had one box to my left for things that I would give away and one box to my right for things to throw away. In other words, I didn’t even want to take some of these memories and give them to a friend or even the Salvation Army. This was how toxic these items were to me.

My mother saw me moving through some of my jewelry in this process. I had 3—yes 3—wedding rings still in my top drawer. As I threw them in the garbage can, she went a diving in! I told her, “Mom, don’t take those things back after I threw them away!”

She said, “But they are worth money!”

I responded (and what I said really spoke to my own heart): “Are they really worth anything to either of us, if they hold bad memories and heartache?” She agreed and dropped the diamond studded necklace that one partner gave me into my throw-away bag. I felt empowered when I saw the big green garbage truck drive away with all of my junky memories. More importantly, now, I have room for all the newness and power God has sent angels ahead to prepare for me. My consciousness keeps getting more and more open for this wonderful new experience.

I got frustrated because my home didn’t sell immediately and I had to spend so much time alone in a house that usually had people in it all the time. Now, I understand that the reason was because I had to grieve my losses, challenge myself to understand the new needs of my heart, and most importantly, rid my life of the past, so that the future could be new and bold! Where in your life are you holding on to things that keep your prosperity from flowing?

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[Chosen to show his new hypno-therapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and Given the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian, the writer and director ofFinding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior, helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Challenge yourself with one of his 13 books, healing CDs (weight loss, meditation, smoke cessation and more) or his Yoga DVD on Amazon or Amazon/Kindle: Click here to go directly to Amazon.]