Month: November 2012

Like a Dog Returning to His Vomit

hLike a Dog Returning to His Vomit

There is no stronger picture a bible scripture can bring to mind than “As a dog goes back to its vomit, [so] a fool repeats his stupidity.” Proverbs 26:11.

It’s an easy scripture to recall once you’ve heard it. I guarantee it will stick in your craw for a long time, if you really imagine it.  Next time you decide to go back to an old fling or an old habit, just think—VOMIT!

It stops me every time.

Well, I’d like to think it stopped me every time. The truth is we all go back to our old habits once in a while even though we know that the habit will probably prove to us, once again, that we had made the correct decision the first time we left. You have got to wonder about humans and our desire to make wrong decisions over and over again. Isn’t that the definition of insanity?

Many people come to me because they can’t stop thinking of a lover or partner who is no longer in his/her life. I ask the reason. Usually it is something awful like, he hit me, or she couldn’t keep her pants up, or he was emotionally unavailable. But yet, this person can’t seem to stop loving the emotionally unavailable, abuser and adulterer. I literally have to do a mass brain clean up on them to get their minds to stop going back to what wounded them.

A hypnotist really can’t stop you from remembering somebody. But a good one can keep you remembering the reason why that person isn’t in your life. The problem is with the human mind is that we only want to remember the good times. The bad times we like to erase rather quickly.

Would a mother honestly want to give birth more than once if she actually remembered the pain of childbirth? Maybe not. Could we get through life if we remembered all of the painful things in our lives as if they just happened?

I don’t think so. I think we are hardwired to forget bad and remember good. And this is a good thing for all of us.

But what you have to do is give yourself a trigger to remember the bad thing that happened with an old boyfriend or lover or work situation…

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Angry Rumor

There is nothing that can ruin a day more than a lie that has been told about you. If you’re anything like me, you feel helpless and hurt. Then the next thing you feel is betrayal. But the worst thing you feel is: How many people will actually believe the lie?

As I watch the elections and the endless ads about what he and she said and did, you have to know that most of these candidates are writhing in pain about what to do to clear their names, if their innocent. If they aren’t innocent, I’m sure they’re doing the same thing, but spinning for a very different reason.

I remember a time when I sold a business to a friend—a best friend. I thought I had nothing to worry about, because, by God, I was her child’s Godfather. We were tight as thieves. But, long story short, things didn’t happen the way I thought, and business promises were not kept. So, instead of just dissolving the business kindly, she hired a lawyer and kept all of my equipment and a very expensive electric piano. Then proceeded to tell every one of my dearest friends and the pastors of my church lies about me that I couldn’t prove wrong, because I had no paperwork to prove what we had promised in our agreement.

What to do? I made some stupid choices at first, rash at best. But when my heart settled to try and understand, I thought the best choice for me would be to try and get her to come to the table with me and discuss what happened, perhaps, with the ministers of the church, since she got them involved.

But she told them she wouldn’t talk to me. And, in fact, every time a dear friend came to me and asked me about the situation, I would say very much the same thing, “I’d love to discuss it all with her and get it worked out. See if you can get her to talk with me about it with you.” But time after time, she would never come to the table.

Eventually, my friends all figured…

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Flooding and Devastation: Where Is God?

I remember when the flood hit Nashville, how absolutely numb we all felt. One of us was hit and our neighbor was safe. It seemed as if the storm was considerate to some and to others hateful. But that is the storm. Is it God?

Are we to believe that because God created the world, God is also in charge of everything that goes wrong with it? Is God in charge of your decisions and mine? Is God in control of who wins the presidential race? Just how much of this world are we willing to blame on what we call God?

Good questions. That is an age-old argument called Free Will, which goes as far back as religion. Here are some thoughts I collected from the Internet, mostly Wikipedia.

“The argument from free will (also called the paradox of free will, or theological fatalism) contends that omniscience and free will are incompatible, and that any conception of God that incorporates both properties is, therefore, inherently contradictory.The argument may focus on the incoherence of people having free will, or else God himself having free will. These arguments are deeply concerned with the implications of predestination, and often seem to echo the standard argument against free will.

People and Their Free Will

If God made the game, its rules, and the players, then how can any player be free? Some arguments against God focus on the supposed incoherence of humankind possessing free will. These arguments are deeply concerned with the implications of predestination. Moses Maimonides formulated an argument regarding a person‘s free will, in traditional terms of good and evil actions, as follows:

… “Does God know or does He not know that a certain individual will be good or bad? If thou sayest ‘He knows’, then it necessarily follows that [that] man is compelled to act as God knew beforehand he would act, otherwise God’s knowledge would be imperfect.…”

Various means of reconciling God’s omniscience (possession of all possible knowledge) with human free will have been proposed:

Counters reconceptualizing free will

  • God can know in advance what I will do, because free will is to be understood only as freedom from coercion, and anything further is an illusion…

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