Month: November 2012

The Windows of My Soul

In the morning when I get up, one of the first things I do is open the blinds to let the sun in. The morning glow of the sun brightens my day and wakes up my soul. The sun reminds me that a new day begins now and a new chance to make a difference in the world starts when I do.

Did you know that your soul also has a window?

Let’s define the soul here as the ephemeral heart of human body. When our heart is open, it lets in a myriad of energies around it in. Your heart can draw in peace from a lovely garden, tension from work, romance from a loving spouse, or the opposite—friction from an unloving relationship.

So, whether or not we open the blinds to our heart often depends on what’s around us. I mean, we don’t want to let the drug-induced rage-filled neighbor into our heart before our day gets started. That would be the worst decision ever. Then we would be bogged down with their energy and never get a real start with our own God-centered energy.

What we have to learn to do is open and close the blinds of our hearts in situations that protect us from harm. The metaphor is similar to someone knocking at your door. You don’t let everyone who knocks at your door into your house.

You sometimes look through the peephole and pretend you’re not even home. Other times, you open the door and simply say, “I’m not interested.” Then, of course, there are times when you are not sure if the little girl from down the street selling Girl Scout Cookies is worthy of coming too far in because the farther she comes into the foyer the more you may get bilked into buying a dozen boxes of Savannah Smiles.

But the worst case scenario is the annoying mother or friend or sister who shows up unannounced and barges in without an invitation….

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Aftermath

The AfterMath

I wondered what Aftermath meant. The word actually means new grass growing after a harvest. But its alternative meaning is much more negative: The consequences of a significant, unpleasant event.

The reason I was even thinking about aftermath was because a great many people will be coming home after dysfunctional family gatherings today or this weekend. The aftermath is an interesting perspective to take after such an event.

Let’s start with expectations. Did we go into this event hoping that it would somehow be different than the rest of the holidays we encountered with our families? If so, why?

When it didn’t turn out any different, how exactly did you feel about that?

Did you make any commitments to never meet again? Because truly the only way out of dysfunction is to release yourself from your involvement in it, no matter if it’s family or not.

I, personally, spent my holiday watching an entire family that wasn’t mine. I did so, most of the time in silence, because I wanted to see how behavior unfolded, and I didn’t want to be a catalyst for any new behavior.

I noticed this: Most people want to be happy. They want family gatherings to work out. They plan them to work out. But you get ten people in a room together with different ideas about what “working out” means, and suddenly the dynamic changes.

Perhaps, one or two of the people are actually in therapy. They are discovering what it is to be individuals with ideas completely independent of their family. So, when one of these siblings or parents interrupts the conversation with something foreign, all the rest rebels. What of this?

Well, rebellion is the beginning of change, if you want to stay in the fight and help change happen for the good. But fighting isn’t a good course to make anything happen. My thoughts on this are: If someone says something that ruffles your feathers, you simply respond with a strong, independent, retort that shows you have better boundaries than ever. Let’s take an example.

Mary has been working on her issues with her mother in counseling or life coaching. She was the firstborn and has always been treated differently than the rest of the siblings. Mom simply tromps right over her and expects her to be kind in return. So, Mom says something like this at dinner, “Mary, are you sure you should be feeding your kids all those carbs? You remember how hard it is to get rid of that extra weight.”

Mary says, …

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Thankfulness and Regret

Thankfulness and Regret

We hear so many stories around holidays about family issues and gatherings gone awry from siblings and parents forcibly getting together on that same holiday occasion, because no one really gets along, no one really knows each other, and families tend to make less of an effort to become authentic toward each other. What exactly does that make us thankful for?

Well, it makes me thankful for the family who does take time to be authentic and even more thankful for the friends who step up as surrogate family members and grow closer and more intimate with each passing day.

Usually on holidays, I make it a point to invite friends who don’t have a place to go for dinner to my home. This intimacy is the finest way to spend a holy day. We should celebrate with those who matter most to us. We should honor the people who take time to give daily, weekly, monthly to our lives in fulfilling and tender ways.

So, can we be thankful if we have never experienced the regret of having someone in our lives who we are not so thankful for? I wonder. I believe it is not possible to truly experience and understand good without knowing bad. True thankfulness is born of this juxtaposition. Even if as a voyeur you experience what could be by spending the day with homeless, you get the picture of true thankfulness. But if one never finds the opposing feeling to thankfulness, he or she has lost the most important lesson in life.

My dear friends of “Blog to Grow for Spirit,” I am so happy to announce that for this Holiday season I am offering two special editions of Inspirational Books: IN SEARCH OF A MORE AUTHENTIC YOU, Book 1 and Book 2. Each book has 100 readings from my spiritual and inspirational writings.

 

If you have someone you’ve been wanting to share my blog with, I’d recommend getting a copy for this special person this season. I am only offering this book in Kindle or PDF platform this season. But if you want to get it, print it out, and give it to someone you love, you are certainly welcome to do that.

The cost for each book is only $3.99.  You can’t beat that for a Christmas bargain. All you have to do is send me an email at bosebastian5@gmail.com and I will send you the book via email as an attachment. You can pay for the book by Paypal (bosebastian5@me.com), Credit Card [by providing info in the email or by phone (615) 400-2334], or by sending a check to:

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Many thanks to you for supporting me and my work: To Grow For Spirit.

Bo Sebastian, CHT

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and LifeCoach, available for private sessions to Quit Smoking, Lose Weight with the new Lap Band-Hypnosis, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334.

 

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