Month: January 2013

Declaration of Principle

Today at church, while I was reciting our ministry’s declaration of principle, I thought I really need to create a declaration of principle for my own life. What exactly am I about and what am I declaring with my own existence? Don’t I need to have that memorized in my subconscious mind and be executing it in every deed and action that I do daily?

I know that in business and in churches it is a great idea to create a declaration of principle and a mission statement that is precise and effective, not only for everyone in the corporation and business to get on the same page, but also to distill your brand and your ideas into concise thoughts and ideas, so your community can begin to live and work with unity toward your corporate goals each day.

So, I thought that I would share some thoughts about everyone who is reading today this doing a declaration of principle together. What thoughts would we want to be in our declaration?

1. What kind of person I am?
2. My vision of my personal development
3. What I do by trade?
4. What is my passion?
5. And most importantly, how will I use all of what I am to effectively be a mover and a creator in the world?

So, my statement might read:

I am a strong, passionate, and authentic man who is not afraid to be sensitive and honest. I am by trade a Life Coach and Clinical Hypnotherapist, I teach my own version of yoga called Boga Fitness, I’ve written twelve books, I’m a vocal coach and a vegetarian chef. I am a piano player, a singer and speaker. And, most importantly I believe I’ve been put on this earth to help people find their personal paths to authentic change.

This statement might be something that I print out and add to my vision board or place on my bureau mirror to remind me daily of what I stand for and what I want to reflect each day to those I work with and my friends and family.

We need reminders of who we are everyday. So many factors affect us daily that can change our disposition from a calm and peace warrior being a crystal in the chaos, to suddenly being an angry child recreating an old behavior from our past. I need to be reminded of whom God see me as. I need to be reminded that I am not just a human being, but I am a spirit in a human body playing out my truth—daily.

So, developing a way to communicate this truth to myself every day is a great way to challenge myself to be a bigger and better human being.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

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Fire and Ice

When you think of these two elements, you see two diametrically opposed temperatures and consistencies. Yet, have you ever placed a piece of freshly frozen ice on a part of your body and let it stay there for a moment? It burns like fire. It will leave a welt on your skin like a burn. And yet it is an element that is completely different in nature and in texture.

In my years of being a Life Coach and Clinical Hypnotherapist, I have seen many kinds of relationships; friendships, parental relationships, sibling relationships, spousal relationships, dating relationships, bump-in-the-night relationships. All of them have the tendency to move from fire toward ice. Fiery at the beginning, when all is new and wonderful, then icy when things get stale and communication is lost.

The easiest relationship to assess is the one that happens the most: the stale relationship. So many people stay in relationship for reasons they never expect to: she’s a good woman, he’s a good father, he’s a good provider, the dogs, the cats, the home, the communal responsibilities, the children… All these may be good reasons to keep someone in your life, but are they good reasons to not have an essential part of what you need in life? Intimacy, closeness, touch, delight, the ability to communicate without fear—fire!

I’m venturing out on a pathway that is not new for me. It is way old. Dating again. Blah blah blah. How hard can it be to find someone to share your life with? The truth: really hard. Especially when you get older and wiser and find truths that can’t be denied for you, and you can’t imagine spending a life with a person not sharing your treasured knowledge.

This path for me has been more about a scientific research lab sorting through data and trying to find the least likely subject to leave, abandon, and more likely to stay connected, communicate and ultimately be dedicated to being a good partner for the long haul—securely attached.

I find myself having conversations with new prospective people about what their idea of relationship is. Where they see themselves in ten years. Why there other relationships didn’t work and what they learned from them. Very matter of fact and honest conversations and cause some men to run and others to look at me and say, “I’ve never met a man like you.”

The latter, of course, are the ones I want to take notice.

Then there is the attractive issue. Can I find all this in a man and also find someone I am flipping crazy mad about physically. Because I just don’t want to be in a relationship where I have to fake anything.

Well, it turns out that when the day is over, the only thing I can really do is trust that the same God that provides for me daily in unlimited ways is also going to provide this kind of love and relationship when it is the perfect time. I believe I’m ready. But only God knows.

I’ll keep doing the work on myself. And you should too. Keep getting closer to knowing what makes you on fire with passion. Keep clearing away the dross—because fire does that—and knowing what no longer serves your life and your current dreams. And if you’re already in a relationship, don’t be afraid to dream bigger than your own front yard.

It has been cold out the last few days. We know what icy feels like. Wouldn’t you rather be living near a beautiful fire than spending your life stuck in a cold place with no one to talk to? Let’s all dream bigger.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

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Basic Understanding

When it comes to true understanding, there is no one more compassionate than a mother-type. I say mother-type, because some mothers are not motherly at all. But a true example of love is a small child nested at his/her mother’s chest in perfect harmony. That love transcends time and seems to continue no matter how old the child gets.

I heard a very interesting story about a child who didn’t get the love of a mother, because the mother died in a car accident when the child was one. The young girl who died came from an abusive home. Six months before she died, she discovered she had a stepbrother who became instantly bonded with her. When the young girl died, the stepbrother took the child to raise when he was only eighteen years old.

He told me that he felt compelled to give the child a better life than his, better than his stepsister’s. So, he went to college, had his mother babysit when he was at work or at school, and together they raised the child, until his mother passed away. But there was a small glitch in the process.

When the child was five years old, the young man came home to find the baby girl had been whisked away by her grandparents. Because the young man had never legally adopted the child and because it was long enough ago that Internet wasn’t available, he couldn’t find a lawyer who would take the case, or couldn’t track down the grandparents on his own.

Eventually, someone slipped up and the grandparent’s whereabouts were discovered. The young man was afforded the legal aid that helped him regain total custody of the child. He raised her until she is now an adult and is 25 years old.

She is engaged. So, basically, this man is the only mother-type this young woman knows. In talking to him, I could tell that he held within his heart the basic instinct of a mother. Locked inside him were the maternal and paternal caring features that make his bond so very touching and special and his story good enough to become a book some day, as he has an agent and some perspective publishers interested.

What a wonderful human-interest story. For me, it was way more about how God brought my friend into his stepsister’s life right before she died to care for the child. God knew that he would be the perfect person to raise her. But even so, raising the child wouldn’t go without its obstacles, even if it were meant to be.

Sometimes, we look at life as if it is supposed to have this perfect, unwavering road that leads to our destinies. When we truly never find real happiness or the perfect path to joy and purpose unless we take roads that we would never have expected to take that are covered over with rocks, poison ivy, and jagged glass.

These are the times and adventures we remember the most in life. These are the true passionate moments of our lives when we truly lived every millisecond to the fullest with every cell in our bodies.

Basic Understanding of living life to the fullest takes a true knowledge of understanding how to be in the perfect Now and how to provide all your presence of spirit and mind to that moment perfectly and without hesitation. That, my friend, takes practice.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

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