Month: January 2013

A Newer Normal

Today I was at Vanderbilt Hospital in the waiting room of the Urgent Care Center with my mother. At two operational intake desks on each side of the room, sat four women, three African Americans and one Caucasian. The only other people in the waiting room were three men who were boldly talking about racism and their ugly point of view about white supremacy and how President Obama is evil.

My mother, who was the one waiting to see the doctor, turned around without even thinking and said in a disgusted tone, “Why don’t you keep your opinions to yourself?” After which, I stood up and made sure they knew we meant business. I went over to one of the ladies at the at the reception desk and said, “Will I get in trouble if I tell that loud redneck to take his conversation outside, because this is a public place?”

She answered, “No. And I would certainly appreciate it,” as I know she wasn’t allowed to speak up because of hospital policy.

Honestly, I was aghast at the behavior of these men—so brazen and proud of their disgusting prejudice. You’d have to wonder what kind of normal they had been bred from.

Then there was my mother, a person who had been brought up to believe that “negroes should be slaves” and that they were unclean by virtue of their color. I know this because the first time I befriended a “colored girl” I was told that she was not to come into the house. In fact, I remember inviting her to my sixth grade birthday party. Only about four of the twenty young friends showed up to my “outside cookout.” I was too young to realize it was because of prejudice. I never understood. I couldn’t see color then. I can’t really see color now.

So, you have to wonder about people in general. Can we truly blame their upbringing for what they believe? I was raised in a very prejudiced home. My mother was raised until she was probably 35 to believe African Americans were less than white folks. But an open and compassionate heart learns to love and accept when given a chance. Right? Mom and I did.

When people are prejudiced against gay or GLBT people, they have an opportunity to learn from their experience every time to be more compassionate and loving, despite their religious belief or cultural background. I have some friends that in their country being gay could get them killed. Yet, the freedom here in America to love has given them the compassion to open their hearts to something new and wonderful—the power to choose between law and love.

I don’t know about you, but I am looking forward to the day the Supreme Court is faced with the decision of allowing gays the same rights as the rest of society. Isn’t it time? How long can you hold back equal rights from millions of Americans—people you interact with every day… These same people are your hairdressers, your ballet teachers, your singing coaches, your acting coaches, your bankers, your lawyers, your school teachers, your artists. We are in every part of the subculture of the United States, paying taxes and primarily living the same life as straight people (except for a little more stylishly, you have to admit). What doesn’t afford us the equal rights of an American? That is the true question?

When the answer comes down from the Supreme Court, we will see where the country is in accepting change and compassion for all human beings, not just GLBT people. This is not just a gay matter. We have been fighting this battle since African Americans were freed from slavery and since women wanted to vote. Freedom and the ability for the country to change from its staunch old-granddaddy laws from the 1900s is NOW.
We have to voice it.
We have to change it.
We have to shout it out loud!

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

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Diabetes, Sugar, Heart Attacks, and Obesity

My mother had a real scare recently when she went to see her podiatrist about a toe injury. The physician told her that he could barely hear the pulse in her feet because the neuropathy had gotten so bad from her diabetes.

Well, the only way neuropathy can worsen is when your diabetes is not under control. My mother knew that she had been eating poorly for quite sometime, especially over the holidays with her sugars raging in the high 300s and 400s sometimes. This news rather scared her into a formulaic change in her eating and exercise behavior. Although it was a potent dose of bad news, it seemed to be the only way to stop her bad choices. She has lost 8 pounds in the past 3 weeks. She and I have lost the same amount of weight.

I see this kind of news happen over and over again in people who come to me for help. They try and try on their own. They seem not to have the will to stop doing whatever it is that have to curtail, until some kind of terrible warning signal from their bodies presents itself. Why is this so?

You know when you see an active teenager eating pizza for dinner almost every night what goes through your mind: he or she will definitely come to the day when that pizza will become fat and that kind of behavior will no longer work? Why doesn’t this message stay clear in our heads when we try to manifest the same kind of poor behavior? We see our tummies bulging. We feel our stomachs protruding. We know are clothes are fitting. Yet, we continue to swallow the wrong food daily and don’t make time to exercise or take care of ourselves.

This is the time to wake up from the dream. We aren’t twenty anymore. And it has come to our attention that even our youngsters are not able to take the burden of poor diets anymore.

There are children who eat poorly and gain weight from a young age even though they are active. They just eat the wrong food, not enough vegetable—primarily because they don’t like them and their parents don’t force them to eat anything with vegetables in it—and then also they probably don’t get enough protein to compliment the high portions of simple carbohydrates. This will make for an overweight child every time.

I have a dear friend who has a problem child who will only eat pasta and potatoes. The child is beautiful and lovely, but is ten and already overweight for her age. The mother is distraught, because no matter what she tries, she can’t get her daughter to eat anything but pasta and potatoes. I believe the friend told me her daughter watched a movie about how meat was made. After the move, the daughter never touched meat again. That was after she decided vegetables were too green and beans were too slimy. I think the only thing the girl likes on her pasta is butter. She won’t even eat tomato sauce. She does, however, eat fruit, which isn’t going to help the girl’s glycemic index at all. But eating fruit will help give the daughter some much needed vitamins.

I have worked with children like this. You have to do a lot of hiding food in things to make kids eat vegetables. One thing I taught this friend to do is to mash cauliflower instead of mash potatoes and see if the daughter noticed the difference. She didn’t. I told her to make potato soup and use a broth that had a purée of chicken and celery and diced shallots. So, the potatoes are visible, but the meat and vegetables weren’t. In fact, puréeing is a great option for the pasta eater as well. She could make a light butter sauce with a pureed mixture of a couple light colored vegetables (not too many) and some steamed turkey or chicken, then cover the pasta with it.

The truth is, if you have to get creative when it comes to getting good food in a child. And when it comes to getting good food into your self, you have to be down right dogmatic. You tell yourself: Do this or you’re going to die early, get fat, and or get adult onset diabetes, which will produce heart problems, high blood pressure, and a myriad of other organ problems, not to mention self-esteem issues and depression.

So, let’s make a plan this New Years to start off healthy and stay healthy. If you need help with a good plan and need some motivation, I know of a great hypnotherapist who can get you on the right path.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

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What We Think About, We Bring About

Our consciousness is constantly taking on burdens from our day-to-day life. We affix our minds on finance, families, jobs, relationships, body images, computers, social apps. You name it. It’s there for the shaping of our supple minds. Whatever time we feed to the large majority of our minds, that energy goes to shaping and molding our external lives.

If you are a workaholic, you are bound up by the idea that you will not have enough when you retire. You may spend nights and days thinking about work and what you might do to make life easier when you retire. This may cause you to have high blood pressure, a weak heart, and ultimately never live to see the money that you have put away for yourself.

If your mind is affixed on computers night and day, you will spend your time in a two-dimensional world that never goes beyond you and your computer screen or your phone screen. Computer addiction is the number one addiction these days. If you are spending three and four hours in front of your computer, playing games and talking to people on-line, you need to start thinking about the time you are losing in the real world. The sunsets you miss. The happy faces you don’t get to see. The dinners you forget to cook for yourself and your family because your on-line chat with your fantasy-baseball pal has taken over your world.

Think about how you could be shaping your world with the use of your creative mind. If what I say is true about the mind holding the key to bringing about your world, then you hold the keys to reshaping and recreating everything in your life now. What is keeping you from dreaming about the future in a new way? Desimate the blocks to the new you and surge forward, my friend.

You can use the computer, your work, your family, and your current relationship situations as a building block to restructure your life in new and wonderful ways. But, you have to be the person making the blue prints for your life. You can’t expect that your life is going to change when all you do is answer to a boss all your life. Subordinates don’t change the world. Answering to someone may be how you need to learn your lesson today, but today is not permanence. Recreate your world with new ideas and become your own boss.

There is a theory that every day in the ethers that creative thought has a myriad of new ideas just waiting to be dispensed to the world. But people lack the patience to wait in the silence for the ideas to develop in their creative minds from Spirit. There is a song we used to sing in church: “In the silence there is a secret place, a secret meeting place… God is there!”

The mind is not only a place where creative thought occurs, it is also the house of subconscious thoughts or dreams. Some of these dreams can be developed and some are meant to be read or interpreted.

From the age of six till eight I had a recurring dream that I was taken by a witch from my bed, flatten like a piece of cardboard so that I would fit under my parent’s bedroom door then under their bed, then I would sit by a witch’s caldron while she would decide how to operate on me. This dream occurred almost every night, no matter how hard I tried to change my mind about.

Later in life, I would have a dream that I was in a play or a musical. I was cast as the understudy and didn’t know the role very well before I was thrown on stage in front of a live audience to perform. I was paralyzed in my dream, over and over.

After college and well into my twenties, I would have a dream that would come often and still recurs to this day every once in a while. I am in high school and I have to get to my next class. But I can’t remember my locker combination.

Of course, all of these dreams are subconscious thoughts that can’t be controlled that are actually signs that can lead to helping the consciousness recover memory or heal from loss, or even gain direction for the future. In each case, when I discovered what the dream was trying to tell me, I was able to move on.

The dream about the locker combination is always about being confused about something that requires memory of something in the past. It usually was that I was forgetting something in the past that would keep me from hurting myself.

The dream about the stage is also very simple. Whenever this dream appears, I don’t feel prepared for whatever life is handing me at the moment. So, I simply take steps to prepare myself, or take a step backward from whatever I’m moving forward toward.

The youngest dream is the most confusing of the dreams. I believe it had to do with searching for a higher power—something that would protect me from what was going on in my very unstable family life, as my parents were moving toward a divorce.

The human brain is amazing in its ability to create. We were given it as a tool. We were not given it to be ruled by or to be controlled by or for it to manipulate our bodies and lives into robots destined for destruction.

Try meditation sometime soon. Learn the art of becoming the compassionate observer of your own humanness. You will never learn anything more important in your entire life. Your human brain is a function tool to be used by you as spirit every day to create good and manifest the best for your life and those around you.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

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