Month: June 2013

Are You Really Asking for What You Want?

I asked a client this question: What do you really see yourself doing in a couple years?

He said, “Well, I’m not sure. What I would love to do and what I want to do are two different things.”

Talk about an ambivalent mind. If you don’t know what you want and desire it in your heart 95%, don’t expect to see it expressed in your life. Now, I’m not holding your belief in yourself completely responsible for who and what you become. But as you can see, I’m holding you 95% responsible.

What you are in mind expresses in kind!

What you believe about yourself and about your life will express itself one way or another. One negative thought about yourself will exponentially empower itself and leave you in a negative place for a long time.

There is also that 5% of just human life that happens, and we have little to no control over it.

My lawnmower broke this morning on the week that my sisters are coming into town. Allen and I are staying at his house while my sisters and children are going to stay here in my room and in the spare bedroom to save money. We went to Allen’s last night and the air conditioning was broken. Well, there is absolutely nothing we can do about something strange like that happening. On top of that, not one, not two, but four of my Koi fish got caught in the net that was protecting them from the gray heron. They died in the heat yesterday before I had a chance to notice. Another 260 dollars lost on fish.

I’m not sure what the Spirit is trying to tell Allen and I, but let me tell you, my ear is tuned toward heaven. I don’t want or need anything else negative to happen. I’ve prayed, we’ve prayed, let go, and now it’s God’s turn to help.

I’m not one of those spiritual advisors and clinicians who makes life entirely your responsibility. I know too well from the first three months of this year that you can be doing everything right and be directly in tbe middle of a wind tunnel that sucks your roof off, breaks your car, and all the other appliances and plumbing in your house to the tune of $23K. I was hit hard. But, I didn’t stop believing in the good that is all around me and is possible for me everyday.

In fact, I put more energy into seeing and believing in my good. I recited mantras, saw visions of gold raining down on me, and asked every spiritual friend I knew to pray “with me” as I believed for the good that God gives. (I’m not saying that occasionally I got disheartened. I did. But I tried very hard to believe the truth everyday.)

Now, you may ask, isn’t it a little bit prideful to ask for wealth and health when people are dying for no reason and poor exists all over the world?

I would have to answer a hardy NO!

You playing small in this world doesn’t help anyone. In fact, if you have money, you can help others. If you stay poor and desperate, you are the exact ones that people have to help. What kind of energy is that giving the world?

You are a child of God! Act like it.

If your mother/father in heaven has all the wealth in the kingdom, shouldn’t you be heirs to that wealth? I am not afraid to feel that. You are made in the image of God. God is perfectly healthy, is unlimited good, and is a creator. Are you playing small just so others won’t perceive you as an egotist?

I have a friend Sharon who is a CPA. Every time someone asks her what she does for a living, she says she’s an accountant. She happens to be looking for another job. She told me she doesn’t want to sound like an egotist by flaunting her accolades.

I posed this question: What if someone you are talking to has the capacity to hire a CPA and is looking for someone who has all your qualities. You may just miss the opportunity because you were afraid to say what you are. That changed her mind. I heard her yesterday introduce herself as a CPA. I smiled. I’m glad she understood what I meant.

Playing small just means you don’t see yourself as the best you can be. Don’t be afraid to have healthy ego and be all that you are. Live from a grand dream today. I’m believing it with you. I hope that you will believe in prosperity in all areas of my life with me.

Thank you, friends. And thank you, God for all that you have already given us and will continue to give us in the future.

* * *

Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

Please follow and like us:
0

Letting Go

I sat at the movies watching “Silver Linings Playlist” and suddenly my heart began to pound out of my chest. I felt as if all the doors in the theater were being locked. I was transported back to a time in my life when my father was drunkenly beating up my brother to a pulp. I lay on the top bunk for a half of the scenario. Then I jumped out of bed and ran to the neighbor’s house for help.

I watched from an observer’s perspective as my entire body seized with pain and anxiety. I had to leave the theater or I would have curled up in a ball and cried like a baby. PTSD had hit me and hit me hard.

This, however, was the first time in my life I had really been able to watch what was happening. Maybe, because I understood what was going on, the experience hit me harder than I had ever remembered. I drove home, which I don’t recommend, and called a therapist friend as I drove (another bad decision). After fifteen minutes of talking me down from the bridge, I realized I was driving in the wrong direction. I had been disoriented enough that I didn’t even know where home was. I ended up 10 minutes from Columbia, going in the complete opposite direction.

Since then, I have had a few PTSD moments. A couple of them have happened during the night. A dream sparked some terrible anxiety in me. I had to get up, do some EMDR exercises and meditate before I was able to get back to sleep.

Can you release something that your body and mind doesn’t want to let go of? This is a question I have asked myself many times. I believe that whatever anxiety or stress is holding on like glue, will someday—with clear, empowered belief and therapy—will be released.

My point in all of this is that now I am seeing what is happening as it is happening. I had never understood why I would act out of character sometimes and get cold and withdrawn. Now, I’m perfectly aware—so, aware, that I can ask my partner to help me as these emotions are surfacing.

Great relationships are wonderful when someone is compassionate enough to help you work through some deep issues. I suspect that God intended for us to work out most of our deepest relationship issues with our life partner, because he or she understands us in a way no one else does or would care to.

If you deal with this kind of stronghold, I recommend starting with some therapy. Many practitioners of all kinds exist to help people with disabling problems. Choose the modality you feel is right for you by doing Google searches and seeing what therapy best suits your problem. For me, Hypnosis and EMDR, which are very similar modalities are the most effective when it comes to PTSD. In fact, a great deal of my family therapist and social worker therapists are using hypnotic techniques to uncover deeply seated fear and anxiety with Parts Therapy, breathing exercises, and Regression techniques, specifically developed all through hypnosis.

* * *

Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

Please follow and like us:
0

June Bugs and Christmas

This morning was a combination of pain and beauty. Like June bugs, which mostly are a menace, they come with the package of June’s beautiful flowers. And like family comes with Christmas, we have to take the happy with the sad, doing our best to live a joy-filled life. I arose this morning with a little less lilt and a bit more migraine. The annoying throbbing still has not gone away. I hope I don’t have to get out the big guns. They cost—get this—$27 a pill!

The first time my doctor prescribed just three pills of Maxalt, I was a little amused. Really? I thought. Then, when three pills were $80, my sphincter squeezed so tightly, it was as if I had drawn the strings of my purse, closing it for good.

I’m fortunate to be able to go outside and see the beauty of my five gardens. This helps my brain process some of the pain, as well using some of the EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitation and Reprocessing) techniques I have learned about switching off the neuro-pathways of the brain, or at least confusing them during the time I do the exercises.

I have a dear friend who has been wrestling with joint and body pain since a very serious car accident when she was in her early twenties. She is now in her forties, I think. I have watched her slip in and out of depression over the years from all of the pain. She actually has stopped working, as well, because her body just doesn’t have any resistance any more.

When we talk, I think of the all the joy she has brought to my life, her infectious laughter, and her amazing talent—all of which pales to the friendship we have. Her pain is my pain. I know it well.

When my clients come in with pain and anxiety, it’s as if, like a gift I have been given the hardship of pain in the June of my life to understand and give compassion to the people who have come to me in the December of my life. Everything has a purpose, even pain—my pain and yours.

A technique called Gestalt Therapy can be used to literally speak to your physical or mental pain as if it were a person sitting across from you. With hypnosis, you get relaxed enough that you can easily imagine this scenario. The surprising messages that come from pain would amaze you.

When I took the therapy, I was having migraines and neck pain. As my therapist led me to talk to the pain, it said to me, “You are trying to carry too much on your shoulders. Your neck can’t bear all the weight that you carry. “

This was over fourteen years ago. My own body had been trying to tell me through aches and severe pain that I wasn’t responsible for the world and all of its problems—just the problems in my personal life. The rest I could let God take care of.

When I understood the Gestalt concept, I started to use this on my own clients. More and more surprising messages came to the surface. I finally understood that the body is constantly telling us messages with the issues it attracts. This is why, when something seemingly bad happens, I try to find the message in the problem.

I have discovered that when I find the message, the symptoms magically dissolve. If everything has a purpose—pain, too, has its reasons in life. “Understand your enemies,” the Master Jesus said, and “make peace with them.” When you realize your enemies are often the issues in your own mind and body, this will change your life.

* * *

Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

Please follow and like us:
0
Loading...
X

Enjoy this blog? Please spread the word :)