Month: October 2013

Consolation Pizza and Momma’s Food Poisoning

As I watch glimpses of television shows, while I hold up my ill mother’s head, my mind sobered with ideas that this may some day be me. I sure hope a loved one will be with me to hold my head up over the commode and wipe my sweaty brow.

I come to realize, almost every day, that human life is about security and walking the authentic path of spirit every day, much more than finding my ego dream and living it fully.

The ego dream can be nice and fulfilling, but it burns out quickly. In fact, anything I’ve ever accomplished with my ego, the minute it happened, the next moment it was over. I wondered if I grieved the moment passing more than I looked forward to the present moment.

One is never quite sure that the people around him are authentic and real when operating primarily from the ego. However, I know with absolute certainty that I am surrounded with true love and friendship. For that, I’ll be happy with the consolation prize, even if it’s the pizza that you get when you help a friend move from into a new home.

I watched a funny program tonight about an overweight girl struggling to understand her strengths. I believe the reason that the program came off as funny was because it is so real for all of us. The star wanted to prove to her self that she could sing in front of people, because at a grade school talent show she had fainted. She never gave herself the chance to overcome the ancient fear. But to her discontent, when she presently got up after an amazing singer—one of her coworkers, she fainted on stage, again.

In the ladies’ room afterward, her pack consoled her, each having had suffered the likes of bullies and egotists and prima donnas, when they were all in high school and as children. I can truly identify with that premise, as I can remember a few times when I got beaten up for just being me. Fortunately, it made me stronger. Having bullies and thugs in my past made me overcome a great deal of fear. In fact, the first career I chose was to be an actor and singer, which helped me face many performance fears daily.

For this young lawyer in the comedy, though, she decided, with the help of her buddies, that she would go back out on stage and conquer her fears. Fortunately, this final try at conquering her fear, she did get through the song and nailed the last note.

She didn’t win the big trophy. But unlike the girl who did win the prize, our lawyer protagonist went home with four friends who celebrated her accomplishment with “consolation pizza.” The winner, though, had to go home alone, which, I guess, tells the story of the ego.

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Edgar Finkelstein & Making Space for Dreams

If God gave you a dream, would you have the moxie to move forward with it, even if you didn’t understand what to do, how to accomplish it, or even have the wherewithal to begin? This is when spiritual inspiration becomes miraculous. All greatness needs is one person with a God-inspired dream to change the world.

Look at Martin Luther King. He had a dream for integration. His dream lives on because he walked forward, even when fear and forces beyond his control tried to stop him—did stop him personally. His dream, however, was God’s dream. Even his death inspired millions to keep the spiritual force of his dream moving forward all the way until today.

Often dreams start in the mind as spiritual inspiration. From there, with prayer and deliberation, these dreams start to take shape.

My latest literary idea started off as a spiritual dream to write a blog that would help people with life’s spiritual issues. Almost every time I go into meditation now, I get an idea about it. Soon after my meditation, I go to my computer and write down what I heard. I have been working for the last month on finishing all the material I need to follow up on this dream, so I can begin the process of making the vision reality. I expect it may take another four months total to finish now, because every day it seems to grow in my mind. I have a builder. I have the money. I have the inspiration. All I have to do is keep stepping forward every day into the dream to make it take shape.

I simply do what I know—write, record, market, coach, use hypnosis, and design. Almost every gift I have ever been given in life has been utilized to finish my new project. I find myself more excited about it than I have ever been. The inception of the idea, as I said, began as this blog. Now it is an 800-page book called “Finding Authentic You, 7 Steps to Effective Change” with a “Year to CLEAR” Challenge, which took me two years to write.

Every day has been an inspiration directly from God since I have heard that I was to begin this new project. The purpose and the goal of the book became completely spiritual. Most days I have had no idea what I would write when I sat down. I simply sat with space in my mind and in my life to fulfill the goal. Spirit did the rest. I had no idea what I had been composing was a book and now a new interactive website.

I try not to imagine the end results. The result is something that is up to God. I don’t want my ego to take control, as it has in other artistic endeavors. When my ego gets involved, it seems that most of my tribulation and exhausting tension comes from the end result not matching what I believed will or should happen. So, I know from past experience, much of the results of my other projects must have been ego dreams.

Ego dreams and spiritual dreams are different. If you have been inspired by spirit, you may not be in control of the end result at all. In fact, God may have a completely different idea in mind. Think of the great spiritual leaders who were led by God. Moses stuttered, but was asked to represent the nation of Israel. King Solomon was led to bring peace to the kingdom of Judea, as he kept walking forward with God’s purpose for his kingdom, writing psalms, songs, and proverbs. He had no idea that thousands of years later he would inspire billions.

With a spiritual dream, the intent is more about walking on the path while you create the goal. This is the divinity within you manifesting miraculously in the perfect present. Bless each day of hard work, because the end result is not entirely up to you. You can fuss and fret about what “should” happen at the end, but only God can define that.

Just like little Edgar Finkelstein. Edgar actually is a Mini Lop Rabbit in San Francisco that is looking to be adopted. He’s very cute—adorable, really. Someone apparently had a dream for little Edgar to have a beautiful home with a loving parent. This little bunny inspired someone to create a weird name, on-line chatter, and an amazing marketing scheme to help that perfect person find his little pet.

My dog wants to run after every rabbit and play “eat the bunny.” Fortunately, the rabbits are much faster and more attentive than Coco. Otherwise, I would be having rabbit stew a lot. I’m out of the running to be the adoptive parent of Edgar because of Coco. But that doesn’t keep me from wondering who will be the proud parent. Edgar now has endless possibility because of one person’s dream for him to have a home.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed.

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The Bounce Back Effect

You may have recently heard about the lawsuit Apple v. Samsung. One of the issues of copyright was the bounce back effect of the IPhone. Steve Jobs said it was one of his favorite features of the newest IPhone. The feature bounces you back to the top of the page when you have to scroll down a long page of text on the web.

But today we are not talking about the IPhone or Steve Jobs, though I love my Iphone and love bouncing back every time. I absolutely hate the idea of bounce back when it refers to losing weight and then bouncing back to your original weight or higher. My clients and I both hate the human nature of homeostasis.

Several days ago I started, yet, a new outlook on losing this midsection ten pounds. Recently, I told you that unless I absolutely can say without a shadow of doubt that I am 100% committed to losing this weight, not a chance it hell will it come off. This is true, because as I had lost 4 pounds as of yesterday. Today, however, I gained 2 pounds back. Why? Because, yesterday I had to take a friend to an operation. We had to wait two hours longer than expected. Then, as we drove up to the Walgreen’s drive thru, a technician announced she didn’t have the prescription in stock. So, we had to go to another Walgreens and wait twenty minutes. Because neither of us could wait any longer to eat, we stopped at a Dairy Queen.

I sincerely thought I was being good. I would get the four chicken planks and fries, not eat the fries, and get an Orange Julius, which had some vitamin C. “Oh, Bo!” Why why why? Even I see the senseless mistake that I made. Who can stand not eating some of those French Fries? I ate about 10. But still, now that I think of it, the Orange Julius probably had enough sugar in it to counteract everything, even though I ordered the smallest size and drank ¾ of it.

When we got to the drug store, Sharon insisted on buying Mint Milanos. Well, I thought, she is going to eat them. I don’t feel responsible for a friend buying comfort food. Except, I also partook in the luscious treat eating a total of six of those. As I filled my day with “things” to do and had 2 extra hours cut out of my day, I didn’t get to do my exercises, so I did a very shortened version of it.

Even with all that, I still gained about 1 ½ pounds. Even with trying, you will bounce back. Trying, I reiterate, is not enough. Had I been committed to the process, I would have started by stopping somewhere we both could have eaten a healthy lunch. There was a Japanese restaurant nearby. Then not eaten the cookies and I would have used some television time to exercise or at least bounce on my fitness ball. What I just described is commitment. What I did was “trying” to commit.

I learn yet another lesson about how to care for my weight-loss clients in my attempt to lose ten pounds. This is very similar to the idea that some smokers come up with: “Can you get me down to just one cigarette a day?” they ask.

My answer is, “Yes, I can do that. It will last for about two weeks, then you will be back to smoking a pack or more a day.”

It’s the bounce-back effect!

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com. Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

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