Month: January 2017

Bet You Didn’t Know This!

Happiness has everything to do with learning to love yourself, first, than it has to do with being concerned about what others think about you and your decisions. Contrary to this, it is only through the eyes of others we see our deepest feelings about ourselves.

Read the Quote below from Psychology Today.

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Continued from above:

From Psychology Today:

Everyone’s heard this self-help platitude:
We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This may sound wise, but it misses a great truth; if we want to experience true intimacy, we need to be taught to love aspects of ourselves–again and again–by the people around us.

As much as we want to control our own destiny, the humbling truth is that sometimes the only way to learn self-love is by being loved-precisely in the places where we feel most unsure and most tender. When that happens, we feel freedom and relief-and permission to love in a deeper way. No amount of positive self-talk can replicate this experience. It is a gift of intimacy, not of will-power.

My fiancé and I had a bit of a tumble yesterday when I said to him: “I would really love to see what your hair looks like grown out!” He shaves his head. I’ve never seen him with hair on his head.

After he pouted a bit, he confessed that he thought that I didn’t like how he looked with a shaved head. In other words, he risked being told something harsh and hurting deeper to hear what I really felt.

I was so thankful to hear him immediately share his truth that I was easily able to say, “Of course, I love you and think you’re hot just the way you are. I’m just curious, that’s all.” (I actually had to do a bit more talking him down from his desire to avoid me and his feelings. Mostly, we got over the problem very quickly and simply by being honest.

The quote from Psychology Today makes the most sense when you look at it as I have exemplified from above. If you have never trusted someone enough with your heart and your feelings to allow a person to love you where you feel most vulnerable, you will probably never be healed in that place. It’s harsh, but true.

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  • We can love ourselves a great deal.
  • We can work on our truths in many aspects.
  • We can become monks and never have to deal with another person, only Spirit.
  • But the one aspect of life we get on earth is that we must exist in relationship to understand how deeply words and our feelings impact us.

With me, I’m usually the last person who knows how much something hurts, until I’m in a position where someone judges me. I believed or, at least, told myself that I have taken care of that part of me that cares what other’s think. But, ultimately, the words someone else says about you often bring up what you think of ourselves. So, it is in relationship that we discover the deepest places that we need to heal.

Hopefully, this relationship will be with those same people who love you way past your faults, or a therapist, or life coach that you can work on those places that most affect the way you feel about yourself.

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New Year—New You #newyearsresolutions #newhabits #relationshipwithself #NOW

It has been discovered that over 60% of people who start out intending on some behavior change in January drop off by February. I’m sure by March another 25% leave and are back to their old workaholic or couch-potato habits.

Change is difficult. Getting over the old habits and becoming accustomed to new beliefs and ideas takes total openness. Beside that, change takes an authentic desire. Here are a few ways to help below:

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Yesterday I decided on two New Year’s resolutions. The first one is to stop being critical of those around me—in my mind and out loud! The second was to stop drinking alcohol. Two sips of champagne last night before midnight was the end for me.

I don’t have much of a problem with each of these behaviors, but I want to continue to grow as an individual always. I know judging anyone, including myself, is a difficult matter to change, especially when we spend most days looking at the world with a quizzical eye and wondering what the hell!”

Personally, after I woke up on New Year’s Day and meditated, just one hour later, I had already broken my promised not to judge. Not once. Not twice, but three times.

My mother is visiting! Wow, the past brings up so much old behavior that the frontal cortex of the brain doesn’t have a chance to make a different choice before one has already emotionally reacted.

This is actually a physiological fact, especially with those with Post Traumatic Stress syndrome. Therapists also believe deep Attachment Disorders would carry the same impact on the brain’s functionality.

So, in changing our behavior, we have to be as compassionate to ourselves as we are to a child if we were trying to guide that child out of old, negative behavior. We don’t scold! We remind our children with a stern and steady hand.

An adult mind has a great advantage over the child’s mind. The adult can begin to see the triggers before of the behavior and avoid the triggers. This helps alleviate the problem. With the child, the triggers probably haven’t developed so strongly, yet. Neuropathic behavior strengthens as the behavior continues in life. So, children are best to train at a young age.

As an adult, I know that family is probably the only thing that can get under my skin. I don’t want to avoid them, because I seriously love my family. I simply must make better boundaries.

Sometimes when my mother is talking, I actually put her through a filter in my mind. I half-listen. This keeps me from being so reactionary. However, what I was complaining about this morning to my fiancé was about her controlling behavior towards me and the family. I’m fairly certain this is not going to change. She’s 84 and has no desire to change. So, avoiding the triggers is my best chance at having a good relationship with her and keeping myself at peace.

With these kinds of emotional changes, we have to be completely compassionate to ourselves and keep good boundaries until we’ve discovered the truth about life: That there is only One Mind! Somewhere, somehow, that One Mind is reflecting something we need to learn or understand or be compassionate to through the people we love the most.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books:

Coming soon, my partner David Menton and I are planning to start a Vlog with Vegetable Based enriched recipes from my plethora of fun and easy ways to make food taste amazing. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

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