Month: March 2017

The Art of Subterfuge vs. Transparent Loving

My husband and I were reflecting on our marriage yesterday. I said jokingly, “I’m not your husband, my name is Joe Shikanda and I’m a spy from Nigeria!”

David replied something equally absurd. We continued to talk about how easily people get caught up in life and miss the small signs that reflect the honest truth about a soul.

The television show, “The Black List” is based on the premise of a male spy specifically targeting a female FBI agent. When the agent meet her husband, he was working as a teacher in a high school. He was kind, gentle, loving—yet, this FBI agent, who is supposed to be able to get to the bottom of any kind of crime, actually gets duped by this deceitful spy. How does someone pretend to love when love is supposed to be the most transparent and vulnerable place in our hearts? Why does our heart need love so much that we turn a blind eye to truth and facts?

When you think about it, pretending to love is the most horrifying kind of lie. Yet it happens everyday. Perhaps, not to the extent I mention in the past example, but we lie to ourselves and others about love. Most times our intentions are good, but we simply don’t know ourselves enough to be transparent. If we cannot be transparent with someone else, how can we expect it from our love interest? 

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True love and compassion takes the kind of relationship that best friends acquire from sharing experiences and secrets that you would not otherwise have unless you really trust someone. Most loving relationships hold back those deep secrets for fear the loving relationship will run away.

As I reflect back on many of my relationships in the past, I definitely remember signs of problems early on. But lust, the anxiousness to be in a relationship, and TV and movies all teach us to be anything but forthright with our relationships. We are taught to keep the garbage to ourselves and hide from those places in the past that may show someone a tainted image of you.  This is the reason why political figures get in trouble so often. They hide what will obviously paint a terrible picture of them. However, if you look at this premise, the reason why we distrust anyone who keeps a secret from the past is not because of the wrongs in the past. We distrust because the person was not transparent.

When relationships start as friends before dating, you ultimately spend most of your long talks on sharing your authentic experiences of life, the past, your thoughts of the future, and your worst fears.  This is what creates deep and lasting bonds between two individuals. Hiding is not the way to a secure love.

As friends we learned to be supportive and nonjudgmental to each other. One can look at another guy and say, “Wow, he is really gorgeous!” and the partner will feel nothing but relief that he can share his truth without experiencing jealousy. Love transcends the ephemeral and moves to a place where you want the best for each other and never want to hide your deepest thoughts.

Love looks for the opportunities to grow and to release more fears to feel the arms of security fold around you.

The Buddha says:

There is no evil that cannot be done by the liar, who has transgressed the one law of truthfulness and who is indifferent to the world beyond.

In other words, love cannot grow when any kind of deceit is present.

In Taoism, we have the same theory:

Do not assert with your mouth what your heart denies.

Christianity speaks of this as well in the scripture (Luke 6:45): “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mind speaks.”

All religions agree that you cannot had love when your heart is deceitful. Yet, many live in constant turmoil in their current relationships, because they cannot seem to find the path to truthful conversations and interaction.

As I have told many clients in the past:

Not every relationship is meant for the long haul. Some are meant to move us closer to our own truth. It is the strong-willed person with an pure understanding of Truth who will release what no longer serves him or her to find the ultimate experience of love. 

Releasing fear always draws us closer to love.

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Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available.

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

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Coming soon, my partner David Menton and I are planning to start a Vlog with Vegetable Based enriched recipes from my plethora of fun and easy ways to make food taste amazing. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

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La Boda Gay

Today is my wedding day. La Boda. My big, fat gay wedding. La boda gay, as the Spanish would say.

As a young gay man, I never thought I would actually see this day. With prayer, with great vision, with vigorous fight and healthy debates, the United States has finally allowed people like me to be equals with the rest of society.

I can now file my taxes with my husband. I can see him in the hospital if he is in intensive care. I can make life-changing decisions with him and for him. I can get his work benefits, and sign up for programs that help married couples. As a result of one, single document so many gay couples are now able to enjoy the benefits that have been available for citizens for 2000 years. When I write this, I suddenly feel angry and sad.

I watched the movie “Fences” last night and watched as the characters struggled through their impoverished lives as a result of prejudice. Day by day, slowly we move forward, but never without a fight, never without standing up for what’s right and just for all.

When anyone begins to look at the undeniable prejudice that has been plowed into our culture by means of unhealthy spiritual dictums and laws, the top 1% of America, the ones struggling to get a tax break at the sake of losing sight of the big compassionate future, we can see that love always wins. Love may take some fighting, some solemn defeats, but eventually it will float to the top. Today I celebrate the victory of equal rights with my new husband, David.

Beyond the celebration of just being able to get married, a trove of emotions follows.

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… David and I look into each other’s eyes and sometimes just laugh, because neither of us can describe the emotions. Mostly, though, we feel a bit of ambivalence about the legality of it, the ceremony of something that really happened in our hearts long before this day.

The Dali Lama says:

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.

Every living being has an equal right to and desire for happiness.

I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of wellbeing. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It is the ultimate source of success in life.

 

Love is the answer—always. I hope for love for all of you reading this. I know love changes. But at its roots it is security, truth, transparency, joy, and hope. Let’s continue to see this for each other and for all of world. It is up to us to hold the vision! Feel blessed!

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If you buy a copy of my book: FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU and send me the receipt, I will send you

A FREE HYPONSIS MP3 TO HELP YOU DURING TIMES OF PAIN. SEND THE RECEIPT TO bosebastian5@gmail.com and I’ll send the Mp3 within the week, I promise.

Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available. * * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_6?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=bo%20sebastian&sprefix=bo+seb%2Caps%2C190&rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Abo%20sebastian]

 

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

____________________

 

Coming soon, my husband and I are planning to start a Vlog with Vegetable Based enriched recipes from my plethora of fun and easy ways to make food taste amazing. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

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Can Lumber Say to a Carpenter: I Will Not Become a House?

The creative medium is always subject to the mind creating it. If you were the creator (the carpenter in this metaphor), the wood and nails you use to build (the creative medium) is subject to your mind. The creative medium does not have a will of its own.

However, many people in prayer think that the subjective ether (the creative medium of spirit) has its own will. Some would rather leave the decisions of their lives up to the wood and nails, in other words. This is why their prayers are ineffective.

Let’s take a clearer look at the process of creating something in your life, building your dream. You desire a new job, one that will not only give you financial stability, but will add to the joy of your soul. You begin to pray about this new job that actually exists for you in the subjective ether (the creative energy waiting to be used by you as a Co-Creator with Spirit). However, in your prayer you say to the creative medium, “You know better than I what I want to create. You give me the job according to your will and design.”

This would like the carpenter arriving at work early one morning, sitting near the stockpile of industrial material and saying to it, “You decide what you want to be. I trust these materials to do the work. I don’t trust myself to be a creator. I am not worthy. I don’t have power in this situation.”

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Of course, you could sit by the wood and nails forever and nothing would happen with the creative medium. The same thing happens with prayers, when you leave your position as Co-creator to the subjective matter to provide your will. The job of the Co-creator is a similar job as the Creator. It is the microcosm in the macrocosm.

Even the bible says that (Hebrews 11:3):

“By faith we understand that the universe was created by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things that are visible.“

And in Romans 8:19-22:

For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but  because of him who subjected it, in hope that  the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God.  For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now.”

Both of these scriptures tell of the history of creation and foretell of God’s sons and daughters one day accepting their spiritual domain, co-creators WITH GOD. All of creation is waiting for us—the children of God—to speak to the subjective ether and say:

“This earth is Peaceful! Negativity has no power over any of us! We have already overcome all that comes against us, simply because we now understand our power!”

The Buddhist principle is somewhat vague on the idea of creator. However, some philosophers speak of this creative ability and the ether as it pertains to the waiting of that human power to advance itself to become the great power of the world.

The Buddha says:

According to one doctrine, there is a great, self-existent deity whose substance is real and who is all-pervading, eternal, and the producer of all phenomena. This doctrine is unreasonable. If something produces something, it is not eternal, the non-eternal is not all-pervading, and what is not all-pervading is not real. If the deity’s substance is all-pervading and eternal, it must contain all powers and be able to produce all dharmas everywhere, at all times, and simultaneously. If he produces dharma when a desire arises, or according to conditions, this contradicts the doctrine of a single cause.

Or else, desires and conditions would arise spontaneously since the cause is eternal. Other doctrines claim that there is a great Brahma, a Time, a Space, a Starting Point, a Nature, an Ether, a Self, etc., that is eternal and really exists, is endowed with all powers, and is able to produce all dharmas. We refute all these in the same way we did the concept of the Great Lord.[11]

I feel that Buddhism is more about teaching us the reality of our human existence and how to attain peace in the chaos, rather than showing us the power of attaining the understanding of becoming co-creators WITH God. For this reason, the Buddhist scriptures speak to the human condition, rather than the prophetic ideas that move the entire human existence into a new and peaceful paradigm.

In this way, Jesus the Master teacher can give us a greater understanding of our own creative abilities, as he says we will do much greater miracles than he had done.

In John 14:12 Jesus said:

“I tell you the truth, anyone who has faith in me will do what I have been doing. He will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father.”

So, we must look at the stories of Jesus to help us understand how he used his own co-creative mind to teach us how to use ours. How did Jesus turn water into wine? How did he turn 5 loaves of bread into baskets of bread that fed 5000?

He imagined the truth. He used his mind to believe that the water was already wine, the bread was already enough to feed the masses. He prayed first, believing.

So, too, we must follow the steps of the Master Teacher to begin the learning process of becoming spiritual masters. You were created in the image of God, not to become subject to the earth, but to rule it! You don’t sit next to the building materials and expect them to magically become a house. You use the materials and your mind to construct the home of your dreams!

Meditate on this and start learning the spiritual lessons of the ages.

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If you buy a copy of my book: FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU and send me the receipt, I will send you

A FREE HYPONSIS MP3 TO HELP YOU DURING TIMES OF PAIN. SEND THE RECEIPT TO bosebastian5@gmail.com and I’ll send the Mp3 within the week, I promise.

Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available.

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493


(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

____________________

 

Coming soon, my partner David Menton and I are planning to start a Vlog with Vegetable Based enriched recipes from my plethora of fun and easy ways to make food taste amazing. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

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