Author: Bo Sebastian

Dust in the Wind

Dust in the Wind

 

One of the sayings that changed my life forever is from a book called  “What Happy People Know,” by Dr. Dan Baker. He quotes one of his dying patients who had struggling through a bout of cancer only to find another small growth: She says about the meaning of life:

 

“Every moment that’s ever been, or ever will be, is gone the instant it’s begun. So life is loss.  And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.”

 

Notice she doesn’t say, “But the secret of happiness…”

She says, “And the secret of happiness is…”

 

And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.”

 

The truth is we don’t know what today or tomorrow or even the next moment will bring to our lives. We don’t know if it will bring something wonderful or something tragic. But the secret to happiness is to learn to love the moment that you are in, more than the loss of it, whether good or bad.

 

This concept completely changed my way of thinking. I don’t get up in the morning thinking that I have to change the world. I get up in the morning knowing that every moment I am conscious of the present, I am changing the world because I am conscious.

 

Can you grasp the concept? It’s huge.

 

The songwriter wrote: “All we are is dust in the wind. Same old song. Just a drop of water in an endless sea. All we do crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see. Dust in the wind. All we are is dust in the wind.”

 

We can look at this song with a fatalistic, realistic point of view and get very sad. But when we see the truth in it, we recognize that we can’t stop change, growth or death. If this is the case, then why are we living in the past 90% of the time? Why are we not stepping forward into life 100% of the time with vitality and love and generosity and compassion? …

 

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Dealing with Frustration

One thing I know for sure is that we all suffer the same frustration when we have to call for help on any electronic or computer equipment.

The last time I had a computer outage, it took me a total of four hours of phone time, six phone calls, five of which were recapitulations of the same problem—going over the same several beginning steps—then finally to the second stage help that finally gave me the direction I needed to get back and running. Whew.

Who has four hours these days to be on the phone with tech support? Meanwhile, you’re trying to do all your computer work on a six-inch mobile phone that is not meant to do word processing and fulfill the needs of a computer. You get the picture.

What did Bo do yesterday in a time like this? Guess from the points below:

  1. You haven’t seen the right side of my head lately in photos. Half the hair is gone from pulling it out, one hair at a time.
  2. I haven’t had to get a mani/pedi lately, because I gnawed off all my nails, even the toenails…
  3. I haven’t been out lately because I broke out in hives from the anxiety.
  4. I read a book that I haven’t had time to read in a long time, while I was waiting.
  5. I take deep breaths and do yoga positions at computer while I put the phone on speaker.
  6. I put the phone on speaker and I continue on with my day as if this is just one more thing life brings me to understand humanity. (So, this may mean this bullet point includes the last two points.)

The answer is six, of course. Why should I, or you, let any thing like a computer take away my life source just because it’s broken? Yes, the computer holds the key to many of my business prospects and endeavors, but I can’t change what is. I can only deal with what is. In the present. In the moment. And with the care and diligence and compassion of a parent treating a child’s precious hurting need.

We are not here on this earth to play Russian roulette with ourselves every time something goes wrong in our lives. Think about it. How many times a day do you let your heart race because you didn’t make enough time to do all the chores on your list, you’re late to pick up a child, and caught in traffic. Now your heart is beating out of your chest. You’re losing precious life. You may have a heart attack if you keep this up. When the truth is, you can’t change what is.

You either need to learn to give more time for certain chores, take into account for busy traffic times, or get used to the stress that life can hand you. Put on some nice music, a book on tape you’ve been wanting to read, call the person who is waiting for you, and relax into the situation that you can’t change.

No amount of frustration can change the situation! Say that to yourself about 10 times. Take ten deep breaths, breathing in for 6 counts and out for 6 counts as you do this. (This will bring your blood pressure down and slow your heart rate.) Feel your toes in your shoes. Feel your shoes on your feet. Rub in the inside of one of your palms gently. (This changes the route of your neuro pathways and calms you.)

But by all means, take care of yourself. Stress is the number one killer in America today. I don’t want any more of my dear ones to die of a heart attack anytime soon.

Have a safe, peaceful and wonderful day.

 

 

 

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Boy, Did I make a big mistake!

My passion has been to write for a long time. Writing this blog has fulfilled a great deal of that passion. But, as you know, I’ve written a few novels, a couple nonfiction books, a cookbook, a vocal praxis, and ghost wrote a fitness book and a couple gift books too. 

 

Sometimes one needs to get paid for their passions to make a living. Singers love singing, painters love painting, writers love writing books, but the ultimate goal is to get the work of the beloved art into the hands of someone who will actually pay for what you love doing. Make no mistake about it, that is the goal for most artists. And that is not a bad goal at all.

 

I hope someday this blog can turn into another book for me. But tomorrow and the next day, I write without consequence or treating for that effect.

 

Today I discovered that my blog is camped out in a garage where it can’t go anywhere but there. It is by blogger’s standard a kind of misfit “quick blog template.” If it were to go radical and millions of people visit it, there would be no way to reap a return on my work. Why? Because of one small word: WordPress.

 

So, today I tried to wrap my mind around this little known fact and see how to change my blog to a WordPress Blog, which is why some of you, midday, haven’t been able to reach me like you normally do to have your daily fix (and thank you for that).

 

My blog, by today’s standards, is doing really well. This month it will have gotten about 100,000 hits. I believe that is the most I have ever gotten in a month. That’s pretty damn good. And most of you are responsible for spreading the word. Thank you again for your loving and wonderful support. You make me a happy man everyday when I read your comments and emails.

 

The problem today happened when my host company, GoDaddy, told me that they didn’t support WordPress, and that I had to start a new account with WordPress, and basically start from square one, redesigning, and republishing every post I have ever written. This would mean having to copy 550 posts one by one into this new blog.

 

I really wasn’t up for the task. I believed there had to be an easier way. There was a way to import from almost every where else that used blogs, but GoDaddy. Go figure.

 

So, I get half-way through the task of setting up the WordPress account and get stuck. I call GoDaddy and find out that, indeed, they do have a Blog support staff that is dedicated directly to WordPress. This was much to my dismay, since I had just spent $$$ on setting up a new WordPress account.

 

So, today this account has been jockeyed from one hub to another until it is now apparently stuck in cyber Netherland. I hear it could take up to 48 hours to come back to life. I’m not sure if I really should care. I can reach most of my readers in other ways: Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Stumbleupon, Google+, to name a few. This dude is hooked up and serious.

 

I say all this because I think that I may have made a big mistake. For now, I’m going to stay with Godaddy at blog2grow4spirit.com. Even if it switches to WordPress, the name will continue to be the same, but my .com address will not appear in your window. Just wanted to keep you updated.

Love to you all.

 

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I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. Your connection to me blesses me in everyway possible. And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find me at www.bosebastian.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon, just by typing my name in the header.

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