Bored During the Holidays? #boringholidays

Though many people enjoy the hubbub of shopping and decorating and the clamor of children on the holidays, I believe a great many people don’t enjoy the few days of good cheer at all. In fact, some of my clients grieve the holidays. People celebrating all around only reminds some of loss and perhaps having nowhere to go to feel the security of family on Christmas.

For many years, I would simply make plans to be on a vacation for the holiday. That was my way of avoiding the fact that I had established no “normal” family, as much of the world sees it. There would be no children waking up early to see what Santa brought, no holiday wonder bedecking my yard, and certainly no Christmas tree in the living room! I made laws against those things. But, as I’ve asked myself over the years, and have asked my clients, too, what exactly are we expecting on a holiday that we don’t expect on a normal day in our lives? Can’t we create what we need without falling prey to old feelings of grief and dismay? I think we can.

One thing for sure is that life around us seems to stop on Christmas Eve and Christmas day. The gym closes. The grocery stores shut off the lights. Restaurants don’t serve food. All of the regular shows on television that you generally look forward to have been preempted by old holiday movies and cartoons about snowmen. Everyone seems to be taking a much-needed break.

But what about people who have nowhere to eat or a place to visit? I guess we could go to the movies. The cinemas tend to stay open and fairly packed on Christmas. You could find solace there. If you want to wait until the day after Christmas, you can find shopping bargains a plenty. If you can make it through Christmas Eve and Christmas day, then, you probably will be okay.

So, think of things that can fulfill your needs during those two rather slow and silent days.

  • I know that many yoga and meditation practices hold special classes and services for the holidays, if you enjoy that.
  • You can invite a few people over who are in the same situation as you and have a potluck.
  • You can rent a few movies and have an all-night event watching funny films.
  • Then, the least likely, I know, would be to take the time to be alone and away from everybody and everything.
  • Write in your journal about what you want to accomplish during the New Year. Journal your feelings and put on some sacred music to take you to a place of total peace.
  • This maybe a good time to start a home project, such as painting a room. What better way to make good out of something negative than to take action on something that has been on your to-do list that you haven’t had time for?
  • Absolutely, without a doubt, one of the best things to do is to invite a bunch of orphan friends over who aren’t going home for Christmas and make a big holiday feast. Plan some fun games and great music and you can create your own family.

This list is inspiring me. Maybe I don’t want to do family this year for Christmas! I’ll give my momma to a friend and paint my bedroom chartreuse. LOL

No matter what you choose to do, know this for certain, no day defines you. You are the same person yesterday, today and tomorrow, no matter what holiday happens. Holiday blues be gone!


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