Carrying Garbage from the Past: Time to Release

I ran into a client yesterday. She looked at me and repeated to her about 100 times during her time as a client:

I release and let go of all things that no longer serve my life. I am open and willing for change!

We both laughed as we caught up. She told her story.

She had been single for a long time—too long in her estimation—just long enough from my vantage point. For the first three months of Life Coaching, she could barely speak of anything more than the pain from all of the hurtful men in her past. I would make her recite with me the above quote over and over again.

Clearly, what we had been reworking in her subconscious mind with Hypnotherapy had now begun to express in her life. She was engaged, about to get married and move in with her fiancé and soon-to-be husband.

She told me how cleansing the last few weeks had been to uncover all of the pictures and memorabilia from the past—especially from past relationships. She said she had become overwhelmed with power to see forward as she released each part of her past.

She stacked all of the pictures of the past she wanted to get rid of and burned them in her fireplace. She began to throw away jewelry and gifts from men who had abused her and cheated.


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At one point in her life, she needed all of those memories from the past to keep her feeling she as if she were desirable enough to acquire dates. Now, she told me she realized that her real need was, indeed, what I had been sharing with her all along:


The Buddha says:

We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.

Missy is a beautiful woman. Even as she is nearing fifty, she looks as if she’s perpetually 39. She was the Prom Queen in high school and dated the star football player. This kind of old template, having to appear as if she were the star dating a star had plagued her true desire:

to date someone who really understood her, was transparent, and kind. At best, she would find attractive, muscle men who would start out kind enough, but would end up like the rest, unresponsive to emotion and unable to be transparent.

Finally, someone who had been her friend through all of this nonsense dating professed his love for her. After thinking long and hard about his request, she realized she did love this friend and was willing to let go of her long held baggage of finding that gorgeous Prince Charming character. When his and her relationship began to turn intimate, it became perfectly clear that the person she had been in love with for many years had been her best friend.

She unloaded all of the past that no longer served her by making a ritual of throwing away old, stale memories. She took away of all the blocks of those metaphoric, sophomoric thoughts that people would think less of her if she were with a man that was not muscular and gorgeous. Instead, she opted for a man who looked like the guy next door, was intelligent, kind, and very wealthy. He promised he’d love her for the rest of her life. Through it all, she was the only one he could see living with the rest of his life.

The great aspect of this story is that she and her fiancé understand that they will probably have spats now and again, as they have had them as friends. But the perfect ending is that the spats never stopped their loving, secure friendship, nor will they end their marriage.

Their ten-year friendship had made it through the hardest time of both of their lives. Now, all they had to do is release their old baggage and get ready for the brand new adventure ahead—TOGETHER.


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