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The Breathtaking Leap to Safety—A Picture of Anxiety

I am running scared, my heart racing out of my chest. Adrenaline surges to every limb, especially to my mind where the worse scenarios begin to develop like film slipping in an old projector. Who is after me? Will I live or die, or worse yet be tortured to the last breath of my life? Will I feel pain? Will I have the courage to endure?

I come to the end of the road. A deep hole the size of my body has been ripped from the center of the road as if an earthquake had occurred. All I can see is a very deep, immeasurable drop, where surely I would die if I were to jump. I must leap over to safety if I have a chance at living.

Do I leap? Do I take a chance and hide from what I think is pursuing me? Or do I collapse into the hole to my demise?

People with anxiety suffer from this kind of panic almost every day. Sometimes the adrenaline gets so intense their heart feels like it can explode, and yet, they have no idea most times what it is they are suffering from and why. This is an example of a panic attack.

Some people get them when they are facing a particular fear. Some people get them when they have no idea what they are facing. Usually that means the person involved hasn’t really taken the time to go to therapy to find out what is hiding under the panic.

I liken panic and anxiety to coming home and finding a ferocious lion in your front yard. You rush to the door and grapple for your keys. The keys drop. Your panic heightens. You finally get the key in the door and you slam the door shut before the lion has a chance at attack.

You call FEMA. But as FEMA is going to take 20 minutes to come, the lion begins to slam into the front window. You look for places to hide in your house. How many doors can you put between you and the danger of that lion succeeding in breaking through the window to harm you? How much space can you put between you and your fear—is the real truth?

So, as the person with anxiety begins to unfold the story of truth to him/herself and sees what he/she is running from, you begin to see why it takes so much energy each day to create the barriers they need to stay protected from the danger. Some people choose food and gain tons of weight to create a literal barrier between life and their perceived outside fear. Some choose substance abuse to keep them from ever having to face what it is that is chasing them.

But the real courageous person realizes that he/she can’t continue to run his/her entire life. She must stop and discover what this enigma is and either fight it or leap over it or let it destroy her. No other choice exists. The real fear is inside and must be obliterated.

I talk a lot about self-hypnosis and the ability to become a conscious observer of the human condition in all of us. This type of diagnosis—anxiety—is one of those psychological malfunctions of the body and brain that need this kind of compassion that only the observer can give it. No other person but you can see what it is that you are running from.

So, learning the tools of self-hypnosis can save your life if you have an anxiety disorder. Trust me, I know this from experience. I used to wake up with my heart racing like I could run a 500K sprint and win. What pursues you always feels like a shadow following you from behind until you wrestle with it and win.

I’m here to tell you that anxiety is a thing of the past for me and it can be for you too. Meds are great, but they can’t relieve the entirety of the mental process that created your fearful profile. You must unfurl the problem and get to its roots to have a chance at living a life that is free of anxiousness and stress. Though it may seem like your problem is outside of you, it is always an internal trigger caused by something in your past that changed your life forever. Let’s find it together.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

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Failure Is an Ugly Word

Honestly, I never thought as myself as someone who failed. I have had some nonstarters, but have created nothing that really was a total flop. I have had a few bad reviews, but nothing that would devastate a career. Today, I just felt like a total failure with this diet. I caved—truly caved.

Remember those cookies I was telling you about that I had saved for when I hit my goal? Well, when I went to throw them away, because that is what I would advise any person to do on a diet, I checked to see if anyone was looking and I ate one—frozen. Yes, frozen. It was as hard as a brick and as sweet as heaven itself. I wouldn’t even know if a piece of a tooth went down with the golden delicious taste of brown sugar and chocolate.

Then I found myself putting the bag of cookies back in the freezer instead of in the waste paper basket where they belonged. (Damn you, Jennifer Nelson, for making such amazing oatmeal, chocolate chip cookies.) They were like cocaine. Once I ate one, I went back for two, then three. I finally stopped at five. I’m amazed I didn’t chip a tooth. I’m now a little nauseous and I’m ready for bed—the worst time to be full and sugar buzzed. OY VEY!

This day started off way too early with me taking my car in to get the transmission fixed. A friend had to stay overnight to drive me to the service center. I drank some caffeinated tea and was sorry for it the entire day. I never realized what a diuretic tea could be. I was in the bathroom almost every thirty minutes. I even had to excuse myself in the middle of sessions, which is not like me at all.

Everything went well, even with exercise until dinner, when I had to pick up my car and it wasn’t ready. The part the service station had ordered for my car was broken. I had to rearrange my schedule and get a loaner car for Wednesday. I guess something as menial as a car not being fixed can put you over the dietetic edge.

I used the anxiousness about the car for an excuse to eat and dove into dinner like a man who hadn’t been fed in two days. Then after dinner I didn’t stop eating until 10 pm. Disappointment doesn’t begin to let you know how I feel about my progress.

Two weeks to lose the weight, my ass. I think this may take much longer. I do know this. After today I’m going to stop writing about my “presumed progress” every day. I figure it’s getting boring and unless there is something wonderful to tell—a great insight into dieting or a breakthrough in my own resistance to weight loss, I’ll stick to what I’m good at—spiritual guidance.

It’s true to be a good coach, you don’t actually have to be in the sport. I’m good at helping people lose weight. I have helped 1000s of people get to their goals. My brother-in-law is a tremendous football coach. I can’t imagine that he could get his body around the track once. There are many older ballet coaches who are considered the best in the world, but could never dance again in their lives. The list of coaches who are great at teaching but not so good at doing their craft can go on forever. I guess, for now, I fit in to the latter.

I do know this: I’ll keep trying. I’m not a quitter. But I may fall a few more times before I actually make some more progress. Upward and onward.

Weight Gain: loss of .2 pounds… As I said before, there is no rhyme or reason. I would have to venture to guess it was the water loss from yesterday. I’m back to a homeostatic thought. Maybe the body just has to get used to a 5 lb. loss before it loses more. I’m sticking with that conclusion.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

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The Seventh Day of My Diet-A Big Surprising Blip

Normally, I’m of the ilk that diets tend to get harder as they go along. For me, the cravings for sugar are going away. I definitely am not so tempted to overeat on this seventh day. This is a good thing.

For breakfast, I had my old staple, steel cut oatmeal with agave nectar. For lunch after church at Nashville Center of Spiritual Living, I went to Red Robin with mi madre and shared a Cobb salad. Mom doesn’t like avocado or black olives, so I was the lucky recipient of all the avocado and olives, which made me a happy, and albeit, satisfied eater.

When I got home I helped a friend with his website for two hours to give myself some time for my food to digest. Then I worked out for a short while, focusing mainly on my abdominal area, which is looking pretty good already. I actually had to tighten my belt one more notch today.

I knew inside that I could do this, but I actually never had to lose weight before, especially in front of thousands of readers. So, this is giving me a lot of motivation to stick with it. I have often told clients that a prime way of sticking to a commitment is to get other people in your life involved—especially good, healthy friends and family—people you know will edify you. But then, there is some efficacy to having those people who will judge you if you fail on the fringe, as well. This keeps you on your toes.

I seriously don’t know if I would be as tedious with my diet and exercise if I hadn’t started posting my progress every day. This was very good motivation. I want to succeed now. When I feel as if I’m not going to or that an invasive “sugar” or “fat” thought comes in, I simply think of the consequence. People are reading!

Indeed, either way—a bad effect or a good effect, my readers and my clients would learn a great lesson with me. Still, I think I’m the kind of person who enjoys a challenge. But more importantly, I’m the person who would rather win the race.

So, for dinner, Mom made a big pot of homemade chicken soup. I ate exactly one bowl. I ate one banana for dessert.

For a snack this evening, I ate one handful of sesame sticks and ½ bag of non-fat popcorn. That’s it, folks! I’ll let you know tomorrow how I faired.

HERE’S THE BLIP: I woke up this morning and weighed. To my grand dismay, I had actually gained a pound. How could that be? I got off of the machine and let it reset. Got back on the scale. There it was again like a bad hangover. Come on! That can’t be right. But there it was.

Now I know exact how my clients feel when they tell me that they have been doing everything correctly and still they gain. Well, I’ll tell you, if you reread my text from above, there is one thing I did not do. I didn’t have 45-50 minutes of aerobics yesterday. So, I may have done everything right, but I had not used the energy that I took into my body. That is not considered a good day. I was all happy about my food intake, but I didn’t do what I needed to do to lose weight. That is to use the caloric energy that I have taken into my body, no matter how little that was. Otherwise, that weight is going to show up as a weight gain.

I had to take my car into get a check-up this morning. As soon as I sat in the waiting room, the first thing I heard on the television’s news station was: “Do Americans really know how many bad effects being overweight can have on their lives?”

Some of the items that this documentary spoke about was heart problems, diabetes, kidney and liver problems, leg swelling, high blood pressure, joint problems, sleep apnea and sleep disorders, cancer, metabolic syndrome, and I think most important, psycho-social effects and disorders.

With this in mind, we all definitely need to think about what we put in our mouths, no matter where we are with our healthy look at our weight.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

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