Category: Hypnotherapy

Boldness: How Do You Become Bolder?

I have definitely noticed that I have a lot less fear since I have gotten older. A essential reason exist for this change. When you some becomes older and actually faces the past anxieties, you move through fear in a completely different way in the present.

For instance, with certainty in this moment I know that I am:

  1. Sharing in the One Universal Mind
  2. I am always blessed, because I am made in the image of Spirit God
  3. I am always surrounded by angels who aid me in my human and spiritual issues
  4. I always have the ability to co-create in this universe and change my current situations, or at least I can change how I view or perceive the current situation
  5. With this ability to co-create, I am able to change the course of actions in my life; and in certain situations change the conditional situation in my world.

With this deep knowing, I am able to coerce any negative thoughts in my mind to believe what my heart and my consciousness knows with certainty. When I do this, I can face any challenge in the world. This takes a certain understanding of what is called the Observer Mind.

We know that there is only One Mind. We are all a part of that mind. However there are many diverse individual brains out there with many diverse programs operating in those brains.

The brain is an individual organ in each human body that is either programmed with positivity or negativity or a mixture of both. For instance, if you were an abused child, you can be assured that the neural pathways directing your thoughts will be eschewed from someone who has not been abused. This is science, not spirituality. This is the reason people who have PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress) feel as if they cannot change the organic process of their mind. The PTSD thought hits the frontal cortex of the brain before our reasoning mind has a chance to change the thought.

So, we must become a Scientist of our own Minds to make the shift. For this reason, we learn ways to access the voice inside that programs the thoughts during deep, healing meditations and in clinical hypnosis. We can and will change and assert new neural pathways, forging new and more positive thoughts in each human mind as we become more aware of our creative power.

You may have times in your life when you feel inadequate. Who doesn’t? In these moments you must access your truth. To simply speak any truth (usually in the form of affirmations) from the observer self to the physical self or the programmed mind seems like a challenge, especially if you have not experienced the observer mind.

I know this all sounds like a challenge, too technical, and maybe even like malarkey, but the process has been proven to work for millions in hypnosis where we often use the Observer Mind to speak to and communicate to the Physical Brain and the subconscious.

The brain is a part of your human self, a part of your human housing. You are a Spirit that is temporarily housed in a human shell. As a result of this knowledge you can change the trajectory of your life. I know this to be true, because I have done it and watched many others change horrible situations into power blessings by changing the neural triggers in the brain. (Notice I do not associate the brain with the Mind. They are two separate, but symbiotic, realities.)

I have been a hypnotherapist for 28 years. I have seen obese people become thin; smokers become adamant nonsmokers, people with sleep problems enjoy sleep, people who have had relationship problems learn to deal with the relationship with themselves and, in turn, fix the relationship issues in their lives, and the sick become healed. Anything is possible when you understand the basic truths of the universe!

Today, simply focus on one initial truth. Speak this to yourself out loud, if you can, and as you do so, pinch the space between your thumb and forefinger. This will cause a physical trigger to be connected to this thought:

There is only one mind and I am a part of that loving and creative energy.

This entire process is explained in my book: “Your New Story, Your New Life” The Metaphysical Mind.

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An Abundant Heart: How Do I Learn to Give?

When you grow up poor, never having enough for yourself, your family, even enough to fill your small belly at dinnertime, you sometimes forget how different others feel about giving. Perhaps, wealthy philanthropists are simply expected to give a certain amount of their money as a tax break. Some who have become rich after a life of poverty give more easily. Some people growing up used to the idea that a tithe if expected of God to the church. I walked to Catholic church myself, most Sundays. Perhaps, a neighbor would drive me. I watched as people put offerings in the basket, but I never quite found the place in my heart that became committed to the idea that there was a God-figure out there in the Universe expecting a payback from anything I received. I tried many times to simply tithe blindly or plan to give in certain ways. Every time, I felt empty and as if was an organic act. For me, it seems that my heart had to learn to let go of the insecurity of not having enough to learn to give generously.

We forget that generosity is a learned behavior. Often times, generosity is halted by old beliefs that you will never have enough—that you must hold on tightly to what you have, so that you will never feel poor again. I get it. I’ve been there. Here is a meditation that respects this mindset and offers a prayer and treatment for a change of heart. (continue reading below…)

Video of the Meditation Below:


There was a time in my life when I quit my job in New York to study the scriptures. I was on a completely Christian path then. I remember praying about my needs. During a fast, I received a vision to go to the Actor’s Equity Building. On the 16th floor was a receptionist’s office that had a list of perspective jobs for out-of-work actors. I was told in the vision to apply for the third job in the stack of jobs. The vision was very specific.

I listened to the angels or spirit that was encouraging and leading my heart into my calling, my perfect place on this Earth. I immediately saw that this job was a part-time job that paid $8 an hour. Certainly this was not enough to even pay for my expenses in NYC let alone classes. But, I didn’t pay attention to my brain. I listened to the guidance I received—for the first time in my life. I wanted to live by faith alone.

The job had already been taken by the time I applied, but the owner interviewed me anyway. He was so impressed with me that he called the other person and told him that he wouldn’t need his services. This same man, my boss, was also the owner of a recording studio. It was from the generosity of this same man that I recorded my first Spiritual Demo of music that I had written.

This is a simple story, but a powerful example of changing the course of how you are led. When you release and let go of that which no longer serves you, you make room for Spirit to begin filling your life with what matters. I even was allowed to use the studios that I rented out to people to teach privately, voice and piano, which made me more money than I had had in many months living in the city.

Your prosperity and Spirit’s leading in your life may take a few years of planting seeds and nurturing them for the substance of your prayers to manifest, but it will happen. Trust me. I am living proof of this.

This meditation is an extension of this belief. I hope you enjoy it and encourage friends to join our meditation group.


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Marriage: When Is a Man Ready?

In the television show Friends, Rachel and Ross took the entire 10 seasons to get married. they eloped once, but got the marriage annulled, because they were too drunk to remember. Ultimately, our desire to watch the show waiting says something for the expectations of people across the globe about marriage. This leaves us wondering: #When_Is_a_Man_Ready to marry?

Recently, I saw on Facebook that an ex of mine had gotten married on the same weekend I did. Although I chortled about it when I saw the pictures, I recalled his fear about marriage and commitment during the three years we spent together.

He had two sons and the burden of a difficult job that kept him tense. He simply didn’t have time for me, it always felt. “I feel like I just need a best friend,” he said to me one time. (Trust me, no sane love interest wants to hear the word “just” peppered in the conversation before best friend.) Yes, I wanted a best friend and a lover, but not JUST a best friend. Ultimately, he made too many choices that didn’t put me close enough to first, so I walked away.

Now I look back and think, “Why, now, after only 6 months in a new relationship, he not only leaves a relationship that he told me was wonderful, but moves to a new city for a man he barely knows, transfers his job to a new city, and now is married in less than 7-8 months. What gives?


GIVING AND RECEIVING IN LIFE IS OFTEN DIFFICULT. I have been giving from my heart about 2-3 hours a day for 7 years to create advice–spirit, mind and body for millions of readers. Recently, I have been led to ask people to give back as a way for me to learn how to receive.As a tribute to my belief that “prosperity is all around us, should we choose to receive,” I want to invite those of you who want to send an offering for the joy or advice you have received from Finding Authentic You Blog.

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Continued from Above:

When I deliberate about anything, I always start with why this particular situation amazes, intrigues, or scares me. Self-inquiry is a great process, because it gets to the root of my true feelings. Most of us can be honest with ourselves if we have been on a spiritual journey. We realize that lying to one’s self is a senseless waste of time.

My intrigue about my ex was readiness to marry. I have dated a few very nice and loving men in my life and a couple of beautiful and wonderful women, but none of them were truly ready for marriage, neither was I.

As anxiously attached as I was the majority of my life, I was just as insecure about marriage. With insecurity comes commitment issues. I believe this is true for most men, especially if they have already been through marriage once or twice.

Many men enjoy the process of dating, loving, bedding, and juggling partners; but, seeking for a committed relationship is truly a deliberate attempt. It only happens when:

  • You are getting older and feeling as if your looks are waning,
  • You are tired of the game of searching for companionship and sex,
  • You desire a secure base and someone to come home to,
  • You grow up and realize that loving the right person is a gift!

In my own life, just as I moved from Nashville three years ago, I decided that not only would I commit to not dating just to date, but I would look for the four things in a relationship that I knew would bind me to one person, hopefully forever:

  1. Monogamy,
  2. Security,
  3. A committed spiritual practice together, and
  4. Lots of fun and laughter.

Notice: nowhere on this list are sex and attraction! I realize that deeply imbedded in committed love—for those of us who are NOT looking for a sugar daddy (i.e. #MelaniaTrump)—is a physical attraction. But, I also perceived in the many relationships that I saw working beautifully that those relationships began authentically with a friendship, first, and a mutual understanding of each other.

With friendships we don’t hold back with each other. We tend to be more transparent with friends than with perspective lovers. Most daters believe showing their true selves is a sin and will push people away. Yes, it will push your partner away, but only after the relationship is cemented. Perhaps, this is the reason for so many divorces.

The Buddha says:

Marriage is a social convention, an institution created by man for the wellbeing and happiness of man, to differentiate human society from animal life and to maintain order and harmony in the process of procreation… There are ample inferences in His sermons that it is wise and advisable to be faithful to one wife and not to be sensual and to run after other women. The Buddha realized that one of the main causes of man’s downfall is his involvement with other women (Parabhava Sutta).

Spirituality, in some instances with staunch Christianity, for example, if a man completely believes he cannot engage in sex without marriage, he may seek to get married much quicker. This is why many women flock to churches to find a husband. But, listen, if you are looking for the picture perfect marriage with a picket fence, most Christian men can give you this. But will you live behind a wall of many laws and male chauvinism? Probably. Being committed because God tells you to will not ultimately be a good choice. I want someone who WANTS TO BE committed to me, without the threat of eternal damnation.

So, when are most men ready to marry: When all other ways of appeasing them run out, when he realizes that he’s getting too old or too busy to look for partnership, or when he finds someone that fits into his staunch paradigm. Is this a good thing? Perhaps. Coming to the end of one’s ego is not a bad process. We grow up when we realize that death is inevitable and we will not always be attractive. We face life when we recognize that finding that one true love and friend who loves you through your hardships is amazing.

Marriage is a good thing when you’re ready. But, when you’re not ready, you might as well run, because you will be in for the hardest lessons of your life.


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You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!


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