For an example, when we think of the mutilation of African women so that men can enslave and brand them, this news disturbs the deepest part of our being. Why? Is it just that we have compassion. Or has this news invoked a feeling of insecurity and being unsafe for you?
My guess these kinds of stories about anyone (animals included) cause an equal amount of both feelings—compassion and empathy for our own need for security. However, when droves of men and women (mostly women) gather together to find strength to speak out against the male majority running the country, who have tried to enslave women and take away rights from any minorities, even in notably free country such as the United States, we must look a little deeper to see the real cause and the rush to speak out!
When I think of what the ultimate feeling of happiness would feel like, I imagine having the physical things I need to feel comfort, having loved ones, but most importantly I would need to feel an underlying feeling of peace and safety. No one can feel truly happy or joyful without feeling safe. This would be like having the largest diamond in the world, but having to live in a vault with the diamond, always afraid that someone will rob you of your valuables and your intrinsic value. But are our valuables material things?
When we dig deeper, we find that most of our own lives and the majority of the people we know have never had a solid foundation of security.
I review my own childhood and see this clearly. I don’t have to dig too deeply to see that my greatest prayer is always to experience peace and for my husband and family to feel secure their own lives. I pray for this because I know there is no true joy without security.
I recently spoke with a very famous man who had everything he desired in the material world, but had absolutely no peace. He had sacrificed his entire life for wealth and fame and never once thought about the toll it had taken on his and his family’s lives. After he had decided to retire a few weeks back, he looked like an entirely different human being—a smile, weight loss, a ruddy color in his skin, and most importantly a glimmer of peace in his eyes.
I asked him how he felt about leaving the material world that had supported him for so long. His answer was met with unexpected tears. He said, “I pray everyday that I will find what really makes me happy and will bring me peace. I don’t have this… Not yet. But, I now know that I am going in the right direction.”
This man’s story speaks of finding peace as his primary goal. Underneath his cries and our cries for truth, transparency, power, human and animal rights, we feel an underlying need to know with the deepest sense of our authentic self that we are Safe—safe from terrorists, safe from Super Egos, safe from governmental mistakes, safe from narcissistic choices that affect everyone of our lives, especially those who are much less fortunate than we are.
When you prepare your signs for your next protest or support a loved one who is speaking out about being treated unfairly, say a quick prayer that whoever is marching, being interviewed, speaking out finds the peace he or she searches for!