No matter who you are and how much you like your alone time, in each one of us we have DNA that longs to be in the arms of someone loving or feel safe in the arms of something tangible. Many of us seek to get this same feeling from food, expensive things, sexual encounters, and the like. However, nothing really meets our expectation more than someone (even if it’s a best friend or family member) who loves us for exactly who we are.
The reason why some of us try to cram loads of fattening food down our throas is for the simple reason that trying to find that someone has not been successful in the past. Also, it may be that you have been lazy about taking care of your body, and you simply don’t believe that you could ever attract someone to you looking and feeling the way you do. This is so not the case.
The fact is that there are far more people who are NOT in good shape than there are people who are smoking hot. I’d say that only about 5% of people are satisfied with the way they look. Most are not.
So, then, why are we so afraid to find someone in the same place that we are? Do we not believe that simply because you lust after the person that is way out of your league that everyone is like this?
I would venture to guess that many men and women would be thrilled to be with someone just like you! If you only believed this truth in your own soul, you’d probably find that person.
I once sat next to a great couple at a fundraiser for the Public Library. The wife was on the board of directors, vivacious and sweet, but very overweight. The husband was what I call a muscle mutt, stunningly attractive. But he only had eyes for her. I assumed that they had probably been married for a long time and that maybe she was thin when they had met. Not true. They had only been married for 2 years. Saw the wedding pics. She was the same weight when they got married.
It was in that moment I realized there is simply someone for everyone. The muscle mutt man wasn’t so brilliant as his wife. He was more the fixer-type. I could see immediately that he needed her expertise and wisdom as much as she probably enjoyed having a hottie to hold on to during this beautiful occasion. Like doesn’t always attract like.
I’m not saying, either, that we should look for people who lack what we have. I’m saying that you should love yourself and believe that who are is a Spirit made of love and light. The rest will follow. Who you attract will be dependent upon how much love you want to give out in your life and how open your heart is.
Trust me, I have attracted a lot of losers in my life because of my loving spirit. We must also have a great amount of wisdom when it comes to who we invite into our lives.
What you must look for in a partner:
2. A Sense of Security
3. Neither Avoidant or Needy
4. On the same path spiritually with you
5. Having space and time for you; and of course
6. Is authentic and secure with his or her life.
The above is an idealistic list. You always sow the seeds of your highest expectation in the supreme consciousness, then God begins to grow the plant. We can only sow the seeds and continue to believe by acting “as if” we are already ready for our dream to come true. Spirit does the rest. This is true in the earth as we sow seeds into the fertile soil. Spirit shows us that this is an example of how the law of attraction works.
We can only water the seed of our dream and wait. We can’t overwater and pull up the plants out of the ground.
Remember: today that your dreams are about to happen when you believe with your entire heart that the possibilities of the universe are endless.
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