Category: Pyschology

Finding Home Base—Finding LOVE!

No matter who you are and how much you like your alone time, in each one of us we have DNA that longs to be in the arms of someone loving or feel safe in the arms of something tangible. Many of us seek to get this same feeling from food, expensive things, sexual encounters, and the like. However, nothing really meets our expectation more than someone (even if it’s a best friend or family member) who loves us for exactly who we are.

The reason why some of us try to cram loads of fattening food down our throas is for the simple reason that trying to find that someone has not been successful in the past. Also, it may be that you have been lazy about taking care of your body, and you simply don’t believe that you could ever attract someone to you looking and feeling the way you do. This is so not the case.

The fact is that there are far more people who are NOT in good shape than there are people who are smoking hot. I’d say that only about 5% of people are satisfied with the way they look. Most are not.

So, then, why are we so afraid to find someone in the same place that we are? Do we not believe that simply because you lust after the person that is way out of your league that everyone is like this?

I would venture to guess that many men and women would be thrilled to be with someone just like you! If you only believed this truth in your own soul, you’d probably find that person.

I once sat next to a great couple at a fundraiser for the Public Library. The wife was on the board of directors, vivacious and sweet, but very overweight. The husband was what I call a muscle mutt, stunningly attractive. But he only had eyes for her. I assumed that they had probably been married for a long time and that maybe she was thin when they had met. Not true. They had only been married for 2 years. Saw the wedding pics. She was the same weight when they got married.

It was in that moment I realized there is simply someone for everyone. The muscle mutt man wasn’t so brilliant as his wife. He was more the fixer-type. I could see immediately that he needed her expertise and wisdom as much as she probably enjoyed having a hottie to hold on to during this beautiful occasion. Like doesn’t always attract like.

I’m not saying, either, that we should look for people who lack what we have. I’m saying that you should love yourself and believe that who are is a Spirit made of love and light. The rest will follow. Who you attract will be dependent upon how much love you want to give out in your life and how open your heart is.

Trust me, I have attracted a lot of losers in my life because of my loving spirit. We must also have a great amount of wisdom when it comes to who we invite into our lives.

What you must look for in a partner:

1. Trustworthiness

2. A Sense of Security

3. Neither Avoidant or Needy

4. On the same path spiritually with you

5. Having space and time for you; and of course

6. Is authentic and secure with his or her life.

The above is an idealistic list. You always sow the seeds of your highest expectation in the supreme consciousness, then God begins to grow the plant. We can only sow the seeds and continue to believe by acting “as if” we are already ready for our dream to come true. Spirit does the rest. This is true in the earth as we sow seeds into the fertile soil. Spirit shows us that this is an example of how the law of attraction works.

We can only water the seed of our dream and wait. We can’t overwater and pull up the plants out of the ground.

Remember: today that your dreams are about to happen when you believe with your entire heart that the possibilities of the universe are endless.

Read more about fulfilling your destiny and changing your life with the right prayers and belief in my latest book: Your New Story, Your New Life.

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When You Are Inundated by Negatives!

Recently, my husband and I have realigned ourselves with our spiritual practice and have made a deeper commitment to Spiritual growth—in general—and to each other.

The day after this commitment, we both felt an immediate shift in our surrounding energy. This feeling continued for the next two days. Even though we continued in our daily practices, no matter what was going on negatively in our lives, some kind of distortion was happening to us and around us.

When you let go of something negative in your life, the spiritual detachment causes a release of negative energy into the ether. This, in turn, causes a distortion or a depolarization of the energy surrounding you.

I have discussed this postulation with some of my spiritual friends. Most agree that some kind of spiritual interference happens when ones makes a spiritual advancement or has made an important decision in life.

The expectation for Daddy to pat you on the back and say, “Great job, my child!” is actually the exact opposite of what happens in this case. Negativity doesn’t happen because all of heaven isn’t rejoicing over your positive steps forward. This negativity happens simply because the pull of negative power has shifted from within and is moving from you, affecting the energetic field in your body and in your surroundings.

A few days later, I feel more positive and surrounded by love. However, I have to tell you, in the past few days I wanted to get in my meditation chair and retreat there forever.

I hope this encourages someone who is going through a major positive change or choice in life. Don’t expect for good to happen immediately, even though it may. Sometimes, however, the negative distortion puts up a battle to stay its course and retain its home within your mind, your story and in your life!



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I Need a Hero

Who doesn’t need a hero these days to save us from all the negativity in the world? It seems that the only people who had been stepping up to the front of the line are the negatives. Yes, it’s time for you and I to be a voice for God and for the good of humanity.

I have a question for you. Have you ever considered that you might just be this hero everyone is waiting for? Have you ever thought that perhaps you have been perfectly designed to do something great in this world, but you have been too afraid to step forward, to become available for the big picture?

About 3 years ago I decided I wanted to do more than just sit on my ass and write this blog and hope millions of people would read it. I have succeeded in that and have written loads of books, as well. Do I feel anymore connected to my path? Certainly.

But how many people are really are changed by reading just one blog? How many people decide in the moment they read a book or something on the Internet that they will be changed forever and step into their authentic self?  Some, yes. I know I have read a few books that changed me forever. I hope that will happen. Until then, do I just continue to write and hope? I don’t think so.

In my change of life 3 years ago, I had decided to wake up and walk where Spirit leads me. I have walked down roads and alleyways I never thought possible as a result. The only enemy I have is my own fear. And for absolving that fear with consistent positive thoughts, I have succeeded in moving forward most days.

But, I had an interesting AHA moment yesterday I wanted to share. As of Friday, I had two very important auditions for me coming up. One of the auditions (a commercial) had me singing and dancing to the song, “I Need a Hero!” As I was at the callback for the other audition (musical theater), waiting for my turn, what do I hear from the girl just before me in the audition hall?

Yes, she was singing, “I Need a Hero!”

This is not a typical musical theater song at all and is literally one in a million songs she could have sung for this rock opera musical audition. Yet, there it was—in my face—saying, “You, Bo, are in the right place at the right time!” Be amazing! Be fearless! Be ready! Be the hero!

Can you step today as well? Right back if you can. Reply to this blog and just say one word of hope!


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