Christmas Without Expectation #Christmasday
December 25, 2013
Can you imagine asking your young child who has been waiting 364 days for Santa to come down the chimney to deliver all his/her wants and desires to wait another day or two? Or worse yet, telling those same children Santa couldn’t come this year. The children’s hopes and dreams would be dashed. A great deal of precious zeal and joy come from the expectation of Christmas—even for adults.
This year, Allen and I decided not to buy each other anything for Christmas, because we wanted to save for our Caribbean vacation. I thought taking the pressure off of Christmas buying was a good idea. I’m the kind of person who likes to buy presents at odd times during the year when no one is expecting. I do that with cards and flowers as well. The only time I really go all out is on birthdays. Birthdays are all one person’s special day. It just makes sense to honor that day and make it special. Where Christmas seems to be more obligatory, rather than special any more. This is just my opinion, but I’m sure many others feel the same.
One year all of my friends who usually traded gifts decided to collect the money we would have spent and give it to a charity. To tell you the truth, Secret Santa wasn’t all that fun with nothing to trade. Yet, the thought was good.
In our family, because we have so many brothers, sisters, grandchildren and friends who celebrate with us, we have often decided to do Secret Santa, so that we could each get one big special gift. That, I have to admit, was a lot easier and wonder filled.
I have noticed in life that most of our deepest wounds come out during times of expectation: When we say “I love you,” what will our special ones say in return? When we do our best to make a gift for someone, will they smile and appreciate our intent, our will they fake joy? When we work hard for that promotion, and the person who has done much less for the company gets the honors, it never feels good. But how do we live life without expectation? Is it possible to instill in our children at a young age the getting on a special day isn’t a necessity?
When I was a kid, I was lucky to get one small gift; usually it was clothing to stay warm. We had little money and/or my dad just didn’t like spending his on Christmas. In fact, I remember him throwing twenty dollars at each of us about two weeks before Christmas day and saying, “Here, go buy yourselves something.” Yeah, Dad. Needless to say, he wasn’t my idea of Santa or a hero. Perhaps, that’s why I have a lack of interest in Christmas. If it wasn’t for my mother living with me, I probably would have never bought and put up a Christmas tree. These things never interested me. However, I have to say, that since I’ve began my own personal traditions during the holidays, things have been better. I even enjoy looking at the beautiful tree every year since I bought it.
Expectation is a part of life, probably the hardest part of life. I try to live my life without it, but even though I know it isn’t in my best interest to expect good from those who have hurt me in the past, I continue to look for the greatest in everyone. I feel people can change. But, to my dismay, most of them create the same attitudes like robots every year. If I were smart, I would stop anticipating good, but perhaps continue to hope for the best in all. Maybe the secret to not getting stymied by expectation is simply knowing this one secret about God: Spirit is always providing DIRECTION, not REJECTION!
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The masses search outward for things that qualify them as a person, but I always go inward for that which quantifies me for greatness. At twenty-five I preached on street corners in NYC as an in-the-closet Pentecostal minister. One day I heard a still small voice say, ‘God cannot be contained in a book or a law or even in a religion. Dig deeper, reach further to find me, and you will find your authentic Self.’”
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