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I went to Kroger two days before Christmas for what I forgot to buy the day before. As I picked up some milk and butter, I noticed a huge cart in the 75% off aisle. Nothing moves me faster than a sale! So, I rushed over to Aisle 10 to find a woman taking down Christmas items and putting up Valentine’s Day cards, candy, and gifts. Really? Wow, if you didn’t think life was about consumerism at that moment, then you haven’t been watching closely.

Since none of the regular television shows were being aired during the holiday, I watched a new show last night called Mind Games. If you’ve never seen it, you are in for a real treat. The title doesn’t describe what the show is about. The entire 30 minutes was about creating scenarios where the mind sees things—or doesn’t see things—because of the limited amount of concentration of our brains and focus of our eyes. I was astonished how many times I missed people changing clothes, adding wigs, fixing hair differently, and even people switched for another person, as I tried to focus on something mundane, such as counting the amount of footballs flying across the screen. What we miss in life because of our limited minds is amazing.

Of course, this got me thinking. If a store starts in December thinking about Valentine’s Day, then even subconsciously I’m going to add this to my list of things to do as early as January. Articles seen in our periphery subconsciously sneak into our minds and hearts like bugs crawling through cracks under winter storm doors. We may not focus on them, but our mind catch a slight peek and stores the data and might dream about getting attacked by large bug creatures.

So, this concept could be seen for differences within group consciousness as well. If you watch a large majority of mainstream television, you automatically know that the new normal is a gay person on almost every show, except, of course, Duck Dynasty (though I’m sure one is hiding in open site). For about fifteen years, or at least since Will & Grace aired, television has slowly, but surely, been changing our minds about the gay perspective. They have changed the consciousness of middle Americans from gays being a queer strain of human to an almost normal person with different sexual desires. This is a good thing. If you wonder why so many states have passed marriage laws, it’s not because people have suddenly woken up to fairness. No, no, no. The reason is because of Hollywood and the news helping the gays move towards a fair shake by recreating the gay paradigm for most of America’s consciousness.

If you want to see how news and media shape consciousness, just carefully watch an election. You don’t have to look too deeply to notice that someone like the Republican gynecologist from Tennessee who won an election in a small town, even though he got a patient pregnant and asked her to get an abortion. Not even detrimental news could sway voters away from a politician who was not supporting Obamacare. That was the only issue on this ticket. Policy didn’t matter. Morals didn’t matter. Truth didn’t even matter. The only thing the wise PR people did was make the Republican’s ads about anti-Democratic behavior. I really don’t care what side of the political ticket you sit on, you have to see that this politician should not have been elected. Yet, he won by a large majority.

I was saddened by how much people don’t see, when they are focused on something else. So, today, take a good look around you. Don’t limit your focus only on what your intention happens to be. Take a moment to view the entire scenario. Perhaps, you will find a different world waiting for you today, one you never expected.

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