Feeling Depressed and Abandoned? #anxiety #stress #abandoned #change #lovewins
January 24, 2017
Almost everyday, someone contacts me and explains that he or she is feeling depressed, anxious or abandoned by friends and family. This “feeling” is worldwide right now because of all of the upheaval around us (the macrocosm). So, in our own worlds (our microcosm), any small change can cause a huge imbalance in our emotions, making us feel depressed and rejected. I get it. I’ve been there before.
The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that 350 Million people around the world have diagnosable depression. This does not count our small bouts of depression that come and go or the millions of instances where children and adults go undiagnosed from severe depression disorders.
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- First and foremost, clinical or major depression is growing at an incredible rate.
- People of all ages, backgrounds, lifestyles, and nationalities suffer from major depression, with a few exceptions.
- Up to 20% of people experience symptoms of depression.
- 10 times more people suffer from major depression now than in 1945 (2)
- The average age of first onset of major depression is 25-29
I AM NOT ALONE! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
This is my new motto for my practice and my life. I know that many of you feel as if you are walking around in shadows or in the dark, trying to take hold of your life and make something of it with relationships and work. However, transforming your life doesn’t start with the external, though I know that many of you are on spiritual quests as well.
Our deepest wounds and struggles are what cause us to transform into beautiful, evolved spiritual beings living in human bodies.
I often look at the path of the butterfly for a perfect metaphor of the path of transformation from skirmishing around slowly in the dirt to spinning a web high above the earth to hide from the world, for a time; then, suddenly, you find yourself breaking out from the cocoon and you have wings you never realized had been developing all along.
I know this for myself. Thirty years ago, I had diagnosable depression. I had suicidal ideations. I desperately felt alone in the world, though I had been surrounded by people who loved me. I looked for ways to hide from life and lived in my head most days. My thoughts were unwieldy and cyclical, playing like an unwanted movie over and over again until I wanted to scream. How did I make them stop?
Honestly, as I look back, it was many factors, but two specific ones stick out. I had grown up in a severely abusive childhood with sexual abuse and no real role models. Most of the time, I fended for myself and took care of those who were to be caring for me. It was an upside down life.
I vowed to grow up healthy and wealthy and much wiser than those that were to nurture me, but failed. In anyone’s mind, though, we grow attached to our “ideas of success” and our “dreams of amazing love” rather than the reality of our human existence.
I was speaking to a friend this morning who didn’t have to go through all of the struggles I did to find the right mate. His first love stayed his love for his entire life. I shared with him how many times I had to live out every mistake to show my heart what was right and secure and what definitely was not right for me. I went through so much hurt trying to correct the wrongs of my past—in the people I dated. I wonder now how I ever found my way.
Honestly, the only two real aspects of my path that kept me going were 1.) talk therapy with a life coach, spiritual coach, or therapist; and 2) my own search for spiritual truth.
When I discovered what I believed, wrote it down, and confessed it many times daily as an affirmation, my life began to turn around.
What I understand now about the depressed mind is that it is not the ONE MIND I confess I am a part of now. This ONE MIND is not sick at all. It is perfect. However, when we are depressed, we don’t believe we have any sense of perfection whenever we conceive of ourselves as humans with faults. We just simply see our inability to be Like God.
My friends, you don’t need to be “like God.” You are already God. Your only goal in life is to be to get rid of those thoughts that no longer serve you and SHINE YOUR LIGHT.
I had a friend tell me of his endeavors to finish a piece of artwork he had been commissioned to do. He kept getting trapped by small problems. Finally, he was able to send me a picture of the finished product. I could see none of the faults he specifically defined for me. All I saw was his incredible intent and his powerful light in the work. However, I had to convince him of this. Seriously, I spent over 15 minutes telling him, treating for him, and loving him into the idea that his small imperfections were part of the beauty of his work. If the client wanted a perfect replica of something, he would have taken a picture and had blown it up.
Managing our depression is often as simple as sitting in the quiet and confirming that we are a part of this great world and made in the image of God—imperfections and all—especially our imperfections. Because of this, even our flaws are simply okay. Even more than okay, they are beautiful.
Love yourself today!
You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!
Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available. http://www.bosebastian.com/client-praise/
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