We’ve all heard the story of the alcoholic or drug addict found face down in a mud puddle after losing his friends, job, and family. Generally, this is a right of passage, as there is nowhere else to go but up, if he/she faces the addiction.
I’ve been watching a new television show called “Mom.” I’ve not laughed so hard at a television comedy since I found “Big Bang Theory.” “Mom” is television at its best. Allison Janney plays the alcoholic mother of an alcoholic daughter who has a child that is prematurely pregnant at 16. The three-women household defines the word destitute. Though the problem of alcoholism is terrible, they seem to make the trip to finding their way to the light a delightfully authentic comedy. It is definitely my pick for best new comedy.
Over the years of my life, I have heard many stories of hitting rock bottom. Most times this happens as a result of an addiction, which means that the Ego had been in complete control for a while. The person involved usually has a “dark night of the soul,” which can be defined as the weakest moment of your life. This is when you finally realize that accepting your spiritual truth, whatever that may be, is the only way out.
My dark night was a year after I moved to Nashville. I had been an “in the closet” homosexual for many years, as I left my sexuality for the church and religion. I thought I couldn’t be gay and love God at the same time. As I struggled for many years, even giving up the idea of having an intimate partner completely. I asked God for answers.
A friend recommended I go to see a counselor, who happened to be a priest at Catholic Services. I made an appointment for the next week. My first appointment took three hours. I couldn’t stop crying. Every story I told about my past led to more tears and shame. For some reason, up to that point in my life, I felt as if my childhood had been normal. But suddenly, I realized that all the abuse I had suffered left me with posttraumatic stress and enough anxiety to fill the Titanic.
The priest was kind and caring. He helped me through much of what could have been a nervous breakdown. He advised me that my childhood wasn’t my fault. He showed me ways of forgiving and moving on that I hadn’t thought of in the past. Still, one night soon after I started therapy, I wanted to take my life. I felt hopeless and fearful that I was too broken to ever find happiness. I didn’t make any specific plans as to how I would proceed with suicide, but I thought hard about not continuing my life. I shared with my mother how sad I had been. She lived in Tucson, Arizona, then, and I lived in Nashville.
I went out to get groceries. When I returned to my house, three policemen with flashlights were looking in my windows. Of course, this scared me. I thought I had been robbed, or that they had been looking for some criminal who ended up hiding in my basement.
But, the truth, though it sounds funny now when I think of the scenario: my mother was so frightened that I would actually take my life that she called the police and told them of her fear. The words of the big, hunky policeman were what actually set me back on course, “Son, I think you better call your mom. She thinks you took your life.”
When I heard his words, I realized how horrible suicide would be for everyone around me, especially my family. So, I decided to continue with counseling and seek for a more authentic way to live my life. This action alone is what helped me be compassionate toward myself and my personal situation. As a result, I ended up starting on a path of healing that has taken me through until today.
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A Year to CLEAR Challenge:
(Please Know: You Can Join Us At Any Point in the Year Challenge.)
The masses search outward for things that qualify them as a person, but I always go inward for that which quantifies me for greatness. At twenty-five I preached on street corners in NYC as an in-the-closet Pentecostal minister. One day I heard a still small voice say, ‘God cannot be contained in a book or a law or even in a religion. Dig deeper, reach further to find me, and you will find your authentic Self.’”
A Year to CLEAR Challenge!
The acronym CLEAR stands for (Compassionate, Loving, Enthusiastic, And Relationship-Ready). The goal of this project is to engulf readers in a weekly study that will transform them by removing blocks, promote self-growth, and give them wings to fly freely into daily life. Each week, by going to BoSebastian.com and choosing the Year to CLEAR Challenge tab, a new challenge or thought to provoke conversation, growth, and group functionality.
My vision is to make Finding Authentic You the book to have in your Kindle or on your computer. The book is a comprehensive look at growth—spiritually, mentally, and physically.
As a yoga teacher and student of the Ayurvedic tradition, I bring to the table understanding of physical challenges, the ability to overcome mental problems with Life & Health Coaching, as well as hypnotherapy, and expertise in meditation and spirituality as a minister.
The combination of all three in one book with an interactive connection to like-minded readers, for one year, is what makes this Year to CLEAR Challenge a must-do for every spiritual seeker.
The One-Year Approach to Change
No one believes he or she can change overnight. But success in change comes from the metaphors of nature. Seasonally, life changes all around us in nature. Finding Authentic You offers a gradual change perspective, looking at the triune aspects of change as in yoga: Body, Mind and Spirit.
Accessing the ability to change and finding yourself actually pursuing change must be a daily search, which I call getting to the “observer mind.”
In this frontal cortex of the brain we find the anatomy of change and the power to counter every negative trigger of the human process. The workings of Hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) are all positive actions to help the mind and body flow to a positive space for change.
Every aspect of FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU fulfills this constant need for diffusing the negative past and dreaming of a fulfilling future.
Step 1: Recognize That Change is Inevitable
Step 2: Release from Resistance to Change
Step 3: Understanding Change and Allow Spirit to Define It
Step 4: A History Lesson—About You
Step 5: Look at Your Past with Compassion
Step 6: Making a Strong Commitment to Change
Step 7: Dream Your Fabulous Future
Go to www.bosebastian.com for Week One to Four Challenges:
TOOLS FOR CHANGE:
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• My Latest Book: Finding Authentic You—7 Steps to Effective Change (800 page downloadable Kindle version)
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• Smoke Cessation mp3
• Weight Loss mp3
• Hypnotic Lap Band surgery Mp3
• Insomnia mp3
• Eternal Om mp3
• Meditation Music mp3
• Guide to Meditation mp3
• Healing the Body mp3
• And my “Lessons from the Heart” book ready for your download purchase.
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Also, look for MY LATEST BOOK: “Finding Authentic You, 7 Steps to Effective Change” with a Year to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website in the Webstore. Thanks!
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