Hoʻoponopono and the Slight Edge: “I Love You, but I Don’t Like You” #marriage #spiritualgrowth #poweroftouch #spiritualadvice

How many couples do you know who go through their days with the motto: “I love you, but I don’t like you”? I have a few couple friends who haggle their way through life with spats about almost everything. It’s always the same fight or similar. They don’t even realize that their bickering happens automatically, in front of their friends, their families, and most importantly their kids, who share the same tendency. They cannot seem to agree on a single thing. In fact, often each of them will automatically take the opposite side of an issue, simply out of habit.

There is a psychological theory called the Slight Edge. Basically, it states that there are very small things we do each day in life that literally make no mental or physical difference in our lives. But, when we continue to do them—day-in and day-out—they accumulate to cause dysfunction and disease. For instance: If you don’t brush your teeth for one day, this is a small infraction. But, if you continually miss that all-important appointment for dental health, your teeth will rot.

The same holds true with these small spats. Once in a while, yes, we will be in a bad mood and take it out on the person we love the most. However, if we let this infraction become a habit and the mainframe of everyday with the partner we have chosen to cherish, honor, and love, our relationship will deteriorate.

In Hawaii, an ancient reconciliation and forgiveness practice is called Hoʻoponopono (ho-o-pono-pono). When something like this spat occurs, simply say this small phrase: “I love you. I’m Sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” Say it every time. Say it to the person. Then say it to yourself.

Say it before you begin the fight. Say it when you remember you’re fighting. Stop the insanity of your constant bickering!

It serves no one.

It is that Slight Edge that, if it continues, will slowly deteriorate your relationship to nothing.

Do you really want that? (Share if you agree!)


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