Is Love a Bargain? #bargainshopping #realtionshipadvice #lovelessons

I love a good bargain. My eyes double in size when I see a sign that reads: 75% OFF! Truly, it’s an adrenaline rush better than sex! One year, a client of mine gave me a $150 gift card to Dillards. I waited until 45 days after Christmas and thought I’d burst out of my skin when I came home with about $1500 worth of stuff for $0. Yes, I’m a sales-addict!

When it comes to love, no bargains exist. Love doesn’t come with a sign that says: “pick me because I just got a divorce and I’m vulnerable and 1/2 off!”

In fact, those signs will get you into the most trouble of all. Here are some other signs to watch out for when you’re shopping for a mate:

  1. I just got out of a 20-year relationship and I’m ready to DATE.
  2. I was playing for the opposite team in my last relationship!
  3. When he or she says, “I’m really not good at communication!”
  4. I’ve been clean for an entire month! WOW!
  5. Looking at other people, sexually, isn’t a crime!
  6. I watch an hour of porn before I go to bed everynight.
  7. I’m a prejudiced bigot! (this is like looking for the flaw in a “seconds” pile).

So, you get it that love isn’t a bargain. In fact, when you shop for love, you probably won’t find what you’re looking for. The size won’t be right. The color will be just a shade too dark, the material a little scratchy.

It’s when you go out shopping with a dear friend, you find that perfectly fitting outfit. It was in a store you would have not gone in had it not been for the path of someone else. This is when you’ll find your mate. At least, that’s what I’m told. I’m still meandering around the mall with no bags in my hands, hoping someone will notice.

I do know this about love: from what I’ve nurtured and grown in the past, it stuns me when I find it. It draws me in and keeps me there. But, now that I’m an older, healthier individual with less attachment issues and certainly less neediness (which comes packaged nicely with age)—I wonder if love will slap me in the face or kick me in the behind. I think it will have to do one or the other to get my attention, because I’m not so certain that I want to spend the money on that one-of-a-kind designer outfit that was designed specifically for me. Even if it stares me down and beckons me like that perfect bargain.

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