You see a hot dude or a crushing hot babe on the beach.
Let’s start with the dude. The tanning oil makes every ripple of his pecks and abs glisten in the sun. You can bounce a nickel off of every other part of his body. His hair is disheveled and the sunglasses block his eyes, so you can’t see inside his soul. But the parts you see, you lust after.
If you’re of a different persuasion, think of a beautiful woman on the beach, equally perfect, curves to kill for, a swimsuit barely covering her areola, just coming out of the water, flipping her hair back. Sun glistens off of her cleavage and navel.
The last time I smelled liver and onions cooking, it actually smelled tempting to taste. I actually tried it again, even though the thought of eating gizzards of any kind really grosses me out. As soon as I took a bite, I had a flashback of eating liver as a child and I almost vomited on the spot. It tasted terrible—nothing like it smelled.
Now you might enjoy liver and onions, but my point it that not everything tastes as it smells. In fact, there are plenty of things in life that look a great deal more tempting than they actually are.
We look at people like the perfect gods and goddesses on the beach with the eyes of a savage. We have no idea what they are like, who they are, if their breath stinks, if they’ve even bathed in the last week, or if they have a terminal illness. None of these things generally go through our minds. We just lust without limitation—most of us.
What if you were walking down the beach and the smell of liver and onions wafted by you? And as you passed by the smell, someone stood there with a tempting sample. Would you try it? Would you go to a sleazy motel room with someone you met at the beach that was killer gorgeous? Or would you go out into the water with that person and make love in the deep?
I have had friends who have done such things. Some have come back with stories that sound like it was quite an experience. Others are not so picturesque. But on each side of the coin, both people come back with nothing but a memory, bad or good.
A good memory might result in wanting to try and recapture that moment again. This could lead to a terrible sex addiction. A bad memory could lead to disease or, hopefully, realizing that fantasy is mostly just that—something outside the paradigm of reality. It lasts for as long as the tastes lingers in your mouth, then all that’s left is digestion. Sometimes if it goes in spicy hot, it comes out even hotter.
My point is this: do we spend our lives looking at things that tempt us and desire them? Or do we look at the unlimited perfection of all that God has to offer us in so many different ways that our attention is never besmirched by a thorn in the flesh.
I work with people all day long who have different kinds of lusts: food, sex, smoking, pornography, drugs, masturbation, shopping, credit card abuse, gambling. You name it, I’ve seen it. But with every addiction, there is an initial place where a paramount temptation drew the person over the edge. Then, after the initial time, every time there after, has been trying to recapture what can never be relived.
So, you have to live life as if you have never seen it—EVERY DAY> EVERY HOUR> EVERY MINUTE> EVERY SECOND. New unlimited resource will fill your senses with something wonderful every time you look up into the sky or watch a bird or smell a flower.
You can’t get back the love you had fifteen years ago. It will never come back, not even if you win back the love of the person who left you. Your relationship will be different, because you are different, and the other person is different. Everything changes moment by moment.
We must learn to be happy with the NOW, no matter what it presents.
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