Missing Someone During the Holidays #Christmasdepression
December 17, 2013
Many people look forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas and Chanukah, but plenty more people find holidays challenging for some very tenuous reasons: regret, family problems, the loss of a loved one, and the remembrance of friends past. For the man or woman with anxiety, good cheer all around can bring with it a terrible sense of loss. Many churches do a service especially for this purpose right around the holiday. If you deal with the loss of a loved one or never having a loving family around the holidays, you may consider joining with a group of people who share your grief.
Personally, my holiday tradition was always to leave town and go on a vacation or spend time with one of my sisters who have children. I could hide all of my angst by running away from it. I did this for almost my entire adult life, until my mother, whom I care for, could no longer travel for the holiday. Now I have to put up a tree and deal with the past. I have to tell you, sometime I feel very sullen. Most of my feelings come around the loss of people in my life. Some of the other feelings, the ones I have dealt with, I have changed by defining my own Christmas traditions, completely different than the past.
After never putting up my own Christmas tree, I actually bought one four years ago on sale after Christmas. I also bought every beautiful 75% off ornament I could find at Dillards and Macys that would make the most beautiful tree I’ve ever seen. The next year, interestingly enough, my mom had a heart problem and ended up having a triple bypass right before Christmas, forcing me to face my own challenge of creating my personal holiday tradition.
That year, Mom sat on the couch and watched as I put up our first tree. I have to tell you, I was fascinated with all the excitement going on inside. Every ornament was a surprise, as I had never even opened any of the boxes from when I bought them the year before. We squealed a few times and my heart felt good about being able to give my mother the Christmas she deserved. At that point, I wasn’t sure if she would make it to see another one. God has a way of helping us get through our pain in wonderful ways. Even the need to buy a tree the year before any of this happened became an interesting synchronistic event.
The next two years, counting this year, the tree has gotten less and less filled with intrigue and a little more about duty. I still enjoy decorating the home, but I miss the feeling I had when I first opened the boxes and saw my first real Christmas tree alit with newness.
This morning I pray that God helps me feel that all those people I miss in my life are around me like angels celebrating my life WITH me, not without me. I open my heart to the idea that no boundaries are between God and I. Love never ceases. And God can heal any wound, even the deepest during this holiday.
If you must, if I must, get quiet, light a candle, and just pretend for a moment that everything in our lives is just the way God intended. In so doing, let’s be okay with the attendance at our personal holiday. If we need to, see a counselor or a life coach to help get our minds out of a dark place and into the light. You don’t have to grieve this holiday. You can feel the joy of the Christ child being birthed right in side of you, the lighting the tree for the first time.
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