Plenty of Time! Really? #growingold #relationshipadvice #spirituality #spiritualadvice #psychology

I have a friend who reminds me—constantly—that she and I are getting old and should find a mate before we get older and unattractive. To that I say, “We have plenty of time.” But as the words proceed from my mouth, my toes curl under in my shoes as to not show her my anxiety.

Do we really have all the time in the world to find true love or anything, for that matter—like a dream job or the perfect home. If you are young, you will probably see a long life ahead. If you are over 45, you realize that you blinked your eyes twice, clicked your heels a few times, and suddenly you are receiving invitations to AARP. Life is not long. It is very short. If you are not doing what you want to do, now, stop everything and get to doing what you really want. This is the moment to live, friends.

It is not too late to find love, either. I have had many of clients and friends who have found love over 50. I even had a client who married at 78 a couple of years ago. A very interesting fact, though, finding love as you are older is actually a little easier, because your requirements become more about finding and attracting a great friend and partner to laugh with and share life. These two attributes become more intriguing than that sexually stunning model.

I know I have had relationships with the stunningly gorgeous. They usually are as plastic as they look. (Yes, a generalization.) People who spend their lives at the gym to look perfect usually have some priority problems. Healthy is wonderful. A beautiful body is a piece of art. But, we always have to look at the primary reason why someone has to be perfectly chiseled, not just exceedingly healthy. Who exactly is he or she trying to attract?

I also know this: when I have felt the least attractive, I have attracted the most handsome men. There is no rhyme or reason to that fact. I have found that people with easily perceivable flaws attract more people because, subconsciously, daters want to know that they can also have flaws. And we all have many flaws, no matter how hard we try to hide them in the dating process.

I work with a lot of middle-aged men and women who have been divorced and are on their fourth or fifth try for a good marriage. These people are the hardest to convince that a good person exists in the world. Most people become jaded after too many failed attempts at love. But, I am here to tell you that anything you really want is not impossible to find or to achieve if you are sowing seeds for it in your mind. You must continue to believe that this new life is possible for you.

The reason the jaded people have problems finding love again is simply because their feelings about love have more impact on the subjective mind (that which creates new love and possibilities) than anyone could possibly imagine. You are the some total of all of what you think and believe.

Life is not over until you believe it is.


This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in March)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in April or May of Screen Shot 2015-12-28 at 8.42.10 AM 2016!


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