Prenatal Attachments Study Prove a Child’s Development with Mother Before Birth
November 8, 2013
A recent study in Sweden demonstrated that maternal prenatal attachment during the third trimester of pregnancy is associated with the postnatal maternal involvement and can serve as an important diagnostic aid in identifying those women for whom the mother-child interaction is likely to be suboptimal.
Attachment theory is one of my favorite topics these days. I relate most of psychological issues with depression, anxiety and PTSD with what happened as a child. As a result of this kind of study, I have limited the amount of confusing reactions in my own life to a few. Even those few, with insistent self-inquiry, I generally find an honest understanding of why and how I react to certain external behaviors.
Just recently, I had one of my favorite friends write an email that caught me off guard. I felt judged and demeaned by her. I know for certain, after talking with her, that what she wrote was rather innocuous and was just an honest reply to an email I sent her.
However, after much self-inquiry about why I had reacted poorly to the email, I realized that much of my feelings weren’t about my friend at all. My reaction was an attachment wound that happened frequently over the years with friends, poorly written emails, and misunderstandings. When I faced my reaction with compassion, I realized that I probably have been reacting to other people, friends, coworkers, partners, and family with the same kind of PTSD/Attachment wound and reciprocal behavior.
If you have twenty people in your life treat you with the same anxious and paranoid response, you may become anxious yourself, expecting that others may react to you in the same way. The unfortunate problem with attachment wounds is that you may have 2000 people act fairly and appropriately, but the only actions that truly registers in the subconscious are the negative ones. This is the unfair premise of the attachment wound process. When we hurt, it registers in our brain in a different way than when we experience joy. Pain puts a mark in the subconscious and seems to build its own neural pathway, only to be fortified by other negative reactions of pain.
So, how does one deal with the problems he/she faces as a result of something that occurred in the past or something that happened even before you were cognizant enough to have a choice? The action is rather simple in nature, but hard to achieve if you are not self-aware and seeking peace of mind and a connection to your own ego self.
We often identify the ego self as something we want to avoid or diminish to become spiritual. But currently, your ego is the human definition of your spirit dwelling in this human condition. You need to understand the ego to make pertinent change in your behavior.
At birth, you were like a computer with no information on it, but had hardware and the most recent update of the computer’s system software. When you arrived on earth—or perhaps, as the example at the beginning suggest, even in the prenatal state—you began to store data on your hard drive. You truly didn’t get the opportunity to begin typing in your own data until you were old enough to understand decision-making.
As a result, much of the initial information stored in your hard drive either has to be erased or changed to update to your current understanding of yourself.
The hardest issue is finding this information. You didn’t input the information, so, most of the time, you have no idea where it had been stored on your hard drive or subconscious, to complete the metaphor. You have to wait until a situation or circumstance comes up in your life to show where this information resides.
Once you find the problem or diagnose the misfire, it’s even harder to figure out how that old wiring worked, as now your system software has changed significantly as an adult. This is where life coaching and hypnotherapy and meditation come in. To understand yourself and to find those neural connectors, you have to get quiet and observant.
If you can’t find the way to that part of your mind, then you can never make effective change in your outer circumstances. I’m not trying to pander you for hypnosis sessions. I want you to understand that there are few ways of undoing attachment problems. Even a therapist who believes in this premise will take you into trancelike places, similar to hypnosis, to help you begin to understand the workings of your own brain. In my estimation, the work is not only similar to hypnosis, it is based on clinical hypnosis practices. So, a trained hypnotherapist is much more likely to be able to take a diagnosis from a therapist or psychologist, such as PTSD and anxiety from attachment disorder, and help you make effective change more quickly using hypnosis, NLP, EFT, and EMDR.
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The masses search outward for things that qualify them as a person, but I always go inward for that which quantifies me for greatness. At twenty-five I preached on street corners in NYC as an in-the-closet Pentecostal minister. One day I heard a still small voice say, ‘God cannot be contained in a book or a law or even in a religion. Dig deeper, reach further to find me, and you will find your authentic Self.’”
A Year to CLEAR Challenge!
The acronym CLEAR stands for (Compassionate, Loving, Enthusiastic, And Relationship-Ready). The goal of this project is to engulf readers in a weekly study that will transform them by removing blocks, promote self-growth, and give them wings to fly freely into daily life. Each week, by going to BoSebastian.com and choosing the Year to CLEAR Challenge tab, a new challenge or thought to provoke conversation, growth, and group functionality.
My vision is to make Finding Authentic You the book to have in your Kindle or on your computer. The book is a comprehensive look at growth—spiritually, mentally, and physically.
As a yoga teacher and student of the Ayurvedic tradition, I bring to the table understanding of physical challenges, the ability to overcome mental problems with Life & Health Coaching, as well as hypnotherapy, and expertise in meditation and spirituality as a minister.
The combination of all three in one book with an interactive connection to like-minded readers, for one year, is what makes this Year to CLEAR Challenge a must-do for every spiritual seeker.
The One-Year Approach to Change
No one believes he or she can change overnight. But success in change comes from the metaphors of nature. Seasonally, life changes all around us in nature. Finding Authentic You offers a gradual change perspective, looking at the triune aspects of change as in yoga: Body, Mind and Spirit.
Accessing the ability to change and finding yourself actually pursuing change must be a daily search, which I call getting to the “observer mind.”
In this frontal cortex of the brain we find the anatomy of change and the power to counter every negative trigger of the human process. The workings of Hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) are all positive actions to help the mind and body flow to a positive space for change.
Every aspect of FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU fulfills this constant need for diffusing the negative past and dreaming of a fulfilling future.
Step 1: Recognize That Change is Inevitable
Step 2: Release from Resistance to Change
Step 3: Understanding Change and Allow Spirit to Define It
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