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Finding Authentic You #authenticity #love #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

Living an authentic life takes practice, mostly because we all have learned to live according to the ideas and social etiquette of the world. Finding what you really feel can often take silence and peaceful moments to go inside and discover the real you. This is the reason I suggest practice, even though in most cases you would think true authenticity would actually sound like a contraindication to contemplation. In all actuality, finding your authentic self comes from asking yourself the hard questions—the ones that take time and thought to answer. The questions I recommend are below:

  1. What’s happening here? What am I really feeling?
  2. What can I do to get my ego out of the way for this lesson to come forth in my life?
  3. Is there a greater good that could be happening here that I cannot see?

You might look at these questions and think that they seem simple. But, when you apply them to a painful experience, you may feel otherwise. For instance, you may wake up one day feeling that you have found the love of your life or the perfect job. By the end of the day, the relationship or job has all but disintegrated. You step slowly away from the point of change and wonder how life could have transformed so much in so little time. This is the moment for the practice of authenticity.

The last time this kind of changing event happened to me, my man friend had told me he loved me. One week later, when I was on top of the world, he told me that he wanted to also begin seeing other people. Of course, that was not fine with me, and I broke up with him.

On the way home from his house, I had to ask myself the questions above, talking to myself as if I were a wise counselor who understood the truth and was sharing it with my human ego. I felt as far away from God as I could have ever felt in that moment. However, by the time I reached my own home, I experienced peace—something completely different. This is what I did to achieve the change.

I asked myself the first questions. What am I feeling? What is happening here? To answer authentically, I had to know my truth. I had to understand that I was one with the Eternal Spirit that had created me and, also, created my man friend (that was the difficult part). We each were learning specific lessons. I didn’t know what Luis was learning, but I could be certain that if I opened my mind, I would discover what I was to learn, as I got out of the way of my own ego emotions.

I realized that what was coming up for me was rejection. I ultimately felt: not good enough, handsome enough, buff enough to keep a good man. But, when I began to share the truth about Who I Am with myself, I realized that if I am made of God, and Luis is made of God; we ultimately could not be rejecting each other, because cannot reject God. If we were not rejecting each other, then we were in each other’s life to teach each other a lesson. What was that lesson?

I focused in on that very thing for the rest of the evening. Interestingly, I did not shed one tear during the process. I knew inside that my life would be just fine without him. I was more angry at his choice than sad about my life. I felt deceived and rightfully so. But, what Luis did was not my concern. What I felt, what I believed, what I would do with the situation was all mine with which to grow. And grow is exactly what I did.

So, today, your lesson is to look for the good in all situations. Ask yourself the three questions above and listen in the silence for the answers. Your entire life will change as you implement this process of self-talk.


Screen Shot 2015-12-28 at 8.42.10 AMThis year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

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Reality Check: On Death and Dying #death #grievingloss #loss #dying

One of my favorite quotes is from a book called, What Happy People Know by Dan Baker. “Every moment that’s ever been, or ever will be, is gone the instant it’s begun. So life is loss. And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.” Notice Dr. Baker doesn’t say, “But the secret of happiness…” He says, “And the secret of happiness is…”

Dr. Baker knows, with certainty, that death for anyone or anything (relationships, work, friendships) is eminent, because life changes in an instant, and every relationship is on a trajectory toward death. So, someone has to die in a relationship eventually. You must retire. Someone must move away. Our deepest love falls apart. This is reality; it’s not pessimism. When you truly get this truth, your entire life will change.

Life begins when you accept that death is imminent, because you immediately realize the gift you have been given in each relationship (even your relationship to work or a hobby). Conversely, with this realization, you may decide that a certain relationship or friendship or work situation is taking too much of your energy and isn’t worth holding on to. Either way, when you realize you have only a certain amount of time on earth, you lose fear and become bolder in your choices. You stand up for what you believe. You recognize the gifts that are directly in front of you. In other words, you take hold of your power IN THE NOW!

Personally, this fact has been clearly hitting me in my face this past month as I prepare to move forward to a new home in a different state. Friendships I thought were dead have found life. Friendships I wish were dead have found renewed vengeance. I have learned that the only thing that has the capacity to change is my point of view about all of it. In the face of a friend trying to ruin a poignant dinner with buddies because she doesn’t think she should move on from the past, has only cleared away the dross for those who want to stay true friends. Clients who left my life because they were afraid of change must learn to deal with their own losses without me. The new relationships with my sisters and mother must change, as Mom learns to lean on her daughters instead of always looking to me to be a life raft.

I get it! Life is—and always has been—about change! It is inevitable and imminent. We grieve our losses, because they are reality, and parents pass away eventually. But, the gift in this harsh reality is that Spirit is always making room for something new and wonderful.

Are you ready to accept this truth and live in the Now? This should be the question we ask ourselves everyday to stay completely present.


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[Chosen to show his new hypno-therapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and Given the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian, the writer and director ofFinding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior, helps people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE. Challenge yourself with one of his 13 books, healing CDs (weight loss, meditation, smoke cessation and more) or his Yoga DVD on Amazon or Amazon/Kindle: Click here to go directly to the bookshelf.]



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