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Can the Past Strangle Your Personal Power? #releasethepast #spiritualadvice #personalpower #newthought

You awaken at 5:30 a.m., before the sun rises, before anyone in your life rises, to be alone with God. What awakes with you is a memory, an old friend, something that pretended to comfort you in the past. The old friend seemingly helped you get even, regain self-esteem from a personal attack that wounded you.

Your old friend, the past, didn’t come to comfort you but to prevent you from creating good and positivity with your God Mind. Your past is strangling the power that would have been unleashed into the universe had you actually sat with God in the silence. But, instead, you chose to visit your friend who literally squashed your truth into nothingness and broke the promise you made to yourself to give up your past.

This is one of the issues of our spiritual age with which we struggle. How do we untie and let go of the anchor that keeps us bound to the shore of humanness, when we could be sailing freely in the ethers with Spirit?

Intellectually we know the Truth. Why does the Truth not always set us free in circumstances that relate to the past, especially past relations that went awry? Why are we holding on to dreams, ideas, and memories of the past that never served us, not even during the time we were living them?

In your human brain are many connections called neural pathways. When an incident happens in your life that impacts you or is similar to another bad situation a neural pathway is triggered. With this trigger comes the same emotions, the same body temperature, the same anger, and even the same physical feelings as when you were first hurt.

This particular kind of mental incident is not as strong as PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress) but mimics it in a lot of ways, especially because it seems to supersede our thinking minds and goes directly to the frontal cortex of the brain, which contains most of the dopamine-sensitive neurons in the cerebral cortex.

The dopamine system is associated with reward, attention, planning, and motivation. Dopamine tends to limit and select sensory information. From this idea, we can see that a memory may flood the frontal cortex of the brain with “reward behavior,” which could keep us locked in this “dopamine” feeling, almost as if in an addictive trans, while we are remembering the story of our past and how we “could have” reacted to save our souls from the harm.

The question is: How do we get out of this trans long enough to get back to our Spiritual Power that always exists within, even during these setbacks from our spiritual purpose?

This has been your thorn in the flesh for a very long time. It is connected to the moments in your childhood when you were helpless, in an abusive situation, and had only your innocent mind to create a place of solace. So, too, this small guy or girl (the inner child) is still operating in your life until you rescue it from the hell fires of the past.

How do you do that successfully?

The part of your Mind that can save you is the same part that gets stuck in your humanness—the observer side of the brain, which connects with the powerful Universal Mind of God. When you discern that you walk down a dark pathway toward reward-revenge behavior, you must rescue yourself, because no one else can, not even God. We have been given a decision maker that is ours to empower us and use in times like these. I call it my adult-boss mind.

When I discover I am on the wrong path or on a path that is limiting my good, I begin by placing my hand on my heart and encouraging my humanness. I tell it that I have heard its need for comfort and power. I tell my inner child what it needs to know to step away from the past feelings of revenge:

“You are and have always been connected to the mighty and powerful Mind of God. You were created in Its image. This Mind is in you and operating as you now. You can choose, in this moment, to let go of the past, which may have served you and protected you then, but no longer serves you now. Or you can sit in your old story for a while longer. Know this, though, you are in the hands of Creative Mind, a power that can give you new life, a new beginning, a new, powerful future, should you choose to believe and let go from the past right now!”


This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in March)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.AjpegKindleUS

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When Is Old Too Old to Enter the Dating Scene?

I forced myself to go out to a bar last night for a drink, by myself, on my own to see what it would feel like to be single again. It has been a long time since I have been seriously single—almost four years. I didn’t feel anything but ambivalence, to tell you the honest truth.

I didn’t see anything that I hadn’t seen a hundred times before. I didn’t imagine that my perfect match would bump into me and suddenly discover that true love would be in our futures. I didn’t imagine that I would even meet anyone new, which was true. I met no one that I hadn’t met before.

I spoke with a few friends. I met someone there whom I sincerely felt like I had been sent to meet this particular evening, though—someone who since he knocked at my door 8 years ago to rent a room—has been in my prayers. We actually got to speak for a few moments. After the conversation was over, I sensed my time at the bar was over. I left quietly.

I didn’t feel disappointed because I hadn’t gotten a number or a prospect. I didn’t feel as if life was over because everyone there was about 20 years younger than I. I didn’t even really care that I was single. I sincerely believed that for the first time in my life I was okay with being by myself and happy to be free of the burden of pleasing anyone.

I have a good friend I called a couple days ago and said, “Is there something I can do to feel pretty again?” Of course, making an allusion to the song from “West Side Story.”

This straight man just laughed. He said, “I can bring you some ribbons and bows.”

I told him, “I have Bo’s. Maybe ribbons would help.” We both just laughed.

It is true that the one thing that you lose when you stop dating is the knowledge that you are attractive and have something special to offer. I hope I don’t lose the understanding that I am an individual made of God’s divine, unlimited good. Beyond that, the exterior is just a mirror image of that good.

I try to stay healthy, in shape, groomed, in style, and mostly happy with myself. I know that mostly meeting the right person has to do with our right disposition, not our looks. So, meeting someone is probably not going to happen in a bar. It’s going to happen in a place where two minds and personalities can unfold and unlock in a pace that is equal to and no greater than the quest of relationship that is about to unfold. Of course, most of that is in God’s hands anyway.

With that, I hope that anyone who is single and reading this is motivated to get back on the horse and start this new year with gaining a better perspective of themselves and the idea of how and where dating begins—with you!

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