Living an authentic life takes practice, mostly because we all have learned to live according to the ideas and social etiquette of the world. Finding what you really feel can often take silence and peaceful moments to go inside and discover the real you. This is the reason I suggest practice, even though in most cases you would think true authenticity would actually sound like a contraindication to contemplation. In all actuality, finding your authentic self comes from asking yourself the hard questions—the ones that take time and thought to answer. The questions I recommend are below:
- What’s happening here? What am I really feeling?
- What can I do to get my ego out of the way for this lesson to come forth in my life?
- Is there a greater good that could be happening here that I cannot see?
You might look at these questions and think that they seem simple. But, when you apply them to a painful experience, you may feel otherwise. For instance, you may wake up one day feeling that you have found the love of your life or the perfect job. By the end of the day, the relationship or job has all but disintegrated. You step slowly away from the point of change and wonder how life could have transformed so much in so little time. This is the moment for the practice of authenticity.
The last time this kind of changing event happened to me, my man friend had told me he loved me. One week later, when I was on top of the world, he told me that he wanted to also begin seeing other people. Of course, that was not fine with me, and I broke up with him.
On the way home from his house, I had to ask myself the questions above, talking to myself as if I were a wise counselor who understood the truth and was sharing it with my human ego. I felt as far away from God as I could have ever felt in that moment. However, by the time I reached my own home, I experienced peace—something completely different. This is what I did to achieve the change.
I asked myself the first questions. What am I feeling? What is happening here? To answer authentically, I had to know my truth. I had to understand that I was one with the Eternal Spirit that had created me and, also, created my man friend (that was the difficult part). We each were learning specific lessons. I didn’t know what Luis was learning, but I could be certain that if I opened my mind, I would discover what I was to learn, as I got out of the way of my own ego emotions.
I realized that what was coming up for me was rejection. I ultimately felt: not good enough, handsome enough, buff enough to keep a good man. But, when I began to share the truth about Who I Am with myself, I realized that if I am made of God, and Luis is made of God; we ultimately could not be rejecting each other, because cannot reject God. If we were not rejecting each other, then we were in each other’s life to teach each other a lesson. What was that lesson?
I focused in on that very thing for the rest of the evening. Interestingly, I did not shed one tear during the process. I knew inside that my life would be just fine without him. I was more angry at his choice than sad about my life. I felt deceived and rightfully so. But, what Luis did was not my concern. What I felt, what I believed, what I would do with the situation was all mine with which to grow. And grow is exactly what I did.
So, today, your lesson is to look for the good in all situations. Ask yourself the three questions above and listen in the silence for the answers. Your entire life will change as you implement this process of self-talk.
This year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.
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