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Living a Pain Free Life: Medicine, Holistic Health, and Balance!

I am a man who has spent my entire life trying to stay off of medicine. I began my quest for a healthy life as an elder early, thinking about everything from food to skin treatment to weight. In my twenties, I became a vegetarian, began exercising, doing yoga, and meditating. I always assumed that my desire to have a healthy, long-lasting body would be a reality. However, I never took into account how much a healthy body could be affected by bad genes and a pool of ancestral crap that changes everything. Thus, this is my story:

After many years of great health and no problems physically, I woke up one morning and could barely get out of bed because of so much back pain. This occurrence happened while I had been teaching 4 yoga classes a week and had been a vegetarian for 20 years. I thought maybe I had pulled a muscle. But, after nursing the pain for 2 months, I realized I should probably go to a physician.

At my initial visit the doctor specializing in sports injury told me in a gruff voice to get out of his office. He was convinced I wanted pain medication, I think.

After many tries at discovering what could be wrong, I found a compassionate nurse practitioner that helped get me to an endocrinologist who discovered I was severely low in testosterone. She also scheduled me to see a Rheumatologist, who diagnosed me with arthritis.

At 35 I felt as if I had heard a death sentence. How could this be so? I had done everything to protect myself from any such an occurrence, but in front of me was the evidence to indicate differently. As you may have guessed, I rejected the doctor’s advice and tried to find a holistic approach.

I tried everything on the market that promised to alleviate arthritic pain. After much pain and the start of one to two migraines a week, I was at my wit’s end. I had to do something that I didn’t want to do, begin take Western medicine.

I write this blog today because I know that there are many people who read my blog who also live very healthy lives and still have to take medication. Recently, my doctor also diagnosed me with high blood pressure and high LDL cholesterol. Really?

I’m a vegan. But, at this point, I’m not sure that one issue isn’t stemming from taking another medication. Life can get confusing when you feel as if you eat right, exercise, meditate, and sleep 8 hours a night, only to find that you still attain more problems as you get older.

I’m now 57 and trying desperately to get off of the medication that I’m on, because one side effect that I never expected happened: severe itching—everywhere. After 4 weeks of steady titration from the medication, I couldn’t sleep at night. After 4 nights of painful withdrawal from these medications, I decided to take a bit more of the medicine I knew was causing the itching.

This story is not very different from many people who try desperately to live healthy lives, but must take medication to maintain a level of peace, calm, and painfree existence that keeps them sane. I am one and proudly wave this flag for you, my friend.

Medicine, despite the horrible rep it has, can often give you a Quality of Life that you need to simply be happy. I have decided to continue to take a small amount of the medicine that makes me itch, and endure the consequence of living life virtually pain free.

I want you to know that you should do your best to find a great balance between living a holistic life and a life where Western medicine can aid in keeping you from pain. This in no way keeps you from having to try to do your best to:

  1. eat right (low fat, low simple carbs, great plant proteins)
  2. exercise daily (swim, walk, life weights, do yoga, tai chi)
  3. meditate or find a silent way to allow your mind to rest

If you can do these three simple things, you can live a life that is full of quality moments, virtually pain free, and filled with joy.



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Life on Tilt—Balancing Work with Play

Have you ever had one of those moments in time when life and work seemed to stand still. I was sick with the flu, which didn’t help. The normal phone calls, auditions, referrals were not coming as they usually do. I spent most of the week quiet. This wasn’t a terrible place to be, since my body obviously needed some rest. It almost was as if the universal powers that be made me rest, because I wasn’t taking time on my own.

This week, however, I haven’t stopped. I have gotten job offers, have had 2-3 auditions each day, many clients, and when I come home in the evenings I want to go directly to sleep. Obviously, I must find some kind of balance here.

How do you balance the great prospects of today with the much-needed respite from all of the day’s frenetic energy?

WebMD suggests that we:

  1. Build downtime into your schedule
  2. Drop activities that zap your energy
  3. Rethink your errands
  4. Get moving
  5. Remember that a little relaxation goes a long way!

When I moved to Fort Lauderdale, Florida from Nashville, Tennessee a quick 2 1/2 years ago, my goals was to change my life…

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I wanted to start from the beginning, do what was on my bucket list without excuses, and eradicate all of the negativity from my life, including friends who zapped my energy.

I also decided that I would really vet new friends before I invited them into my life for the long haul. I can honestly say that I have only made a couple of good friends since I’ve been here. A few people seemed to be moving in the right direction of being very important in my life, but just as I began to acquiesce into the friendship, some telling event happened and I simply had to release what wasn’t mine to begin with. This isn’t a bad place to be with friendships, because the people who we draw closest into our lives need to:

  • Upbraid us
  • Give us space to grow without offering too many opinions;
  • Add to our life, not subtract by leaching vital energy;
  • Not be afraid to be intimate and honest with feelings; and
  • Simply be there when you need each other.


The friendship side of the revamping my life has been the most successful. I spend much more time by myself, with family, and with the closest person of all—my fiancé.

Since I’m not exactly convinced at what I want to focus on in the Work Arena, work has become a hodgepodge of too many doors opening at the same time, which can make anyone crazy.

I have acquired a couple of great acting agents. Since that time, I had committed to taking every audition offered to me. I realize now that I may need to cut back from all of the perceived opportunity and spend a little more time quiet about what is the most appropriate place for me to be everyday.

In my belief system about the universe, if something—anything—stands in the way of your ultimate purpose on this earth, it will be gone before you can say WAIT A MINUTE!

This happened to me recently with my church job. I was simply gave it too much time, and it zapped me of vital energy. At the same time it offered the premise of doing something wonderful for caring and loving friends, it also took 2/3rds of my work time. In hindsight, I realize that I didn’t fully look at the entire picture; otherwise I would have left the position some time ago or reorganized the job to suit me, not the other way around.

We have to remember in our lives that we are at the helm of the ship—steering our lives. If you don’t like something that is happening in your life, who else but you can make the change? You have to deliberately take time to rest and meditate on what honors you and benefits your life in a prosperous way. If something doesn’t do one of those two things, it needs to be reconsidered.

This week, take a look at all you do in your life and make some strong decisions about how you will proceed to next week. If you are exhausted all of the time, you need to rethink about your priorities. Something has to change or you will never be happy.

Make a list of what you do. Start from there. Decide what should take priority. If your health is not at the top of the list, you need to reorganize immediately!


You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!


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The Balancing Act

When I think of balance, I imagine a teeter-totter with two people about the same weight on each side of the long balancing seat, not being able to go anywhere but exactly in the center. The truth about life is that we don’t often have times when we are completely centered on anything. Something or someone always seems to be weighing us down to one side or the other.

I got inspired to write this blog because my friend Steven, who is a heart specialist, was telling me about how busy his life is. I hugged him the last time I saw him and said, “You seem like you have really been working out.”

His answer, “Just don’t squeeze too hard! It’s all an illusion.”

We laughed as he proceeded to tell me that his life has kept him from his desire to get to the gym 2-3 times a week. He said that after he worked 10-12 hours a day, not even taking a lunch most days because patients were waiting for his time, he never felt like taking care of himself.

Isn’t this the quintessential story about taking care of everyone else and simply not parsing out the time for your own essential health?

Caregivers are good at avoiding the ever-important task of taking care of their bodies. Often they are overweight and some of them will even smoke or drink to avoid the task and awareness that their bodies are temples for their spirits.

We must recognize this fact every day. If you don’t take care of yourself, you have no self to help anyone else. There is nothing selfish about taking care of your body first and then taking care of someone else’s needs next.

When you are on a plane and the steward or stewardess begins the spiel about putting on your oxygen mask, what does he/she say? “If you have a child, put your oxygen mask on first.” I know that’s a hard thing to understand, but if you don’t have the strength or breath to be alert and alive, you can’t take care of your little ones.

Your body is a like having your own child. You must take care of the body like you take care of a child. You will hear that (inner) child say things like “I want to eat something sweet before I want to eat dinner.” Any fully-grown adult knows that if you eat sugar first, your body is not going to be able to assimilate and desire the vitamins it needs from whole food. Even though we know that, that inner child’s voice inside seems to lure us into giving in way too often.

We must act from the cognitive side of our brain when the child’s voice tries effortlessly to trump us. We must become the observer of self and talk to the body as if it were a child. “No, you are going to do what it takes to get healthy, because you are an important person. You are worthy of health and people are depending on you today to be healthy and alert. You can’t be at your full potential if you continue to let yourself diminish because of other people’s needs.”

I write this on Mother’s Day because mothers are the worst at taking care of everyone else but themselves. I had a friend who decided when she divorced and her child was three that she was going to not date until her daughter was in college. What is that about? It was as if she was saying that she had no right to be happy and intimate as long as she had someone to take care of and who needed her help.

I think this is a bad idea. I believe we need to develop self-worth, not because it is just essential for our physical health, but because mentally we must have a sense of self awareness and self esteem to generate the most positive energy we can in our lives.

So, balance today asks, “What are you doing that is taking the place of something you need to be doing for yourself?”

If you are putting yourself last, think again—this time from your adult, frontal cortex of your brain—the observer mind!

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