Tag: crying


I used to think that crying was for sissies. Of course, that didn´t keep me from crying. It just simply convinced me that I was a sissy. “Crying,” a lovely healer friend once told me, “is like when you cut yourself. The body must cleanse the wound first by bleeding. Tears cleanse your body of toxins.”

Ever since that advice, I have let myself be as authentic as I can when it comes to emotion. This is important to finding your true self, your true life, and if you’re looking, your true love.

Pretending that everything is oKay all the time is simply a mask we wear to be respected, loved, and thought of as strong. But the truth is that no one really likes or wants a relationship with someone with no emotions.

I remember dating a man who was a real hottie. He was buff, was a father of 2 boys, worked hard, knew how to be a gentleman: but when it came to emotions, there was nothing there. Absolutely nothing.

He used to tell me: “You are the one in this relationship with emotions. One person that is as expressive as you are is enough.”

In truth, one with emotions is not enough. And the reason is NOT that 2 people with emotions will cause too much drama.

The reason is that 2 people who understand emotion and KNOW where it comes from become a balance to each other.

Life throws us curves all of the time. When one is upset, usually the other PERSON IN A BALANCED RELATIONSHIP is the strong person and compassionate as well, which is also one of the emotions the strong boyfriend didn´t have. He had some compassion, but not like someone who truly understands himself and wants to grow from the NOW.

All this to say, if you are emotional and enjoy a good cry now and again, go for it. However, to balance that, make sure that you understand why you cry and that there is peace always waiting to embrace you when you’re finished with the tears.


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Giving Way to Healing #grief #anger #healinggrief

I spent three months getting to know and falling in love with someone only to find out that he was in the throes of a terrible addiction. I had to leave the relationship, suddenly, and without my heart understanding the death of a soul-friend. I spent an entire month trying to compute and process the grief and the questions, only to discover that no answers existed to help the pain. When I took my feelings to God and let go, my grief gave way to healing.

Pain from a death of any kind—a personal relationship, a passing of a soul, or the trauma of an accident—can lead to incredible pain and self-analysis. Did I do something wrong to make this happen? Am I ever going to experience truth and empowerment? Will relationship ever grace my doorstep? These are all questions that go through every well-meaning person’s mind who has experienced a loss. You are not alone. Your soul is simply processing the pain of another loss in your life. Soon, you will gain strength and feel empowered again, but it’s time to grieve now,. Go ahead and let yourself cry, for a time.

Grief is actually a great tool to cleanse the soul. I had a healer tell me that, “crying was like the body getting cut. Just after, the corporal body bleeds to cleanse the wound. This is also true for the spiritual body.”

This quote has helped me become an observer in the most trying times of my life. If you don’t let yourself grieve, you will end with a terrible soul infection, which will later have to be reinjured to heal. We don’t want that. Grieve your loss! You will be better for it in the end.

Grief has a beginning, a middle, and an end. You be would be well to know the difference between the stages, as you go through the seasons of grief. Eventually, your soul cleanses, and it’s time to move on with your life in a new way with a different perspective. You will be the better for your loss, even though your body and mind feel like a puzzle with a missing piece.

The truth is: we are all puzzles with many missing pieces, but we could fill this empty space with new love and with Spiritual understanding. In the doing, you find that the missing pieces you experienced were actually always God, guiding you, leading you, and teaching the hardest lessons of life. You are complete, now, my friend. You always were whole. God just has to take time to teach you the lesson of being human.


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