Tag: desire

When We’re Hungry…

There is nothing so painful than being hungry and not having any food to eat. I’ve experienced the feeling a few times in my life. I’ve also experienced fasting for one to five days. A very interesting phenomenon happens after you overcome the first couple hunger attacks. You actually stop being hungry. You get thirsty, if I remember correctly, but hunger ceases. In fact, when you decide you want to eat again, you must decidedly and slowly eat small amounts of easily digestible food; otherwise, you’ll make yourself sick.

When I was in my late twenties, I set out on a spiritual quest. Part of my journey was trying to isolate the passions and hungers of the physical body. When I fasted, my physical desires greatly diminished. I can understand why monks and students of spirituality find some great solace in fasting.

Hunger is not just a reaction that happens when our bodies need nourishment, though. Hunger happens in many different aspects of our lives. We can be hungry for love, for fame, for truth, for God, for intelligence, for sex, or for wisdom—to name a few. But hunger, by definition, is a strong desire or craving, not just a desire for nutrition.

Hunger for love, for instance, can feel like a deep, gnawing pain in your gut, similar to food hunger. A hunger for fame can lead to making choices that compromise your authentic self. A hunger for sex can lead to disease and promiscuity.

However, an insatiable urge for something can also be put there by Spirit God. For instance, a strong need to be loved or for sexual intimacy, can lead you to a search for a compatible date. That meeting could lead to the love of your life, if you can separate intention from hunger, direction from urge.

Fairly recently, I had become single after a year-long try at making an anxious-avoidant relationship work. If you have an avoidant lover in your life, you might as well cash in your chips. The likelihood of the relationship working is not in your favor. So, I let go.

I decided to wait for a few months to date again. What made me begin to date again, was a strong desire for intimacy. I could have done what a lot of people do after a bad break-up. I could have looked for a casual sexual experience to appease my needs, but I understood that my desire was much deeper than physical. Personally, I think that most of hungers are not just skin deep. I didn’t need a quick fix, and you probably don’t either. In fact, I don’t think I ever really needed a temporary bandage for my intimate desires. I am what a lot people call a serial monogamist. I find one person to love. Then I pour out my amazing love on that very lucky individual. LOL

My friend Sharon has this constant hunger for knowledge. Maybe it’s just for continual growth toward something work related. But she finds a way to channel this energy into something that is always a palatable choice. Her last endeavor has ended up becoming a trip toward another Masters Degree. At fifty-four, she is finishing her paper as I write this, making her more valuable in the work place.

A hunger for fame may start out to be a strong desire to sing in public. You may realize that the only work that makes you feel whole is to be singing. But when you break it down, you realize that the singing isn’t the entire deal. The reward is mostly the applause at the end of the song. The reward very rarely is the money involved, especially in Nashville, where money for singing is a thing of the past, unless you’re a famous recording artist.

Soon, a person hungry for fame, may realize that his/her true hunger is a true desire to be loved, honored, and appreciated by peers. If this is true, then the feelings you get from applause, can probably be captured in other ways in your life, if you find a divine purpose for your talents and knowledge.

I started out with a Christian record deal and ended up a professional writer, vocal coach, yogi, life coach, and clinical hypnotherapist. I still love to sing and act, but I find that it is easier to appease my artistic desires if I look for ways to use my artistic talents for things like singing at church or in Community Theater. I have an acting agent, and I love auditioning, but I don’t depend on my art for my sole support.

So, “when we’re hungry,” as the song says, “love… attention to our true needs, and a strong desire to understand our spiritual will… will keep us alive.”

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

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Belief, Passion, Desire—Action!

A dear friend and I were talking today about getting busy with life. We have been playing with getting our acts together for so long. Now, finally, it’s time to take this act on the road.

As we spoke, I said something that felt like the most authentic words I had said all day, “If we truly wanted to be doing something, we would be doing it!”

By that, I mean, I don’t have any problem making things happen when I know I want them. When I want to go on a ski trip, I make plans for it. When I want to compose a blog every day, I do it. When I contemplate about writing a new book, it doesn’t get done until I’m absolutely passionate about the idea and desire the outcome with all my heart.

So, the ingredients to action are—belief, passion, and desire. If you don’t have all three ingredients, there will be no steadfast work toward a wonderful result. I know this from many projects left undone and many completed.

In seven years I wrote five novels. Only someone who is absolutely passionate about getting a novel published can write, edit, and complete five novels in that short time. Well, I’m sure there are more prolific writers than I, but I’m talking about novice writers—people who are just beginning to understand what it takes to be a successful writer.

I went to every writers’ conference I could find. I saved all my money for vacations that only including some kind of writing endeavor. I used my time and effort for my passion. When I realized that I had spent the time that most people would have used to make millions on writing five novels, which have made their semi-permanent home in a nested folder on my computer; I decided that, perhaps, it just wasn’t my time, or I wasn’t writing work that appealed to the general public. I find it hard to be critical of my own work, even if I was a professional editor for fifteen years, but the end result of fame and fortune is telling, after all.

I went through the same passionate beginning in the acting business. I moved to New York soon after college. I didn’t care that all I had only saved $400 and had a place to stay for just three months. I knew I could get a job and find an apartment, because I had faith in life and my passion. I did get work soon after I moved to New York and got my Equity card on my third audition—something that doesn’t happen to most people. But I didn’t question for a minute that I was supposed to be there and be on stage.

Passion and belief for a long period of time and with luck may end up getting you what you really want—fame and fortune; but, trust me, I have had friends in New York gain minimal success since I left. They have been there for over thirty years. Yet, they stay there because that is what they have chosen and desire.

Now, it seems, I question most things that happens in my life. Life comes down to: Is my passion greater than my desire to be comfortable at home doing what comes naturally? Early on, I had thought that passion meant fame and fortunate. Now, I absolutely know success simply means peace and happiness in the end.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

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Desire Charges Dreams

I just finished watching the final cuts of “So You Think You Can Dance.” I couldn’t believe the physical and mental endurance it took to get through three days of hellish choreography and clashes of personality to get to the final 33 dancers for what they call the Green Mile, before the top 20 dancers are picked for the main season. The only thing that that could possibly be driving these youngsters to their best is desire.

I used to admire people who would work hard all week and enjoy sports on the weekend as if it were all that mattered. I always wanted something in my life that could drive me to that kind of passion. I seriously believed, until recently, that I have never really found that one thing that makes me crazy wild inside and want to do my thang night and day. I have many parts in my life that make me happy, but nothing really that makes me stark-raving crazy. Sometimes, to tell you the truth, I wish I did.

I wonder, however, if it would be to the detriment of my well-rounded and balanced life if something wowed me. Who knows?

I do know this, that anything that I have truly wanted in this life, I have desired with all my heart. I have dreamed of it. I have fantasized about what I would do if I made the grade. I have challenged myself to practice and rehearsal. And I have pushed myself to churn out work every day until the finished product was in sight.

However, I have to say, that the end product and even a good ending to the dream is never enough. I feel, often, that the “work on the path” is truly the only thing that makes the pushing toward the dream worthwhile. I have never once stood in front of a standing ovation for a performance and thought, I have made it to happiness. In fact, almost the opposite reaction happens. I feel sad inside that the utmost compliment isn’t enough to make my heart sing with happiness, even after I have honed and practice my talents to the nth degree.

I go back to the drawing board with spirit this time and ask, “What is my divine purpose, God?” I know, that without understanding my divine purpose I will never truly be on the path to pure bliss.

Recently, I have looked hard at my very busy and diverse life. I decided that something had to change to make my life congeal and be cohesive.

I had a literary agent friend tell me that my book ideas were good, but I needed a brand. I had heard the term brand many times. I remember when the YMCA changed its branding to simply The Y. The health club hadn’t been a young men’s Christian association for a long time. Yet, Y they kept their logo for so long, amazed me. But I finally understood the concept when all the employees had to change outfits, the signs were changed, and even our basic concepts were more cohesive.

So, I asked God for some inspiration. This is when I came up with “Finding Authentic You.” I realized that everything that I did as a practitioner was leading my clients to something. But what was that special something? When I discovered that no matter if my clients were coming for yoga, vocal lessons, hypnotherapy, or life coaching, they were all coming to reveal their most authentic self. And, indeed, that is exactly what my intention was when I changed my brand at the beginning of this year—to peel the layers of nonauthencity off and reveal the truth self in all who came to me.

I decided that I would start with the concept first. Create a website and a blog that followed the theory. Then make sure that all my jobs fit into the paradigm of finding authentic truth.

This year has been an incredible change for me. I have let go of so much want and desire, and have settled into a place of simply doing what is in my heart to the fullest extent, coming from the greatest heartfelt place.

As a result, my life has taken a turn for the best. I have never experienced so much happiness in my entire life. Every day has been filled with bliss and love. I have decided to put away the past and leave it locked up and burnt away where it belongs. When it decides to rise from its ashes like the Phoenix, I ask the question: What lesson(s) are you trying to show me?

When I discover the reason I’m experiencing an old pattern, I make a positive move, pressing forward into the now with power and strength—new strength—I never knew I had. Lately, I have been more real and more at peace than ever before. I believe this is all because I have found the desire behind my dream.

The desire is simply this—to live life as my authentic self—and with that comes peace.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.

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