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Life Without Expectation

If you expected no results from anything that you set out to accomplish or in any relationship, what would your life be like? You would simply do things, because you are inclined to? You would plant the seed. God would take care of growing the dream, the relationship, and the result. If you lived life like this, could you be setting your life up for a great surprise?

Disappointment comes mostly from expectation. Delight comes from trust. Think about a child on Christmas morning. Then, imagine your last relationship or project. Which picture is more likely to end in a happy result? I had a friend say to me, yesterday, “If you knew that you were going to be hurt as a result of a decision, would you make that decision anyway?”

I told him that I would avoid the hurt at all costs.

His reply, “Bo, I don’t think that you’re wired that way. You are a spiritual man who knows that, sometimes, life takes pain to get to the best result. Knowing that about yourself, would you still choose something, if you knew the result would be painful?”

This time I replied, “If the pain was in the form of relationship, I would avoid it. For all other parts of my life, I would be okay with facing hard times to get to the lesson or the good.”

My friend huffed and puffed a bit. “I don’t believe that about you at all! I think you are hard-wired to live life with one big expectation—knowing that all things are working together for Good! With that in mind, you would face what you need to face.”

I acquiesced. “I suppose you’re right. But, let me go on record and say that ‘I don’t like being hurt one bit!’”

We both laughed. No one likes hurting for any reason. No one wants to set out to do a project or a race and decide ahead of time that he will break a leg, or she will run out of money and go bankrupt in the midst of creating her life’s dream.

I remember a time when I got my first big book publishing deal. I was set to have my book launch on a day in March. I had invited 100s of friends and family, spent hundreds of dollars on food, and invited the uppity ups in the publishing world. Everyone was set to undergird my dream. However, that day, the Nashville flood happened.

I remember sitting on the porch, watching the rain destroy all the work I had done to my gardens the day before, and wondering, “What the hell, God?” The launch was ruined, not to mention most of Nashville was devastated. I couldn’t even talk about my book or rescheduling for weeks after. As a result, my book—my dream’—had a hard start. Even still, a year later, the book surprised even my publisher, hitting the New York Times Bestsellers list. But, I believe, this happened only after I let go of my expectations. Most novice writers think, if I just write a book, it will a bestseller! Writing the book is just the beginning of a long process to be famous and make money.

Most days, now, I pray believing that the biggest and best will be the result of any endeavor, even relationship. Instead of limiting Spirit to my expectation of the result, I plant the seed, create a clear vision, and then let go. In this way, I find that I’m not disappointed, and God can place in my path all that I need to be the best, learn the most, and get the ultimate in the experience.

When I release from expectation, I don’t give up. I simply exchange my limited idea of the result for God’s unlimited abundance. This is a recipe for success!

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Hidden By Regrets #regret

Lost and lonely, sometimes we find ourselves in a mire of regret and disappointing thoughts about the past. Often, these thoughts and ideations cloud the good in our lives, and more importantly, don’t give us the chance to see our future as different and wonderful. By example, if you had been dumped on by an intimate partner and can’t get over the hurt, or worse yet, the love; you may not see the new person you are destined to meet—standing right next to you. Who could? He was hidden by your smoke screen of regret.

The truth is that you are not your situation or your story! Say that with me: “I AM NOT MY SITUATION OR MY STORY!”

You are spirit, housed in body, made to have every good thing here on this earth. The only person that stifles your receiving is you, right now. Every morning, I have to clear my mind of all the “stuff” that fills my head, just to open up to the ideas and love and wisdom that spirit wants to download into my mind. If I don’t make room in meditation, this information goes to a holding place or sometimes is completely lost because of my lack of desire for change and guidance. Meditation gives me inner poise and peace!

I don’t want to be that person who looks back at life and says, “I truly missed my calling. I heard the voice of spirit tell me my truth. I simply didn’t answer.”

All you have to do is listen. Then once you hear the voice of peace, just simply move forward one step at a time. You don’t need the Master Plan. God has that plan set out for you. Simply follow the path on your plan day to day. I enjoy the idea of the 12-step programs. You have to live with sobriety one day, rather one minute, at a time. That’s how a spiritual life being led by God is. You can’t over think it. You can’t over achieve. You simply move where PEACE leads you.

I have many references in my life where this has been true. Most recently was the book I just got published. Many people would have thought I was a fool to release my book publishing deal to set out on a path that seemed to lead to nowhere fast. The truth was, it took almost two years for any kind of super vision to appear about the end product. I had an idea, albeit an inkling, what would happen, but I never really saw the end product in my mind, until I added the picture I took in St. Thomas last month to the cover of the book. The moment was in a butterfly sanctuary. Butterflies are a sign of transformation and a personal symbol of growth. When I saw the most amazing butterfly light on a pink hydrangea, I knew this was the moment. I took the picture.

When I returned home, this picture became my guide and symbol of success. When I had the opportunity to help create the cover of the book, I knew this picture would be the perfect finishing touch. Three years ago, I didn’t even know I’d be taking a cruise to St. Thomas. Yet, the vision and the wisdom of God led me on a path toward finding the perfect symbol for my three years of searching for my Authentic Self. I hope you get a chance to enjoy the book. You can now find it on Amazon and Amazon Kindle. Below are the links.

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