Tag: drug addiction

One More Trip Before the Betty Ford

I had a large hypnotherapy practice in Nashville for 27 years. During that time I helped many people with different kinds of addictions, sleep issues, and anxiety find relief and freedom. I discovered early on as a clinical hypnotist that most of my clients were going to be on the road to quitting smoking or losing weight. These two categories are the two tops for every clinical hypnotist.

You could tell this by the parking area around my house, constantly littered with cigarette butts. You would have thought that I was out all night smoking or going out for frequent cigarette breaks throughout the day. But, no, it was not me. It was those clients looking for their final puff before they quit smoking for good. Was it worth it? The bigger question: Did it help or hinder the process of going into an office stinking like a bar and asking for help?

I hate the smell of cigarette smoking. I have hated it since my father and mother would trap 6 kids in the car in the middle of winter in Pennsylvania with the windows closed and both were smoking a cigarette. Of course, no one knew in the 60s and 70s, except the big tobacco companies, that nicotine would cause so many deaths from lung cancer. For some reason, I knew it subconsciously that it was causing me a death of some sort. I couldn’t breath and had bad allergies and was sick almost constantly from colds and the like.

“One last hurrah!” If you knew that you were going to the Betty Ford to quit your usage of heroin, would you take the night before to have one last drug addled night? What if… what if you used too much heroin and had an overdose right before you took that final step to heal your sorry ass? Do you know how many times that actually happens to people? The “Washington Post” says that 100 people die a day from drug overdose. 

Since it’s my last time, let me just do a little more, add a few more glasses of wine or shots of whiskey to the high to see how it feels. Then, the swirl of red lights fills the room and you hear whispers of medics talking, then silence… What if you don’t wake up?

Of course, no addict thinks about anything but their next fix when they are getting high or thinking about getting high. So, what does it matter, really? Do you know how many people start the process of getting sober from drugs and alcohol and never follow through? Out of 4500 people, 25% will last a year, 14% will last 5 years and only 6.9% will go the distance, reports Psychology Today. That’s not a very high resolve. Yet, Alcoholics Annonymous is still considered to be the best in helping addicts overcome addiction. The best is still only helping 7% on the long term.

So, what is happening to those people who never make it through the process over the long-haul. I have had many friends over the years start to drink after 20-30 years of sobriety. What do you think happens when they start to drink again? Do you think that after all these years of seeing the damage addiction does it helps them stop the urge to over do it and drink socially? Hell, no! These people often become worse than before and often OD or end up in ditches dead.

Addiction is deadly. I’m not sure why I’m writing about this today, but someone needs to hear this. Someone out there has a friend, has a relative, is that person who is struggling and needs to hear that there is only one way to health: COMPLETE ABSTINENCE.

You are like the patient with a terrible heart condition that cannot have salt or your arteries will hard and you’ll die. You simply can’t ingest alcohol. This is a disease, a terrible one and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it. But only one person can say NO, and that person is you!

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Practicing Deception—Coping with an Addict

When a person is an alcoholic, for example, and is trying to hide an addiction from associates, family, and friends, everyday he/she learns to become more and more adept at becoming deceptive. His/her behavior becomes intricately weaved into his/her addiction until even he/she can’t tell the difference between a cover-up and the truth.

If you have ever spent a day with an addict and didn’t know you were doing so, you may never know that the person is suffering from a behavior problem. But, if you are privy to the knowledge that this person is an addict, and then spend that same, exact day with the person, you can see signs all around him/her that point to the addiction.

I had an interesting talk with a friend today about this very subject. We were discussing how both of us have been fooled in the past by addictive behavior. She shared that there were signs all over the place that would reflect alcoholism in a past work associate. He had shaky hands. He sweated profusely under no signs of duress. And he consistently left early from work, apparently before the time he began to drink, which was early evening.

My friend is very bright and thought that her associate was showing signs of low blood sugar. This is actually the case when one is having DTs from alcohol. Low blood sure is one of the signs.

But her associate never even mentioned for an entire year—not once—about ever having a drink. So, being a rational, deductive person, my friend never assumed anything was out of the unordinary, until circumstances changed. When work started to enter into the path of the associate’s drinking, a problem started to erupt. When the he had to stay past the time he could endure not having a drink, he had a sudden breakdown and actually showed up drunk. So, after an entire year of working closely, it took that long for a very intelligent woman to see that her closest associate, whom she entrusted with large amounts of money and very expensive materials, was an alcoholic.

In my case it had been a couple of people. I once lived with a roommate in NYC who seemed like the nicest guy in the world. Until, one day I discovered that I was missing money. More than just once, chunks of money were gone from my wallet. Then my roommate, who had a good job, didn’t have the money to pay his portion of the rent. When confronted with the issue, he became belligerent. Of course, by that time, six months into the roommate situation, I realized there was a drug problem.

The other situation I had was a person I was dating. He was a binge cocaine addict. This kind of addiction is the hardest addiction to detect. When people can go months without using, then suddenly disappear and you can’t find them for three days, you know there is a serious problem. They often come clean and say they will never use again, but that is not the case. Binge addiction is addiction nonetheless and needs to be treated like common addiction. When this happens just weeks before you are planning to move together, it is even a worse problem.

Detecting deception when it comes to addiction is one of the hardest things that you can ever go through as a parent, a partner, or a friend. One thing you have to realize is that the addiction—the disease—is causing the deception and not the person who you love in your life. Still, that doesn’t make anything easier in the truth bearing and the putting up safety barriers around your self to protect from more lies and more deception.

Honestly, if I had it to do all over again, I would stay away from anyone who was in the midst of addiction if I could avoid it. Anyone who must bear this burden carries the toughest of heartache as they move through the selfishness and the lies to the last ditch efforts to have any relationship at all. Parents usually find themselves in this situation more than anyone. It’s much easier to leave in any other relationship. But parents tend to hold themselves responsible for the problem and stay until the child sometimes commits suicide or robs them blind. I have seen few kids come completely clean. Most parents have regretfully had to put distance between themselves and their children after numerous attempts to help and voluminous amounts of money spent on treatment.

Playing hardball doesn’t even begin to describe what you must do to take care of yourself and put a person on the road to recovery.

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