Tag: Eating



Do you value yourself and the life choices you’ve made?

Quite often, if you’ve been struggling with regaining your power, your self-esteem may be weakened. According to your energy centers, strength works from the bottom up. If your basement is weak, your house will eventually fall. It might take a few years, but it will inevitably fall; I guarantee it.

I like to ask my clients and friends: What is your life’s purpose?

Most people have no idea. There’s a Bible verse in the Old Testament that basically says, people without a vision will not survive. Without a goal, there is no direction in life. Without direction, it is difficult to find a reason to wake up in the morning.

Donna was in a long-term relationship that lost its way. It had gone stale——she had gone stale. A dancer and gymnast most of her life, she had stopped exercising and gained one hundred pounds. She smoked pot every day, and I could tell by her demeanor, she wasn’t a happy camper about any of this.

Her frustration with life and marriage, however, led her to go back to school at thirty-eight. She had a burning desire to counsel children. After four years, loans out the ying-yang, and much self-sacrifice, she is now a practicing social worker.

The self-esteem she gained by working toward a goal now has led her to quit the dope and begin to work on her weight problem.

I’m very proud of Donna (the name is changed to protect the privacy of my client).

Succinct goals, ones that take determination and effort, usually make life deliberate. I find that even the small task of taking care of a pet can often draw a person from depression. Humans need purpose; we want to feel as if our lives count. The only way to do this is to choose for your lives to count.

If you lack direction, join a club or a singles group. Find people with like interests to explore your own desires. Often a group of friends committed to enjoying life can be enough to give you reason.

I spoke with a seventy-year-old woman whose husband passed away from cancer last year. She told me, for awhile, she needed her family to call daily; she expected them to call. She sat by the phone hoping they would somehow fill the abyss in her heart left by her husband’s departure from this earth. But her family stopped calling; her children went on with their lives; and she was left alone and lonely. She realized then that she had to make some strong changes.

She maintained a job, though she was beyond retirement age. This was a smart move. She began joining retirement groups and calling old friends in similar situations.

Today she looks and feels terrific, her self-worth is fantastic, and she enjoys a life filled with excitement and travel. Her children still play an important role in her life, but she doesn’t expect from them, so now they’re able to give their time without resentment.

If you have stomach problems or pain in the lower back this may indicate that you have a problem with self-esteem. I find that people with back pain are often stuck in the past with anger and unforgiveness. The saying “I feel like I’ve been stabbed in the back” is apropos in this case.

Habits are habits. If you constantly live in the past, you must break this debilitating habit just as with drinking or a tobacco problem. Both are killing you. I’m convinced this inner plague is more serious than its outer manifestations.

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Taking Care of Your Body

Taking Care of Your Body

Don’t try to gain weight to see if you can to be compassionate to your clients. Dumb idea. I had a migraine all day yesterday, probably from trying to detox from all the junk I ate the last week. And from smelling some bad perfume. My body just can’t take eating or smelling crap.

Be good to yourself, as my dear friend Darrell says that God is saying to me. Your body is your temple! My temple feels like a junk yard right now. It is 3 am and I can’t sleep because the only thing I could eat last night was ice cream, because my stomach was so upset. Then, I guess, my sugar spiked, and now I’m up craving more sugar and I’m really dehydrated.

Lord, what a mess I’m in. It may take a day or two to get my body back in order. But I’m through with the overeating, for sure. And I’m craving sugar at every meal now. I guess the yeast in my body is really happy and well fed. I’ve got to deprive it of it sustinence to get back to normal.

All I can say to my dear friends and readers: Something in everyone’s body tells you when to stop; what is right to eat; what is wrong; what will give you energy; what will give you strength.

If you are having trouble losing weight, you just have to learn to listen again. Basically, what I learned these past few days is, to gain weight I had to “NOT” listen to every impulse in my body to make it function improperly. Just goes to show you and me, that learning to listen after so many years of treating myself with good food and exercise is a “practice.” If you do it daily, your body learns how to be what it needs to be and to act in a healthy way.

On an upnote… because i was up so late, my dear friend Tim from high school, who now lives in Italy, was on line and we got to chat. It’s been years. So, I’m thanking God for that. Love me some Tim. He is a professor at the Escuola de Musica in Rome.

Guess I’ll trying going back to sleep now. Buona Notte!


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Pushing at the Weight Gain

Pushing at the Weight Gain

So, if you have been following the story: I’ve been trying to gain 10 pounds to help with finding a true compassionate perspective with my weight-challenged clients. After I gain them, I’m going to go on a diet and try to take them off. Well, I have been being bad all over the place.

Yesterday for dinner I ate meatballs, pasta, 2 pieces of chicken with the skin. Then went to a party and had chocolate cupcakes, potato chips, 3 beers with carbs and I didn’t exercise yesterday. I actually sat down at work all day.

What were the results? I lost 3 pounds.


Now that just doesn’t make sense at all. If this works, I’m going to make a mint on a new “Eat whatever you want diet and still lose.”

The only thing I can think of is that I laughed my ass off two nights in a row and have been extremely happy about everything I was eating. I have been told that if you really enjoy everything that you eat and drink that it assimilates to your body 100% better. I do know that laughing and carrying on does take a lot of energy, especially with 5 girls who don’t know the meaning of boundaries on game night.

So, today, I’m going to try again at eating too much. We’ll see what happens. I tell you, I’m miserable digestively. I don’t know how long I can do this. I don’t know how anyone can eat too much, honestly. It is just simply uncomfortable.



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