Tag: Effective Change

Creating a Life Worth Living Series #4, by Bo Sebastian

The Results of Old Thoughts

Old thoughts that live inside of your brain turn ideas—bad or good—into what is currently going on in your life. So, when anything happens to you, in a moment, your brain infuses the new experience with your old attachment to it. Then, you respond and react.

For instance, you may be in a loving relationship, right now. But after your brain infuses your anxiously-attached past with loving actions, you may become insecure, even in the arms of someone holding you.

Another example: You may have a perfectly good evening out with friends. But, your brain has a fearful moment, coming from a time when you had been rejected. So, after your brain infuses this old experience with what is currently happening, you may end up sitting in the corner by yourself, feeling unworthy and unliked.

What takes more precedence about anything going on in your life, right now, is what you think about it.

Updating Your Mind

Continuing with our computer metaphor: If the monitor is not turned on, the computer of your brain cannot show you the stored information therein. So, we must begin by turning on the monitor. This happens in meditation.

In meditation you separate your current ideas from the ones dwelling in your humanness—brain and body. This creates a window to the brain, like the computer monitor, allowing you to self-reflect.

Then, if a thought does not line-up with what you believe about yourself, you will know that you must UPDATE that old thought or pathway.

You must stand apart from the Old Story to see what needs changing in the mainframe of your brain.

Your brain may need a major update to coincide with your current lifestyle, thoughts about yourself, and your beliefs. This is much like updating your computer with the newest software, so that the current programs on your computer will run smoothly.

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In the coming pages you will begin a courageous walk that will completely change your mind about life. You will gain the power to UPDATE THOSE OLD THOUGHTS stored in your mind.

Though, in theory, this all sounds psychological; the practice of changing your thoughts depends a great deal on your self-reflection and, ultimately, your ability to apply Spiritual Principle to your problems.

A malfunction in your physical brain may affect interpersonal relationships, your relationship to your job, and your relationship to yourself—based on traumatic or insecure-attachment events in the developmental stages of childhood. As I said in the past section, this disorder may incline you to respond in one way to a situation, even though the circumstance may well deserve a different response.

In other words, situations that mirror an old event from your childhood, may cause a misfire if you do not consider the idea of Updating Your Mental Software with immutable, sound Spiritual Law.

When you have misfires in your brain, what you see on the monitor of your life is much different than what you imagine should exist from the actions you take and reactions to your life’s situations.

These conflicting thoughts can be very confusing and cause you to be insecure and anxious about life, in general.

When what appears on the monitor of your life is actually a triggered response or an instinctual reaction—a fight or flight human reaction—you begin to mistrust your own mind to make the correct and just decisions.

Because of this misappropriation and confusing network of thoughts and information filtering all of your life through the past, you have to do some basic work to discover what thoughts and ideas have been imposed upon you, and which of these thought-triggers need to be erased and changed.

Definition: Subconscious is the part of your mind that is beneath your conscious reasoning, the undercurrent of your belief system, and the storage center for the past.

Note: I will use the term subconscious only to refer to the working patterns of the human brain. I purposely intend not to confuse the word MIND with the word BRAIN. The two are vastly different.

The mind is infinite; the brain is human.

Continue with me in this series or go back to the beginning on this blog. You can also go to my books on Amazon, BoSebastian.com, my vegan blog or my YouTube Channel for meditations and further instruction.


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Willing to Be Different

I often find myself standing on the edge of defining my life by asking one conclusive question: Am I willing to be different? If I’m not, then I will be stuck in the same merry-g0-round set of circumstances, never changing, always complaining, and certainly not being good enough, handsome enough, or rich enough to be happy.

What needs to change is not the world around me. What needs to make an about-face is my own perception of my life. Then, the rest of the world will begin to look a lot different. As it stands, if I judge myself less and less, I’ll also judge the world and those around me with an equally compassionate heart.

Sometimes, life hands us hard situations. Everyone goes through times that are difficult. But, often, we find ourselves too close to our issue to get a good perspective. To truly begin to understand you and the world around you, you have to come far enough away from your body to be an observer, a nonjudgmental observer, at that.

We often act look at a problem as if it is a pebble dropped into a thimble, instead of a pebble dropped into the ocean. If you drop a pebble into a thimble, it will cause a loud sound, a diffusion of water, and maybe even knock over the thimble. But if you drop a pebble into the ocean, even on a calm day, it causes barely a ripple in the water. What does this metaphor have to do with change and our own perspective of our world around us?

The pebble is the problem, and the ocean or thimble is your situation. How much impact any situation has on your life is directly related to where you drop the pebble. If you want to take a good look at the problem without becoming too emotionally involved, drop it in the ocean. If you want to be attached to your problem and not see beyond your own grief, drop the pebble into a thimble.

Coming Up: I’ll be speaking more about how to pray—not what to think, but HOW to think effectively, to change your life!



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Starting Over: A New Life, A New You #startingover #afterloss

On Valentine’s Day your partner or wife tells you that your ten-year relationship is over, when you had dinner, a box of the finest chocolates, and flowers planned for that evening. You were completely blindsided. You never saw change coming, yet it appeared like a bag of cool on Christmas, anyhow. Change is everywhere, always—in the trees, in the flowers, on our skin, in our minds, and especially moving as time passes. Change happens inevitably. It’s the one thing we can count on with absolute certainty.

Recently, a bit of change happened to me that spoiled my dream of the future. I grieved for about a week. Then, suddenly, a part of my consciousness that observes my own life—my subconscious mind—began to react to the situation. I wondered if I were sadder about dashing my future dreams than my partner’s decision to leave the relationship, because he wasn’t ready for the long term. When I got real with myself, I suddenly changed gears and began to wake up from my elusive dream.

What exactly can we expect from life? People leave their houses all the time, never to come back because of accidental, causal, or disease-related deaths. Relationships changes. Children grow up to betray us. Even family, who you expect to always be there, sometimes ignores you. The opposite situations happens, perhaps, not as often. Sometimes, the child we expected to be a drug addict, studies to become a doctor. The black sheep becomes the best friend. Or a tree that looked dead, suddenly shows signs of life. What do we make of life in these situations?

The greatest lesson of life is to live in the moment, in the now. If you do so, you a.) rid your life of the fear of change, b.) make the most of the moment, c.) become more realistic about life and your own pain body, d.) but most importantly, you stop making unrealistic expectations about the future. Trust me, even your relationships will last longer, if you treat them with the precious gift of the now. Stop expecting the future to be the same as it was yesterday. Change is a constant given.

The first chapter of my book, Finding Authentic You, is entitled: “The Seven Steps to Effective Change.” If you want to be able to cope with the change in your life, you have to effectively change with it. In this book, I provide for you the seven essential steps to move from grief to a positive picture of the future.


Finding Authentic You is a self-help guide with 365 Discoveries, meant to aid you in facilitating some of life’s most difficult challenges, like sleep. But, the discoveries also lead you to what you believe spiritually, understanding your goals, learning to believe in your self, discovering the most distinct you, unlocking all of your negative thinking, and helping you replace it with positive, creative thought using many different modalities, including hypnosis, prayer, and psychology. Once you know yourself, then relationship with Spirit and people is a fairly easy task.

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For much more information about finding out about the psychology of the human mind and being your authentic self, self-love, and self-esteem, check out my new book below. “Finding Authentic You” will answer many of the questions I propose above. The book also has many discoveries about health, both mental and physical, as well as spiritual discoveries to lead you to your highest and best! Thanks for being a part of my tribe and helping me make this book be a Bestseller.

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* Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or http://bosebastian.com/Home_Page.php Please feel free to comment and/or sign up to receive your blog sent to you directly or stream with an RSS Feed. Please spread the word by liking the page or sharing this with your friends.
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