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La Boda Gay

Today is my wedding day. La Boda. My big, fat gay wedding. La boda gay, as the Spanish would say.

As a young gay man, I never thought I would actually see this day. With prayer, with great vision, with vigorous fight and healthy debates, the United States has finally allowed people like me to be equals with the rest of society.

I can now file my taxes with my husband. I can see him in the hospital if he is in intensive care. I can make life-changing decisions with him and for him. I can get his work benefits, and sign up for programs that help married couples. As a result of one, single document so many gay couples are now able to enjoy the benefits that have been available for citizens for 2000 years. When I write this, I suddenly feel angry and sad.

I watched the movie “Fences” last night and watched as the characters struggled through their impoverished lives as a result of prejudice. Day by day, slowly we move forward, but never without a fight, never without standing up for what’s right and just for all.

When anyone begins to look at the undeniable prejudice that has been plowed into our culture by means of unhealthy spiritual dictums and laws, the top 1% of America, the ones struggling to get a tax break at the sake of losing sight of the big compassionate future, we can see that love always wins. Love may take some fighting, some solemn defeats, but eventually it will float to the top. Today I celebrate the victory of equal rights with my new husband, David.

Beyond the celebration of just being able to get married, a trove of emotions follows.

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Continued from Above:

… David and I look into each other’s eyes and sometimes just laugh, because neither of us can describe the emotions. Mostly, though, we feel a bit of ambivalence about the legality of it, the ceremony of something that really happened in our hearts long before this day.

The Dali Lama says:

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.

Every living being has an equal right to and desire for happiness.

I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of wellbeing. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It is the ultimate source of success in life.

 

Love is the answer—always. I hope for love for all of you reading this. I know love changes. But at its roots it is security, truth, transparency, joy, and hope. Let’s continue to see this for each other and for all of world. It is up to us to hold the vision! Feel blessed!

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When We Rise: Struggles Within

After watching the first episode of the television epic When_We_Rise on ABC, I reconsidered my own strength in the struggle within. Was I even a part of the fight against homophobia and the rise of women’s rights in the early 60s and 70s? I pressed through those times, living in NYC, as if the fight was already behind me. I never stood up and screamed from the rafters or a float or a podium that I was gay and deserved equality. Today, I have to ask myself why.

I know with certainty that my own inner struggle with religion and being gay was at the top of the list of reasons. At some points, when many of my friends were dying around me from AIDS-related diseases and no one from the government cared, I turned a blind eye to those painful times when a policeman could arrest a man or woman for being gay. I’m shaking my head now and really reconsidering how I could have been more effective as a human being, helping my gay brothers and sisters in their movement toward equality.

In my own memoirs about growing up gay in a homophobic America (“Learning Alone”) I write:

I am a skeleton of relationships with no flesh. If intelligence makes the man, why have I made the same mistakes for over twenty years concerning relationship, concerning God?

I looked at most of my life as an impending tsunami. I put up walls around myself for protection and let nothing in or out without two forms of identification, a lifeboat, and a safe exit.

Now, I wonder if life is more like a delicate equation, with all of its fundamental subtleties changing the very substance of who I am—moment by moment!

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Ultimately, when you don’t have your own inner struggles, anxieties, and physical health under control, it is an impossibility to fight for others in an effective way. I have spent the majority of my adult life looking back and making reparation from my broken past. However, one has to wonder if clearing our own consciousness is ever enough.

I walk away from these nostalgic thoughts feeling empty and helpless, even though I see a new world of opportunity and change around me—one I didn’t much participate in to fully enjoy the victories.

I’m getting married to a man next month because of the strong and unquenchable desire for change in millions of gay people around the globe. Do I actually deserve this right when I didn’t go to battle as they did? The most I ever did in the early days was scoff from the roadside at NYC Gay Pride as I watched the floats with half-naked men and drag queens waving flags and taking a strong stand. I thought, these people don’t represent me at all! I judged them as being flagrantly immoral and bawdy. My self-righteous contempt kept me from joining their political stand for the freedom to express as powerfully and as naked as they wanted.

When_we_rise from the depths of our own prejudices—from those people who are like us but different—we can begin to see that our inequality is as deep.

I can look at life from both sides now, because I have lived my life as a Pentecostal minister condemning gays and also have stood up in front of city government officials and testified about getting fired from a job for being gay. I remember both sides and wonder if both still exist somewhere within.

I’m not angry at myself. However, I’m a lot pissed off at the world that can’t see through my eyes. I want the gay antagonists of the world to be compassionate and empathetic enough to see the struggle that still exists today. Yet, I find myself beating my head against the wall when it comes to understanding how the right-winged side of the U.S. can be so undemocratic. Wikipedia describes democracy as having:

Four key elements: (a) A political system for choosing and replacing the government through free and fair elections; (b) The active participation of the people, as citizens, in politics and civic life; (c) Protection of the human rights of all citizens, and (d) A rule of law, in which the laws and procedures apply equally to all citizens.[3]

As understated as this all seems, democracy is rather simple in its premise. All anyone wants in this world is the right to live a life with equality, where the law protects all of us, not just the ones who act like us.

When we rise, if we rise from this imbalance, we shall rise to the place of no judgment at all—not for ourselves, not for others. This doesn’t mean we won’t stand up and fight when being stripped of our inalienable rights. No, not at all.

We will fight harder, because we have left behind our self-righteous baggage. We will fight for others, not just ourselves, because we are healed from the past. We will stand in the gap when a handicapped man or woman can’t stand up at all, because we recognize that we must give back without considering what we will take. We will rise, yes, we will rise and make a different world—a better world—a world where every man and woman, no matter the color, race, religion, or sexuality—all have equal rights.

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* * *

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What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

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(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

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Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

 

 

 

 

 

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How Many Years a Slave? #12Yearsaslave #lupitanyongo

How Many Years a Slave?

I have been a slave. I have worked under the powerful taskmaster of the past for 53 years now. The chains drag behind me like a constant reminder that, though my life has changed, my simple mind hasn’t. I grab hold tightly and pull the past with me every every step I take forward. When will I let go?

During the 2014 Oscars, a wonderful film won “Best Picture”: 12 Years a Slave. Newcomer Lupita Nyongo took the award for best female in a supporting role. The years of slavery for African Americans are over, yet are we willing to let go of the last vestiges of the past? If we simply watch the aftereffect of accolades going on in the African American direction, we couldn’t deny it. Yes, prejudice is everywhere, but we are moving forward to liberation, everyday.

Yes, women still have a struggle for equality, but we are revealing wrong and making small steps forward, every day. Yes, the GLBT community does not have equal rights, yet, but, judging by the past changes for African Americans and women, the influence of moviemakers and the billions watching movies, give me the feeling that we have a chance at worldwide change. Why? Mostly because of how movies shape the American point of view.

I love how 30 years ago, a gay man starring in a Broadway, television or movie production was taboo. But today, a gay character supports almost every film and television show. Why? Because this is America! And we will not stand with policymakers and religious right wing to shape our country. So, people with lots of money and influence—who are not politicians—step up to the plate and make a difference.

You don’t have to look hard to see how changed life is here in America when you watch 12 Years a Slave. Yes, we have a way to go. But, no, we are not the same country with all the same ideals. Most of us believe differently. You don’t have to look too much further than our African American first lady and president. Where the problem exists is in two places: 1) How religion influences politics; and 2: How much are we willing to let go of the past to look for a better, fairer future? This movement forward begins in your own brain, my friends.

If you don’t let go of past hurts, past pain, and the influence of your parents, you will never shape your own world in peace. If you carry the chains of slavery into the future, you will always be shrouded and influenced by bigotry, fear, and prejudice. If you want to make lasting and effective change, let go of the chains of the past holding you in your pain. I urge you! We will all feel the effects of the masses finding a new Authentic America!

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