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Teaching a Pig to Sing

I taught voice lessons as my job for over 30 years of my life before I retired five years ago. I had taught people of all ages, levels of talent, and ones who have gone off to be famous. I never tried to teach a pig to sing, though. #Pigs_don’t_sing like humans. I don’t enjoy engaging in something with insurmountable odds.

#Teaching_a_pig_to_sing is like trying to force anybody (your children, your spouse, your mother) to be something that he or she isn’t or doesn’t want to be. Not only does that person not have the capacity to be empathetic, for example, but he or she simply doesn’t want to be what you desire for them. This is like teaching a pig to sing.

Researchers are discovering that we have as many or more neurons in our heart than we do in our brain for learning and understanding. This is an interesting paradigm, when considering just how much capacity each human has to learn empathy. 

The one problem with my original metaphor might be that your children or your mother are human and each of them should have within them the gene to be empathetic. But, what if they simply don’t. What if they are innately narcissistic? Trust me on this one, if someone is narcissistic by nature, empathy is a hard lesson to learn—maybe an impossible one. Many therapists and psychologists would agree with me on this.

When we expect of humans, we are usually broken-hearted in the end. They don’t often change. They don’t often come to understand you. They even surprise you with decisions you can’t imagine making yourself.

This is life, my friends! This is awaking spiritually while still living in a human world. You suddenly become aware of all the negligible differences between good nature and walking through life unawake and blind. You see the good that people COULD BE, wish the best, hope even more, but cannot expect anyone or anything to change because you simply want them to.

 

Everyone is on his or her own path in this world. Some may stay unawake. That might be the path they need in this lifetime. Can we expect a blind woman to see color? Can we expect a congenitally deaf person to hear the song of a bird? Can we expect an animal like a pig to sing?

Our expectations must change, but our hopes can stay high. We can envision a better world without expecting it so much that our hopes are dashed. The answer here is in the way you pray or in the way you live your life.

I had a friend who used to tell me:

The nature of humanity is to make bad choices. So, if you expect that someone will make the worst choice, when someone actually makes a great choice, you can rejoice much more. I have lived by this premise. I’m much happier today as a result.

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I would love for you to stretch out your arms and think about protecting the part of the world that you can help, by not killing animals to eat. Check out my new YouTube Cooking Series: Angel Feast: Recipes for a New World:

 

GIVING AND RECEIVING IN LIFE IS OFTEN DIFFICULT. I have been giving from my heart about 2-3 hours a day for 7 years to create advice–spirit, mind and body for millions of readers. Recently, I have been led to ask people to give back as a way for me to learn how to receive.

As a tribute to my belief that “prosperity is all around us, should we choose to receive,” I want to invite those of you who want to send an offering for the joy or advice you have received from Finding Authentic You Blog.

“We must give to receive, always. This is the Law of Reciprocity.”

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books!

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

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Fixing the Debt #fixingdebt #spiritualdebt #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

Someone once said to me that, if I could understand my reason for being here on earth, I would find peace. I have found many reasons to contribute to humanity, but true peace often eludes me. With what measure we give to humanity, should we expect back something in return? Can we actually know what life owes us for our mere existence on this earth? Or are we causing a spiritual debt with each lie, fear, or anxiety?

“Okay, God, I am doing my best to be a good person. I help people every day. I put aside my own wants for the greater good. I try to love unconditionally. I forgive those whom no one else wants to forgive. I preach about truth to anyone who will listen. I make a joyful noise. But, what do I get in return? Is there something… anything?”

This often is the prayer that plays in the background of our minds, when things go wrong or if someone treats us unfairly or our hearts get broken from a breach in trust with someone we love. Will peace ever be ours to hold on to forever? Or, are we expecting something tangibly intangible in reciprocity for all that we do?

Debt. Debt. And more debt.

Every time we do something good and expect a return for our deeds—even in loving another person as close as your partner—we are tallying up the debt in our minds. Eventually, when we do not get a pay out, we will realize that we are like the gambling addict who has lost everything, waiting for the big pay-off. Eventually, we walk away from life rejected, dejected, and feeling worthless.

How in the world do we change a paradigm of reciprocity that is so deeply engrained in our minds and bodies? We work to get paid. We love to get love back. We have children to have someone to love unconditionally, but somewhere in our minds the expectation becomes unconditional love in return. We plant a garden to get crops. We go to college in expectation for a brighter future. Almost everything in our human life holds a reciprocating reason for doing it or achieving it.

These thoughts are deeply engrained into the attachment processes of our minds, wired like the telephone circuitry of a multi-million dollar business office. How many debts are we going to leave on hold, while we wait for our one blessed return to answer our prayer for peace, or love, or prosperity?

Have you considered living life without expectation? What would that be like? Loving without expecting anything in return. Learning because we want to understand. Working because it feels right. Is it possible to live life without the expectation of reciprocity?

Today, simply consider how many actions you take in life expecting some kind of return, even if you absolutely know you will never get it.

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Screen Shot 2015-12-28 at 8.42.10 AMThis year, if you desire to commit to a change for a New Year’s Resolution, do it with your MIND first. Remember, as in the title of my new book coming out just in time to help you with this (in January)… lol… that all change happens in your mind, first. You must change your Old Story, to make a consistent and long lasting change in Your Life.

Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in January 2016!

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

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If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

 

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Prospects and Expectation #TheNOW #expectation #relationshipadvice #EckhartTolle

I rarely am wowed by anyone or anything these days. I’m simply a little jaded by life. When you’ve lived life as hard as I have, nothing stuns you. However, every once in a while, you get the temptation to hope that you’ll be simply bowled over and amazed at someone or something new and intriguing. That happened for me a few days ago.

If you don’t know, at this point in my writing, I’m a single, gay man in the middle of gay Mecca. I think, per capita, more gay men live in Southern Florida than San Francisco, right now. And if they don’t live here, they vacation here or have winter homes here. As I figured, from the time I arrived, there would be dating prospects galore. But, finding that one person who relates to me in many important ways, who doesn’t have to be vetted by the FBI, and is drug and disease free has been quite the challenge.

My friends here all tell me that I should let down my guard and have fun. “Don’t worry about finding a relationship!” they say. “It will find you. Just go out to bars and meet people. Have sex when you want. And you’ll love it, just like we do. Trust us. You will!”

After much deliberation, I simply think I’m just not cut out for bars and casual anything. I’m a serial monogamist who likes to cuddle and enjoys praying with my partner. Be that as it may, finding that one gay man who is all that and interesting and kissable (and available emotionally and completely out of a marriage—yes, that means moved out from his partner!) is an anomaly to say the least.

Since I don’t go out to bars, unless with friends for food or 1-2 drinks, I have only looked for dates on Match.com and OkCupid.com, which are dating sites that pander to people who are relationship oriented. When someone is interested in me from the sites, I read his profile from top to bottom (no pun there) and decide if he’s worth my time and effort. Most times, after a few emails, a couple of phone conversations, and now FaceTime, I can get a really good idea of who the person is without even meeting. This takes much of the risk away. So, I’ve been used to going into these coffee dates with my eyes wide open.

What happens, though, if I meet someone—not on the Internet—who really intrigues me? All of a sudden, I act like I’m fifteen again. My heart starts thumping, my palms sweat like I’m writing a love letter, and the worst thing—I expect way too much! Expectation will pull anybody down every time. Every meeting with anyone has pertinence. Trying to create the reason why two people’s path intersect is simply not the emotion to give, even if he/she is stunningly handsome or gorgeous. Expectation draws your attention away from the NOW and keeps you hungering for what you concocted in your mind about the situation.

This scenario could be true for just about any situation—work, friendships, and vacations. So, in short, don’t waste your time trying to decide why Spirit has allowed you to meet someone new or try something different. Simply be open and vulnerable to whatever comes and give it your undivided attention. You may be the person that helps someone, has compassion when it’s needed most, or teaches a lesson to someone who never expected his teacher!

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian 

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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