I taught voice lessons as my job for over 30 years of my life before I retired five years ago. I had taught people of all ages, levels of talent, and ones who have gone off to be famous. I never tried to teach a pig to sing, though. #Pigs_don’t_sing like humans. I don’t enjoy engaging in something with insurmountable odds.
#Teaching_a_pig_to_sing is like trying to force anybody (your children, your spouse, your mother) to be something that he or she isn’t or doesn’t want to be. Not only does that person not have the capacity to be empathetic, for example, but he or she simply doesn’t want to be what you desire for them. This is like teaching a pig to sing.
Researchers are discovering that we have as many or more neurons in our heart than we do in our brain for learning and understanding. This is an interesting paradigm, when considering just how much capacity each human has to learn empathy.
The one problem with my original metaphor might be that your children or your mother are human and each of them should have within them the gene to be empathetic. But, what if they simply don’t. What if they are innately narcissistic? Trust me on this one, if someone is narcissistic by nature, empathy is a hard lesson to learn—maybe an impossible one. Many therapists and psychologists would agree with me on this.
When we expect of humans, we are usually broken-hearted in the end. They don’t often change. They don’t often come to understand you. They even surprise you with decisions you can’t imagine making yourself.
This is life, my friends! This is awaking spiritually while still living in a human world. You suddenly become aware of all the negligible differences between good nature and walking through life unawake and blind. You see the good that people COULD BE, wish the best, hope even more, but cannot expect anyone or anything to change because you simply want them to.
Everyone is on his or her own path in this world. Some may stay unawake. That might be the path they need in this lifetime. Can we expect a blind woman to see color? Can we expect a congenitally deaf person to hear the song of a bird? Can we expect an animal like a pig to sing?
Our expectations must change, but our hopes can stay high. We can envision a better world without expecting it so much that our hopes are dashed. The answer here is in the way you pray or in the way you live your life.
I had a friend who used to tell me:
The nature of humanity is to make bad choices. So, if you expect that someone will make the worst choice, when someone actually makes a great choice, you can rejoice much more. I have lived by this premise. I’m much happier today as a result.
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