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Finding Home Base—Finding LOVE!

No matter who you are and how much you like your alone time, in each one of us we have DNA that longs to be in the arms of someone loving or feel safe in the arms of something tangible. Many of us seek to get this same feeling from food, expensive things, sexual encounters, and the like. However, nothing really meets our expectation more than someone (even if it’s a best friend or family member) who loves us for exactly who we are.

The reason why some of us try to cram loads of fattening food down our throas is for the simple reason that trying to find that someone has not been successful in the past. Also, it may be that you have been lazy about taking care of your body, and you simply don’t believe that you could ever attract someone to you looking and feeling the way you do. This is so not the case.

The fact is that there are far more people who are NOT in good shape than there are people who are smoking hot. I’d say that only about 5% of people are satisfied with the way they look. Most are not.

So, then, why are we so afraid to find someone in the same place that we are? Do we not believe that simply because you lust after the person that is way out of your league that everyone is like this?

I would venture to guess that many men and women would be thrilled to be with someone just like you! If you only believed this truth in your own soul, you’d probably find that person.

I once sat next to a great couple at a fundraiser for the Public Library. The wife was on the board of directors, vivacious and sweet, but very overweight. The husband was what I call a muscle mutt, stunningly attractive. But he only had eyes for her. I assumed that they had probably been married for a long time and that maybe she was thin when they had met. Not true. They had only been married for 2 years. Saw the wedding pics. She was the same weight when they got married.

It was in that moment I realized there is simply someone for everyone. The muscle mutt man wasn’t so brilliant as his wife. He was more the fixer-type. I could see immediately that he needed her expertise and wisdom as much as she probably enjoyed having a hottie to hold on to during this beautiful occasion. Like doesn’t always attract like.

I’m not saying, either, that we should look for people who lack what we have. I’m saying that you should love yourself and believe that who are is a Spirit made of love and light. The rest will follow. Who you attract will be dependent upon how much love you want to give out in your life and how open your heart is.

Trust me, I have attracted a lot of losers in my life because of my loving spirit. We must also have a great amount of wisdom when it comes to who we invite into our lives.

What you must look for in a partner:

1. Trustworthiness

2. A Sense of Security

3. Neither Avoidant or Needy

4. On the same path spiritually with you

5. Having space and time for you; and of course

6. Is authentic and secure with his or her life.

The above is an idealistic list. You always sow the seeds of your highest expectation in the supreme consciousness, then God begins to grow the plant. We can only sow the seeds and continue to believe by acting “as if” we are already ready for our dream to come true. Spirit does the rest. This is true in the earth as we sow seeds into the fertile soil. Spirit shows us that this is an example of how the law of attraction works.

We can only water the seed of our dream and wait. We can’t overwater and pull up the plants out of the ground.

Remember: today that your dreams are about to happen when you believe with your entire heart that the possibilities of the universe are endless.

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Carrying Garbage from the Past: Time to Release

I ran into a client yesterday. She looked at me and repeated to her about 100 times during her time as a client:

I release and let go of all things that no longer serve my life. I am open and willing for change!

We both laughed as we caught up. She told her story.

She had been single for a long time—too long in her estimation—just long enough from my vantage point. For the first three months of Life Coaching, she could barely speak of anything more than the pain from all of the hurtful men in her past. I would make her recite with me the above quote over and over again.

Clearly, what we had been reworking in her subconscious mind with Hypnotherapy had now begun to express in her life. She was engaged, about to get married and move in with her fiancé and soon-to-be husband.

She told me how cleansing the last few weeks had been to uncover all of the pictures and memorabilia from the past—especially from past relationships. She said she had become overwhelmed with power to see forward as she released each part of her past.

She stacked all of the pictures of the past she wanted to get rid of and burned them in her fireplace. She began to throw away jewelry and gifts from men who had abused her and cheated.

 

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At one point in her life, she needed all of those memories from the past to keep her feeling she as if she were desirable enough to acquire dates. Now, she told me she realized that her real need was, indeed, what I had been sharing with her all along:

“YOU NEED A SECURE LOVING RELATIONSHIP.”

The Buddha says:

We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.

Missy is a beautiful woman. Even as she is nearing fifty, she looks as if she’s perpetually 39. She was the Prom Queen in high school and dated the star football player. This kind of old template, having to appear as if she were the star dating a star had plagued her true desire:

to date someone who really understood her, was transparent, and kind. At best, she would find attractive, muscle men who would start out kind enough, but would end up like the rest, unresponsive to emotion and unable to be transparent.

Finally, someone who had been her friend through all of this nonsense dating professed his love for her. After thinking long and hard about his request, she realized she did love this friend and was willing to let go of her long held baggage of finding that gorgeous Prince Charming character. When his and her relationship began to turn intimate, it became perfectly clear that the person she had been in love with for many years had been her best friend.

She unloaded all of the past that no longer served her by making a ritual of throwing away old, stale memories. She took away of all the blocks of those metaphoric, sophomoric thoughts that people would think less of her if she were with a man that was not muscular and gorgeous. Instead, she opted for a man who looked like the guy next door, was intelligent, kind, and very wealthy. He promised he’d love her for the rest of her life. Through it all, she was the only one he could see living with the rest of his life.

The great aspect of this story is that she and her fiancé understand that they will probably have spats now and again, as they have had them as friends. But the perfect ending is that the spats never stopped their loving, secure friendship, nor will they end their marriage.

Their ten-year friendship had made it through the hardest time of both of their lives. Now, all they had to do is release their old baggage and get ready for the brand new adventure ahead—TOGETHER.

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. ]Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books:

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

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Finders, Keepers: Love and Letting Go of Fear

Four score and 7 years ago I stood upon a rock and peered around me for the perfect place to bury my treasure. It was a glass angel from the lady who was literally my physical, earth angel as I grew up with violence and abuse all around me. Mary sheltered me as much as she could and edified me in so many ways that helped me become the adult I am today. When she died, all I tangibly had from her was this beautiful glass angel.

During a move—one of my 27 in my lifetime—the angel’s wing broke off. I tried to glue it, to no avail. In my heart I wanted to keep it, broken or not.

A greater idea came to mind when I found myself atop this huge, boulder in one of the most beautiful, secluded places I have ever been to in my life, Beersheba Springs. Few trails exist for the few visitors peppered on its banks, but when you go off the trail you see places that look as if they had been created by the gods. Where I stood, in that moment, was one of them.

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Continued from above:

I had the angel carefully wrapped in my backpack. I felt as if my little piece of Mary was to take its rest in this perfect place of harmony and peace. Here I would always remember her, not in physical form, but as she was, a spiritual mentor, friend, and earth angel.

I write about this because I’m overwhelmed today about how complicated and intricately woven each day presents.

I take pleasure in knowing this bit of wisdom, because I realize that every step in this life is about adventure—not destiny. In that special moment of burying the angel, my life was about destiny, an ending place for the temporal and a beginning for the spiritual light Mary would continue to shine as I let her evolve and merge into my prayers and supplications. Everything has a beginning and an end.

What will you begin today? What will you let unfold in your life today that you have dreamed about, but not let fear stop?

It occurred to me, only days ago, that perhaps in the wonder of this same universal pull and secret delights of the gods that maybe my broken, glass angel had ended up in the hands of someone who needed to attain it, just as much as I need to bury it. Who would that person be? How would he or she be connected to me spiritually and why? What would that angel represent to him or her?

Have you ever wondered how many angels it takes to have you run into that one friend that you haven’t seen in 20 years on a beach across the country from you? Or how long it has taken for the perfect person to put up a sign in a window that actually gave you tangible direction in your life as you drove past the storefront?

How complicated are the interwoven spiritual threads of lives in this universe? How do we find each other and come upon treasures that seem to call our names?

One particular person comes to mind on Valentine’s Day that never let his dream slip away. He fantasized of someone like me for many years. He wanted a mate, a partner, a friend. He kept his heart pure and believed I would hear his call, even though it was difficult to believe when all of his friends and family told him he was a fool for believing in the intangible. But the truth is, everything begins in the mind, as a dream.

Even in his dismay of having to wait so long for his love, he still looked far and wide for that one person who would stand up and say, “I am the person you are looking for. Where have you been? I’ve been waiting too.”

He found me across the vast Atlantic Ocean—he in Dublin and I in South Florida. He reached out, began a conversation that would last long enough for us to realize that we were in love. Would it be worth a chance at authentic love and a life filled with that perfect match? We could only be courageous enough to try, for one of us to take the frightening step of flying thousands of miles to see.

From our friendship bloomed a working relationship, a spiritual relationship, a lifetime ally, a security blanket of truth and honesty, and most of all—a smile that launches my heart everyday. After a few visits and extended stays, we realized it was certainly worth it.

Here’s hoping this same courage of hope for you, my friends. I’m knowing that you can bury the old and step into the wonder of this vastly intricately woven and integrated universe of subjectivity long enough to make it real and tangible.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

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You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

____________________

Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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