Tag: Gay Marriage

Speaking Out for Your Soul’s Survival! The Big Picture…

You can’t turn on the news or look at Social Media without an onslaught of posts about Sexual Abuse #metoo confronting you. I wonder about the big picture.

For an example, when we think of the mutilation of African women so that men can enslave and brand them, this news disturbs the deepest part of our being. Why? Is it just that we have compassion. Or has this news invoked a feeling of insecurity and being unsafe for you?

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My guess these kinds of stories about anyone (animals included) cause an equal amount of both feelings—compassion and empathy for our own need for security. However, when droves of men and women (mostly women) gather together to find strength to speak out against the male majority running the country, who have tried to enslave women and take away rights from any minorities, even in notably free country such as the United States, we must look a little deeper to see the real cause and the rush to speak out!

When I think of what the ultimate feeling of happiness would feel like, I imagine having the physical things I need to feel comfort, having loved ones, but most importantly I would need to feel an underlying feeling of peace and safety. No one can feel truly happy or joyful without feeling safe. This would be like having the largest diamond in the world, but having to live in a vault with the diamond, always afraid that someone will rob you of your valuables and your intrinsic value. But are our valuables material things?

When we dig deeper, we find that most of our own lives and the majority of the people we know have never had a solid foundation of security.

I review my own childhood and see this clearly. I don’t have to dig too deeply to see that my greatest prayer is always to experience peace and for my husband and family to feel secure their own lives. I pray for this because I know there is no true joy without security.

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I recently spoke with a very famous man who had everything he desired in the material world, but had absolutely no peace. He had sacrificed his entire life for wealth and fame and never once thought about the toll it had taken on his and his family’s lives. After he had decided to retire a few weeks back, he looked like an entirely different human being—a smile, weight loss, a ruddy color in his skin, and most importantly a glimmer of peace in his eyes.

I asked him how he felt about leaving the material world that had supported him for so long. His answer was met with unexpected tears. He said, “I pray everyday that I will find what really makes me happy and will bring me peace. I don’t have this… Not yet. But, I now know that I am going in the right direction.”

This man’s story speaks of finding peace as his primary goal. Underneath his cries and our cries for truth, transparency, power, human and animal rights, we feel an underlying need to know with the deepest sense of our authentic self that we are Safe—safe from terrorists, safe from Super Egos, safe from governmental mistakes, safe from narcissistic choices that affect everyone of our lives, especially those who are much less fortunate than we are.

When you prepare your signs for your next protest or support a loved one who is speaking out about being treated unfairly, say a quick prayer that whoever is marching, being interviewed, speaking out finds the peace he or she searches for!

Namaste.

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Awaken to Deeper Love

Last night I had the most transparent conversation I had ever had in my life. I shared from the deepest place of insecurity and pain. Yet, it was as if I began to rise from my own body, out of the shadows of my own humanity, and into the arms of the truest, #deepestLove I’ve ever experienced. Allowing light into the depths of my insecurity allowed healing to begin in ways unexplainable.

I’ve always known that true love would be a place of #divine_healing. You find that person with whom you can tell your life story and he not only doesn’t blink. He completely understands. Some kind of deep sense of security builds to a place where you begin to erect the foundation of a church where only you and he can enter, pray, and feel the presence of Divine Energy heal you. I’ve known it existed, but never experienced it to the extent that I recently have.

 

In the past, love had always begun with attraction. From that attraction, intimacy grew (usually physical intimacy). From that physical intimacy, the feeling of security began to gestate. However, by the time I was sharing my most intimate thoughts, I was also wondering if that one new love with whom I was developing feeling would leave or abandon me if he or she didn’t resonate with my story.

 

So, I colored my story, created shades of truth that can be switched, shifted, and changed if things didn’t go right in the telling. I’ve lived my life on this premise. I have spent years in relationship (up to 8 years) never sharing my deepest fears or my shallowest thoughts. Because of my mistake about relationship, I must share my experience.

 

When you start from the premise of securing the right of passage to your secret place in the heart with someone, BEFORE you express sexuality and sensuality, true intimacy happens authentically.

I liken this to planting a seed in the beautiful, hearty soil. We don’t get to tell the seed when to sprout, when to take root, stay alive or die, to flower, or bear fruit. The seed and the earth do this in authentic timing, in the perfect timing. When you are anxious for relationship and love, you may find yourself forcing the natural law of action. When you are experiencing avoidant love, you may find yourself never staying around long enough to see if your love can bear fruit.

However, when you find security in a friendship, the foundation you lay in your life is preeminently the place where all good things grow and have room to flourish. This is true love. This is the kind of love that marriage ultimately should be.

If you read my Easter blog yesterday (“Risen”), you can see in this blog that sometimes marriage takes you down paths that crack you open and give you the opportunity to grow if you take it. My husband and I experienced and felt we had a death, buried it, and resurrected it in the short time I was in the hospital over Easter weekend. Our Easter experience was unlike anything we have ever had known. For this, I’m thankful for waking up with the worst pain in my heart, for being forced to take an Uber to the Emergency room at 5:30 a.m., and for being poked and prodded for hours with machines and needles.

Love cracked me open and found a place that I hadn’t given over to the process. Love searched my heart, knew my desire for total transparency, and provided the perfect place, the securest place to transform and evolve. Who would have imagined it would have been in the four desolate walls of a hospital room?

Love has found me. Love has awakened my heart. Today I stand taller, feel happier, and expect more of life than I have ever expected. Today, I challenge you to plant the seeds of authentic, secure love.

Don’t hasten to watch them grow. Let nature take its course. Keep your heart open. Keep your mind open to experiences you wouldn’t usually allow for yourself.

Let the light of wisdom and spirituality (through meditation and guidance) lead you to the deepest healing process ever.

 

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As a tribute to my belief that “prosperity is all around us, should we choose to receive,” I want to invite those of you who want to send an offering for the joy or advice you have received from Finding Authentic You Blog.

“We must give to receive, always. This is the Law of Reciprocity.”

If you would like to participate in giving to the gift of this blog: Please send all checks, money orders, or credit card requests to:

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Oakland Park, FL 33309

Thank you for your gift!

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If you buy a copy of any of my books or Book an appointment, send me the receipt, I will send you

A FREE HYPONSIS MP3 or another Electronic Copy of book that is under the domain of my publishing company. TO HELP YOU DURING TIMES OF PAIN. SEND THE RECEIPT TO bosebastian5@gmail.com and I’ll send the Mp3 within the week, I promise.

Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available.

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

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Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books!

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

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A Day to Celebrate!

Today, I celebrate my marriage with my Florida friends and family. This is a day celebrating not only my marriage but the marriage of every diverse couple now married—from famous couples now able to come out of the closet to the guys next door who had to live in separate homes to protect themselves from getting fired from their jobs.

My husband and I (still getting used to saying those words) decided to do the celebration in two parts: once in Florida, then a month after in Nashville, where the majority of my friends live. Besides the feelings of joy, I cannot help thinking about how long I have waited to be able to feel as if I have the same rights as every straight person, or person pretending to be straight. It’s an honor, privilege, and a victory that has taken my entire lifetime to see and to finally experience.

Forty-five years ago, I remember a time when I was curious about what gay meant. I looked in the only book I could find that would dare to define it: The Joy of Sex. The definition of gay went something like this, as it is no longer in print and has retracted all of its old, negative and unrealistic ideas about homosexuality: “Homosexuals often meet in mall restrooms, passing notes to each other under the stalls to meet and then have sex in the stall.” Again, I apologize for not getting the words perfectly, but this is what my young mind took from the definition from that book.

 

At 16, I decided to see if I could meet one of these “homosexuals.” I got to the restroom, my heart pounding in my throat. Each step I took forward felt as if I wanted to run ten steps away. Yet, I needed to know who I was and what I felt inside so badly that I proceeded.

 

I sat in the stall with my pants down, as the book said and waited. Indeed, someone did put his hand under the stall. I thought to myself, I don’t even know what this guy looks like. Am I supposed to be attracted to him simply because he’s gay, like me?

 

The man in the next stall made a few grunting sounds and pushed his foot under the stall to touch mine. That’s when I decided to get the hell out of there. As I pulled my pants up, I guess the guy thought I wanted to go somewhere with him. Out from the stall next to mine appeared a very disheveled, old man with a few teeth and looking as if he had crawled out from a cave. He grinned. I felt vomit in the back of my throat as I literally ran for my car.

For the next year, I would not even think about being gay. It would never be a choice for me, if what I experienced in that stall was what gay was.

Fortunately, for me, I had gotten a scholarship to the Governor’s School for the Performing Arts the next year, when I was in 11th grade, which gave me a more realistic view of what gay was. I met not just one, but about 20 guys that could help me destroy the old images in my head about what I was, so that I could rebuild a healthier image of myself and the word gay for the years to come.

So, we come to this day. After so many failed attempts at a lasting relationship—some wonderful for a long time, some rather horrible from beginning to end—I stand next to the man who looks at me in my eyes and says, “I’ll never leave your side. I’ll love you until the day you die. You’re my best friend, my love, my soulmate!”

The transparency that is between us is beyond any definition of “gay” relationship. What we have is simply a sound relationship, built on love, truth, and a mutual respect for all things, including spirituality and artistic expression.

Today I celebrate the man with whom I have chosen to spend the rest of my life, David Menton. He is my love, my best friend, my spiritual guide, my helpmate, my support system, my security blanket, and my partner in the truest sense of the word.

I quote Kahlil Gibran today on Marriage:

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. 

 

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. 

 

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

 

 

GIVING AND RECEIVING IN LIFE IS OFTEN DIFFICULT. I have been giving from my heart about 2-3 hours a day for 7 years to create advice–spirit, mind and body for millions of readers. Recently, I have been led to ask people to give back as a way for me to learn how to receive.

As a tribute to my belief that “prosperity is all around us, should we choose to receive,” I want to invite those of you who want to send an offering for the joy or advice you have received from Finding Authentic You Blog.

“We must give to receive, always. This is the Law of Reciprocity.”

If you would like to participate in giving to the gift of this blog: Please send all checks, money orders, or credit card requests to:

Bo Sebastian, c/o Finding Authentic You Enterprises,
117 Lake Emerald Drive #108
Oakland Park, FL 33309

Thank you for your gift!

__________

If you buy a copy of my book: FINDING AUTHENTIC YOU and send me the receipt, I will send you

A FREE HYPONSIS MP3 TO HELP YOU DURING TIMES OF PAIN. SEND THE RECEIPT TO bosebastian5@gmail.com and I’ll send the Mp3 within the week, I promise.

Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available.

[IF YOU HAVE ENJOYED THIS POST, PLEASE DO ME A FAVOR AND SHARE THIS WITH YOUR FRIENDS USING ONE OF YOUR FAVORITE SOCIAL MEDIA ICONS ON THE SIDE PANEL OR IN A POP UP MENU AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE! THANKS SO MUCH, BO.]

* * *

Go to Bo’s Personal Website

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books!

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

____________________

 

Sign up for our mailing list BELOW. (You need to only do this once!) You’ll be privy to the latest and greatest ways to help yourself eat, exercise, meditate, and express your authentic life in ways you never thought possible. I promise not to flood you with ads or sell your name to advertisers. This is a personal e-mail server, which I use only to make big announcements. Thanks for signing up in advance.

GET A FREE E-BOOK ON SELF-HELP FOR SIGNING UP!

Look for MY LATEST BOOK: “Your New Story, Your New Life” with a pathway to CLEAR (C-larity, L-ove, E-nthusiasm A-nd R-elationship-Ready) on my Website or on Amazon. Thanks!

GO TO AMAZON

Coming soon, my partner David Menton and I are planning to start a Vlog with Vegetable Based enriched recipes from my plethora of fun and easy ways to make food taste amazing. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

 

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