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Awaken to Deeper Love

Last night I had the most transparent conversation I had ever had in my life. I shared from the deepest place of insecurity and pain. Yet, it was as if I began to rise from my own body, out of the shadows of my own humanity, and into the arms of the truest, #deepestLove I’ve ever experienced. Allowing light into the depths of my insecurity allowed healing to begin in ways unexplainable.

I’ve always known that true love would be a place of #divine_healing. You find that person with whom you can tell your life story and he not only doesn’t blink. He completely understands. Some kind of deep sense of security builds to a place where you begin to erect the foundation of a church where only you and he can enter, pray, and feel the presence of Divine Energy heal you. I’ve known it existed, but never experienced it to the extent that I recently have.

 

In the past, love had always begun with attraction. From that attraction, intimacy grew (usually physical intimacy). From that physical intimacy, the feeling of security began to gestate. However, by the time I was sharing my most intimate thoughts, I was also wondering if that one new love with whom I was developing feeling would leave or abandon me if he or she didn’t resonate with my story.

 

So, I colored my story, created shades of truth that can be switched, shifted, and changed if things didn’t go right in the telling. I’ve lived my life on this premise. I have spent years in relationship (up to 8 years) never sharing my deepest fears or my shallowest thoughts. Because of my mistake about relationship, I must share my experience.

 

When you start from the premise of securing the right of passage to your secret place in the heart with someone, BEFORE you express sexuality and sensuality, true intimacy happens authentically.

I liken this to planting a seed in the beautiful, hearty soil. We don’t get to tell the seed when to sprout, when to take root, stay alive or die, to flower, or bear fruit. The seed and the earth do this in authentic timing, in the perfect timing. When you are anxious for relationship and love, you may find yourself forcing the natural law of action. When you are experiencing avoidant love, you may find yourself never staying around long enough to see if your love can bear fruit.

However, when you find security in a friendship, the foundation you lay in your life is preeminently the place where all good things grow and have room to flourish. This is true love. This is the kind of love that marriage ultimately should be.

If you read my Easter blog yesterday (“Risen”), you can see in this blog that sometimes marriage takes you down paths that crack you open and give you the opportunity to grow if you take it. My husband and I experienced and felt we had a death, buried it, and resurrected it in the short time I was in the hospital over Easter weekend. Our Easter experience was unlike anything we have ever had known. For this, I’m thankful for waking up with the worst pain in my heart, for being forced to take an Uber to the Emergency room at 5:30 a.m., and for being poked and prodded for hours with machines and needles.

Love cracked me open and found a place that I hadn’t given over to the process. Love searched my heart, knew my desire for total transparency, and provided the perfect place, the securest place to transform and evolve. Who would have imagined it would have been in the four desolate walls of a hospital room?

Love has found me. Love has awakened my heart. Today I stand taller, feel happier, and expect more of life than I have ever expected. Today, I challenge you to plant the seeds of authentic, secure love.

Don’t hasten to watch them grow. Let nature take its course. Keep your heart open. Keep your mind open to experiences you wouldn’t usually allow for yourself.

Let the light of wisdom and spirituality (through meditation and guidance) lead you to the deepest healing process ever.

 

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A Relationship to “Close This Account!” #datingadvice #realtionshipadvie #spiritualadvice #gaymarriage

I was pleasantly surprised when I came across an autobiography of a man on Match.com that said, “I’m looking for a man to make me close this account forever!” This was the delight of my morning, because his words so perfectly described what most of us desire. (I’m not talking to the people who love being single and enjoy having a different person every week.) This message goes out to the vast majority of people, straight and gay, who really desire to have a lasting relationship—one that will last through the challenges of time.

If you are on the hunt for that ideal person, I guarantee you will find it a challenge. Most people join sites like Match.com and have to go through 50 dates to find just one that is worth going out with a second time. For me, I have found people who are nice, people I’m attracted to, but none seem to be in the same place about relationship as I am. Most have an unrealistic view of what relationship is because of a recent divorce, a bad break-up, or they simply have too many attachment issues. The trick to finding that one perfect mate is… oh, wait, I don’t know what that is, because I haven’t found it yet!

Well, I certainly know what NOT to do and what signs to look for to make sure that your budding relationship will actually eventually bloom.

  1. If your date says you are the first person he has dated or kissed in a long period of time, run!
  2. If your date tries something strange sexually the first time you have sex, run!
  3. If your date describes some odd fantasy that sounds a little too kinky for your tastes, run. He or she will probably opt out of love to get satisfy that fantasy, eventually. (This happened to me after 2 years of bliss and happiness.)
  4. If someone is married and in the stages of separating or getting a divorce, run. I know it’s tempting, because he or she is usually the type of person that is stable and securely attached. However, this person is in a stage of his/her life that is apt to want to look around, first, before settling down again. I call this the “Wild Oats” season. (This just happened to me, recently, after long discussions about commitment and what we wanted. After opening his heart to love, he realized he hadn’t had enough opportunities to date before settling down. This was soon after he met some hot dude at the gym who was in hot pursuit of him.)
  5. If your date gets angry easily, run.
  6. If your date cannot treat strangers nicely, he’s apt to treat you poorly eventually.
  7. Lastly, if you are not on the same page, spiritually, you probably shouldn’t run, but a slow walk away would be a safer bet. I have many friends who have had fairly good relationships without the spiritual component. But the happiest couples are those who share the deepest part of their spiritual heart. I know, because I’ve been there, that our anxiousness can cause us to pursue relationships outside of our spiritual desire. However, I’ve decided, I’m willing to wait this time.

As most of my friends who are in relationships say, “When you are not looking, you’ll find him or her!” However, if you’re a hermit, sitting alone every night, you’ll probably not find a date either. Finding someone takes action! Even if that action is simply pursuing your own interests to be social in groups such as Meetup.com, you’re more likely to meet that person with the same likes and dislikes.

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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Easter: Big Benefits with “Little” Passed #relationships #relationshipadvice #datingadvice

Relationship at any age is about give and take, isn’t it? How many people have you dated, kissed, casually had sex with, or even married who actually brought benefits into your life without dragging you into the “have-to’s” and “you’ve earned it’s?” Is it possible to derive human benefits from any relationship without the little, tiny “but-if’s?”

If you are in your twenties, you probably just blow off the guilt plays and move on to your next conquest. But, when you pass thirty-five or forty something happens to your mind that keeps considering this one looming question: What if this is the best I can do?

I’m not sure, but I think I’ve done more compromising than relating my entire life in both friendships, familial-, and intimate relationships. I’m ready to relate, to have fun, and bask in a little bliss without having to stop to cry a little about spilled milk. Honestly, I wish I had some of the bitch I had back when I was in my twenties. I knew I would find the perfect match, then. I didn’t worry about age and time ending before I had the chance to marry my soul mate. I’m not even sure I believe in soul mates anymore. I mean how can I be yours and you be mine, if we don’t even know each other? Right? How can any one person know another?

Once, I imagined that, at fifty, I would meet a guy who would take me back to my teens and give me back those amazing, tingling feelings that only happen when someone is too naïve to care what happens next. I actually thought I would be swept away just one last time. This time, though, the feelings would last forever. But, who believes in forever, anymore?

I’m not the kind of guy who falls in love forever. That is a reality. That is a cold hard fact. And facts are supposed to be true. So, why am I feeling like I just met my teenage crush, whom I’ve only known for a six weeks and, now, I can’t stop thinking about him. Already, I’ve started to make every couple of days about him—just him? Crazy, right? Is this a good thing? A benefit?

All my friends say, “Enjoy it while it lasts” or “Take it one day at a time and don’t worry,” actually knowing me more than I know myself. When I take their advice, I live in the NOW and experience bliss. I’m quite sure, I wouldn’t have had any of these amazing moments had I pondered the future or hung out in the what-if’s.

At this age, it’s the little things, really, that make a difference in relating. Can you let go of believing that this new person in your life is anything like someone you have related to in the past? Can you keep focus on the NOW? Can you take in every precious moment without forcing yourself to live in the torment of past relationships, rising like the Phoenix from the ashes?

You know, Easter is upon us. Today is the day we celebrate the resurrection of the Christ. In no uncertain terms, what was once dead is now alive, but in a spiritual way. I’d like to think that my newfound belief in relationship is the recapitulation of every human, traumatic relationship faux pas turned spiritual—maybe even a little Zen. This is the way I’m choosing to celebrate the triumph of Easter!

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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