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“I’d Rather Walk on My Lips, Than Gossip” #gossip #talkingdirt #kathygriffin #joanrivers #olympiadukakis

Who can forget the quip Olympia Dukakis delivered in “Steel Magnolias, “I’d rather walk on my lips than gossip…” Then, of course, she went on to share some dirt her nemesis. We don’t often think twice when we spread other’s people’s bad or good news without regard to their feelings or desire to share it themselves. I would guess that 99% of all people are guilty of gossip, including me. I find it difficult to keep what I know locked in my vault—as one friend calls it, who definitely can keep a secret. For me, my life is so out there for everyone to know and hear about, I often forget that other people have safer boundaries than I. I’m committed to being better about gossip in the future, mostly because of some recent gossip I heard about little ole me.

We watch the news or a talk shows like “Chelsea Lately,” and, without a doubt, the reason we turned it on was to hear about other people’s shortcomings. When we get wind of another person’s faults or depraved actions, we just don’t feel so bad about ourselves. Also, starting way back with comedians like Joan Rivers and, now, Kathy Griffin, we laugh at their bareback details about everyone from politicians to movie actors sex, lies and video tapes. I have to admit it, I bought tickets for Kathy’s show when she was in town. Every gay person I knew was there. She loves her gay men. She calls us “her gays.” We love Kathy Griffin because she tends to tell a story holding back no minor, intrinsic detail. But, is honesty truly funny, when it’s at the expense of another person?

My friend Sharon and I were talking recently about the southern way of sharing a story without poking fun. Especially older southern women bred to be ladies, use words like “the poor dear” and “precious should know better…” before an exhaustive betrayal of trust and probably something scathing about a hairdo or an outfit, or worse yet, someone’s gaining weight. We can’t help ourselves sometimes. But, no matter if it comes with the southern mask of fake compassion or a blatant truth like Chelsea Handler, neither is comforting if you think that you may be the next one to be talked about.

In the past, I have had rumors spread about me that were simply the furthest from the truth. Some stories that were spread never even happened. I could understand an untruth, if someone got a part of a truth a little eschew. But, when a complete untruth is told about you, you begin to rethink your take on gossip. For me, I try hard to bite my tongue if I know someone would be hurt in the transaction of my words. Sometimes, you know it’s just comical to poke fun.

But, I can remember a group of friends I would hang around with. Out of the ten, one woman would always get singled out for gossip. “She’s such a bitch! She drives me crazy. Can you believe what she said?” I can’t tell you how many times I defended her. Yet, the group managed to stay together, even though the schisms of gossip could have easily pulled each of them in different directions, if any of them had an idea of what had been said, most especially, the one girl.

Many years later and sans moi, this particular girl, who hadn’t spoken with me for four years, recently wrote to me to say goodbye. In her letter, she said that the reason why she hadn’t been in my life was because I could never support her, as she had always supported me.

I didn’t have the heart to tell her, I was the only one supporting her. When I would try to solicit business for her, most of my friends would look at me with a quizzical glare and say, “Really?” In fact, often, friends would call at an invitation to one of my parties, ask if she were there, and beg out because they didn’t want to be around her. How do you tell a friend so many people dislike her? I guess you don’t, which is probably why people talked behind her back. As I said, she maintained all of the other friendships, those of whom couldn’t care less about her breaking heart, and she dismissed the one person who truly loved her. For that, I feel sorry for her.

But, I digress. Just don’t gossip. It’s not good for the soul.

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Just How Well Do You Know Me? #relationshipadvice #johnmayer #gossip #hearsay

“It’s just the strangest thing. I’ve seen your face somewhere. An early evening dream, a past-life love affair. Do you know me at all?” John Mayer wrote, which I understand completely. That unwavering feeling wafts over me most days with some of my acquaintances or clients, but I never expect that emotion with close friends.

Last evening, while on Facebook, I saw an old friend I hadn’t spoken to for, at least, a couple of years. He was available in the chat function. I reached out and asked if we could get together for coffee. He surprised me and told me that his “good resources” told him that “I was dishonest and not a very noble person.” He also said, that as a result, we had nothing to talk about.

Of course, I responded with disbelief. I couldn’t understand why someone would share that I was dishonest. I don’t remember EVER telling a lie that would hurt or harm anyone. We all fudge the truth to protect people sometimes. But, lie to a friend about something important? That’s just not me at all, not even to protect feelings. I’m not, or have never been that person. So, you can imagine my disappointment with this so-called friend.

If you have had a friend treat you this way recently or in the past, repeat this to yourself a few times: “I am responsible for my own action and my own words only. I am, however, not responsible for what people think of! What someone else believes about me is his own business!”

I tried repeating my own affirmation a few times. I don’t believe I was depressed or had any kind of emotional trigger ignited. But, I do know, for sure, that life is full of times when friends simply disappoint us. This was one of them. Mostly acquaintances who aren’t privy to all our personal data, often, don’t live up to our expectations. As hard as we try to appease them, some times even close friends just must move on, without giving notice.

Once in a while, it’s okay to grieve those losses. If anything, my old now-blocked Facebook “friend” helped me understand that I still had some grief buried deep inside about other, closer friends who were led away from my life for no good reason. Like good gossip, someone said something to someone. I was completely left out of the loop. You would expect a good friend to confront you when he or she leaves your life. But, very often, people just don’t have the courage for the truth.

I pray almost every day this prayer: “I release and let go of all things that no longer serve my life. I am open and willing for peace!” Let us allow Spirit to release toxic friends from our lives. But, know that we are certainly free to grieve every last one of those people. Also, remember, not to burn bridges, because someday those people may end up back in our lives for a great purpose. Just not today.

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