Tag: Grief

Giving Way to Healing #grief #anger #healinggrief

I spent three months getting to know and falling in love with someone only to find out that he was in the throes of a terrible addiction. I had to leave the relationship, suddenly, and without my heart understanding the death of a soul-friend. I spent an entire month trying to compute and process the grief and the questions, only to discover that no answers existed to help the pain. When I took my feelings to God and let go, my grief gave way to healing.

Pain from a death of any kind—a personal relationship, a passing of a soul, or the trauma of an accident—can lead to incredible pain and self-analysis. Did I do something wrong to make this happen? Am I ever going to experience truth and empowerment? Will relationship ever grace my doorstep? These are all questions that go through every well-meaning person’s mind who has experienced a loss. You are not alone. Your soul is simply processing the pain of another loss in your life. Soon, you will gain strength and feel empowered again, but it’s time to grieve now,. Go ahead and let yourself cry, for a time.

Grief is actually a great tool to cleanse the soul. I had a healer tell me that, “crying was like the body getting cut. Just after, the corporal body bleeds to cleanse the wound. This is also true for the spiritual body.”

This quote has helped me become an observer in the most trying times of my life. If you don’t let yourself grieve, you will end with a terrible soul infection, which will later have to be reinjured to heal. We don’t want that. Grieve your loss! You will be better for it in the end.

Grief has a beginning, a middle, and an end. You be would be well to know the difference between the stages, as you go through the seasons of grief. Eventually, your soul cleanses, and it’s time to move on with your life in a new way with a different perspective. You will be the better for your loss, even though your body and mind feel like a puzzle with a missing piece.

The truth is: we are all puzzles with many missing pieces, but we could fill this empty space with new love and with Spiritual understanding. In the doing, you find that the missing pieces you experienced were actually always God, guiding you, leading you, and teaching the hardest lessons of life. You are complete, now, my friend. You always were whole. God just has to take time to teach you the lesson of being human.


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The Phoenix—Rising from the Ashes! #phoenix

Nothing intrigues me more than the classical myth of the phoenix, which was a unique bird that lived for five or six centuries in the Arabian Desert. After this time, it burned itself on a funeral pyre and rose from the ashes with renewed youth to live through another cycle. The reason I’m so enamored by this myth is because of out of all the struggles in my life and the most painful times I can remember, I have had my greatest epiphanies and aha moments.

We don’t need a genius to see that everyone from the richest to the poorest person experiences grief, sadness, and loss. Life is rife with change, because, existentially, everything we look at is aging each moment of every day. So, plants die, people cease to exist, and relationships weather the storm, but often pass away as well. So, the secret to being happy is coming to this harsh realization.

However, an even greater secret is in the mystery of the phoenix. If we believe that all things are in Divine Order, than we must understand that our human existence is for a purpose. So, all loss comes as a lesson in humanity and rises from the ashes to become spiritual and human lessons.

Recently, I faced a few personal losses all at the same time. I have to tell you that my self-talk every morning began with many affirmations, including my favorite: Letting Go is merely a matter of making room for something bigger and greater. In my relationship corner of my room, following the concept of Feng Shui, I put a picture of a butterfly, which represents transformation. In the following weeks after my perceived losses, I have found more joy and hope than I could have ever imagined. Yes, I continue to have some grief about my losses, which is normal, but my happiness definitely has begun to exponentially outweigh the pain.

Know this: Every moment of everyday, life passes the moment it happens. The secret to happiness is to love the next moment more than you grieve the loss of the past.


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What Follows Truth?

What Follows Truth

I have had many of my hero-clients face their demons these past few weeks only to find that what follows is deep-seated grief—grief that they never got to express all the years they held back their important truths that would have liberated them and all the people around them.

Are tears from grief a necessary tool for healing? Absolutely. I once had a very precious nurse friend tell me that tears are like the blood that rushes to the surface of our skin to cleanse a wound when we cut ourselves. We bleed until the wound is clean and ready to heal. We cry until our souls are cleansed and ready to heal.

Necessary? Damn right.

There is no circumventing the steps of healing. You have a cancer that needs to be cut away. You go to the surgeon, and with precision, it is cut away. Then you bleed. Then you rest and heal. No one gets around the circumstance unless God intervenes with a miracle.

After that, no one really knows what’s going to happen with the people around you. But you do know one thing for sure: YOU ARE LIVING YOUR LIFE IN AUTHENTICITY! And you can trade nothing for that feeling of peace.

It took maybe fifteen years for my father to accept me as a gay man. It took five for my mother. My sisters were a lot more compassionate. My brother still doesn’t get it. But for me, I wouldn’t go back into the closet for anything. I’m free and healed.

Do my scars show? Sometimes.

They show when I get around a super religious bible-thumping person who believes I’m going to hell because I’m gay. I can feel my entire body wanting to retreat from their presence. When a child is abused or hurt or commits suicide because he/she is gay, I bleed inside.

But I know those scars are perfectly carved into my heart by God. They help me create safe boundaries and bring forth a sense of divine compassion that may help others in the future. After all, do we really want to go through our pain for nothing? I hope not.

So, truth. Is it worth it? You tell me.


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