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Psychology: The Science of Mind #self-discovery #InfiniteMind #spiritualadvice #SOM

In The Science of Mind we read: “…it is not the brain (of man) that does the thinking, for if the brain could think, it would keep on thinking when removed from the body. Yet, without a brain, a man could not think, which proves that something behind the brain uses it as an instrument. Man does think, so behind the brain there must be a Thinker. But where is the Thinker?”

Who doesn’t read the above and wonder about the difference between the physical brain and the Mind? I know, I certainly do. My first perceptions of this reality came when I realized I was talking to myself, or reasoning with myself. I thought, who is speaking to whom?

At this point, I realized that there was, quite possibly, a family of thinkers in my own brain. Wondering if I was sane or crazy, I asked a therapist friend of mine about this psychological conundrum. It turns that there is a science in psychology devoted primarily to this subject called IFS (Internal Family Systems), led by Dr. Richard Schwartz, Ph. D.

The theory behind IFS is that characters develop in our minds under certain circumstances—usually traumatic ones. These characters hold certain beliefs about our lives and either protect us, guard us from our own bad memories, or become heroes for us. (This entire scenario is not to be confused with multiple personalities, the mental illness. What I speak about is actually quite normal. With multiple personalities, usually one character is predominant and the mentally disabled person usually loses time when in that particular personality.)

The only reason I bring up IFS is because for characters to exist in the mind, there must be a Source that is not the physical brain to function in a way that actually communicates with itself. The real challenge and wonder of the Science of Mind is that by “recognizing the mind and brain are separate, and that the mind governs the brain,” we actually can remodel our thinking. This is the premise on which the science of psychology is based.

So, to sum up, the only way we can study our own minds and change our beliefs in ourselves is to, first, consider that we have One Mind that is greater than the human brain and its autonomic functions. This One Mind is Cause. From this, we can begin to observe ourselves and make changes, or edits to the function of the physical brain. Alas, mental health may emerge. Let’s hope so!

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Connect to Your Innocence! #innerchild #findingstrength #recovery #IFS #Internalfamilysystems

A friend shared about following her heart. She said, “When you treat your heart as if it’s an innocent child—always needing your protection—you never move in the wrong direction!”

Our greatest bliss and deepest peace always comes from a secure place. To get to security we must honor the small child that exists in each of our souls. He plays with us, sometimes annoys us, and holds us accountable, but always leads us to our greatest sense of comfort. Why is this so?

There is a psychological technique called IFS (Internal Family Systems). From Wikipedia:

The Internal Family Systems Model (IFS) is an integrative approach to individual psychotherapy developed by Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. It combines systems thinking with the view that the mind is made up of relatively discrete subpersonalities, each with its own viewpoint and qualities. IFS uses family systems theory to understand how these collections of subpersonalities are organized…

Of course, one subpersonality everyone has is her inner child. For me, “Little Bobby” is my radar, my consciousness, and also my security guard. When I feel that aching, gnawing feeling in my belly that insists I shouldn’t or can’t do something, I know it’s Bobby beckoning me, “Listen closely, I have something important to tell you about your heart!” I’ve learned that adhering to him always makes for a more secure and peaceful life. Some people call it trusting your gut. For me, I realize that my gut has a name.

Today, get quiet and find that inner girl or boy whom you left behind on your quest for adulthood. Instead of thinking you are too tough, too busy, or too wise to listen, trust the innocence that exists inside of you for guidance and ultimately to lead you into the perfect path of life.

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

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In My Earthly Temple Is a Crowd #internalfamily #IFS #Partstherapy

In each of us exists a myriad of ideas and thoughts. To understand which thoughts are yours and which are just floating through the universe, you must comprehend the human mind and its many attributes. One particular part of the thought process is actually a combination of many smaller parts. In psychology this is called Parts Therapy or Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Within each of our minds there are parts. Each part exists for a specific purpose. For instance, if you were called names as a child, you may have a “part” that encouraged you to not pay attention to the mean kids. This kind of a part was a helper.

You may also have developed a part that was equally judgmental as the children in the playground, accusing you of being not good enough—even into adulthood. Identifying these parts and putting a face or name to them may help you recover from self-deprecating thoughts or feelings of insecurity. This kind of therapy is called Parts Therapy in hypnosis and in psychology Internal Family Systems.

Here is an example about how this kind of therapy may apply to you: You have been having indiscriminate sex with many partners lately. You can’t seem to get enough intimacy to make you feel good enough or pretty enough. You recognize you have a problem with your overactive libido, so you see a therapist. The therapist uses IFS and discovers that you have a part named Joe, who never felt handsome enough to attract a boyfriend or girlfriend. He was made fun of for being overweight. He has continued with you into adulthood.

In your present adult self, you are buff and take care of your body at the gym everyday. You look amazing, but you can’t get rid of the feeling that you are not handsome enough. In fact, this feeling fuels your attraction to the gym. Every rep you do on a weight machine has the thought behind it, “I’ll show them who’s not hot enough!”

You are like the person who had a large nose and had plastic surgery. But every time she looked in the mirror, she saw herself with the larger nose. She couldn’t see herself as the beautiful new woman with a smaller nose.

Each of us has a myriad of voices in our minds. No, you are not psychotic or have multiple personalities unless you find that you lose time (actually forget where you were—or blackout) while you experience another personality. Having family meetings and getting to know these parts is the first step to releasing the parts that no longer serve you.

Some of your parts are like friends that you simply have to release from your life, because they continue to discourage you or deplete you of vital energy. You can’t release what you don’t understand or know, so you have to begin to look inside and confront the internal demons in your life to begin the process of healthy thinking. Of course, if you need help, you can look below and give me a call I’d be happy to help you sort out what is no longer serving your life.

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian 

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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