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Judging Others: She Did What?

Yesterday, I found myself saying, “OMG, she is a #piece_of_work!” I wondered just what I meant. Isn’t everyone a #piece_of_God?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not the kind of guy that sits around judging people all day, now, but when I was younger and someone got in my face and was belligerent, I could bite hard. I hate to admit that about myself at any age. Being from a large family and growing up quite the twinkle toes, I had to learn to aim for the jugular, which included watching, #judging, and #tallying everything. I needed to always be ready to find that one fault that would knock someone to his knees.

As an adult I often have to remind myself that everyone is special, even if they do periodically unnerve me. Everyone is a piece of God. Everyone is part of the One Mind, the Source, the One Incredible, Infinite Something that literally has no one name. If indeed everyone is a part of this one Source, then this means even the person that pisses you off the most is made of the same “stuff” as you are. We hate to admit this Truth, because we love to judge.

What would happen if we stopped judging completely? Could we live in a world where we did not judge at all?

During a sermon a minister gave the congregation a challenge:

“Let’s see if any of us can get through 24 hours without judgment. You are the only one who can know what you’re thinking, so if you want to participate, you have to promise to be honest with yourself.

“Here is the definition of judgment from the dictionary:

A few friends and I decided to challenge each other to see if, indeed, we could actually exist 24 hours without judgment. My first try, I made it an hour. Often, though, I didn’t make it 5 minutes without thinking some kind of judgment. The first rule of the game was that if you judged, you had to start the 24 hours over again.

It was in that first day of trying not to judge that I realized, I not only sat in a seat of moral superiority, but I thought almost everyone was doing something wrong.

The weight of all of that judgment is a heavy burden. Ask yourself, why is it so important for you judge another person? Do you need to feel better than that person? Do you need to feel superior in some way?

If you do, then ask yourself why.

If life is not making you happy, how do you expect spending your free time judging others is going to make it better? Honestly, you will be 100 pounds lighter the minute you decide that you don’t need to be better than anyone, including yourself.

Did you know that most people who judge others are even more judgmental of themselves? This is a huge problem. Judging others counters itself with a harsh reality: You must live up to the perfect ideal to which you hold others.

Today I give you the same challenge as the minister gave to her congregation.

Spend 24 hours without judgment.

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Whether in Bad or Good Weather #badweather #whatisgood #spirituality #SOM #lawofmind #truth

Oscar Wilde said, “It is absurd to divide people into Good and Bad. People are either charming or tedious!” I would go one metaphorical step further to say, “It is absurd to judge (period)—anything—people or acts.” The bible says that God rains on everyone… the good and the perceived evil.

The reason why we are told not to judge by many ancient scriptures is simply because it is not our place to judge anything. “He who has no fault, let him cast the first stone,” Jesus said.

So, if I think about Jesus’ premise, I’d be the first to stop my judgment of others. However, losing our critical edge is a difficult process. Trying not to make judgments against people and events is more difficult than you would imagine, especially since an average adult makes 35,000 decisions in a day (Quora.com). Our brains are constantly using that critical edge to judge whether we should run that yellow light, let our child go out after dark, eat that dessert, or run instead of walk. Judging is an integral part of life as eating is. So, you cannot take away the critical processing from the brain without losing the good function and the bad. (Ah, there again… judging by good and bad. Is it impossible to stop with the comparison?)

As a hypnotherapist, when people would come to me to stop smoking, it was considerably easier than helping them stop eating too much. Why? Eating is something you have to do, every day. So, starting to eat anything often makes you want to eat more. When you stop a habit like smoking, you simply do not smoke anything, which is why I’m not in favor of the vapor substitute, unless the person is using it to titrate off of nicotine.

We must stay critical in our thinking to stay on point with our jobs and in our choices. However, when we let this criticism spill over into our thoughts about people and current events, in general, we begin to judge something that is out of our realm or spectrum of judgment. We head down a road that is difficult to maneuver without pointing those four fingers back to ourselves.

So, today, try spending one day without calling any person or event bad or good. We do not know the purpose or the eventual outcome of anything in life. We do not have an omniscient brain to know the larger truth behind anything in life. So, perhaps, we should stick to our microcosm and focus in on getting our own lives right. Point those four fingers of energy at where it will matter most and make effective change.

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you cropped-cropped-6009Color1001.jpgthought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

 

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Fact and Fiction: #Spock and #BrianWilliams #leonardnemoy #brianwilliams

We have honored both Brian Williams and Leonard Nemoy for many years for their stellar work—Nemoy, mostly in fiction and some for his narrations of many newsworthy stories—and Williams for his conviction to news anchoring for NBC Nightly News. This week we saw two deaths, one physical and one career end abruptly. One loses his life from end-stage chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, and one loses his career for an obstruction of truth. For the actor we grieve. For the man who stole our trust, we look at with derision and disillusionment.

I don’t often write about current events unless they have a spiritual or moral fabric. In this instance, I believe, it does. I had been hearing the stories of Williams fabricating news of his 2003 helicopter attack, but I really hadn’t listened too closely until yesterday. I assumed more facts would rise to the surface as the days pressed on. But, when I had gotten the facts that Williams had left his position as news anchor and producer of the NBC Nightly News, I scurried to the computer to find out all I could about his situation.

What humans seem to love more than political bickering is a famous person falling from grace. Why is this so? Is it because we can look at our own lives and dishonesty with less judgment if we steady our attention on all that is wrong outside? Have you ever tried to live a day without judging another person, or worse yet, without judging yourself? It is virtually impossible. Judgment of others is our favorite human expression, because it pulls focus away from our own misdeeds and from, perhaps, the pain that we don’t want to look at in our past.

Personally, I have been trying to live without judgment these days. I have never experienced a harder spiritual path. Judgment is endemic in the human mind. Other creatures on earth don’t spend time in judgment. Watch two ducks have a squabble on a lake. They may peck aggressively at each other for a moment, but then they will swim away with grace and beauty, never looking back. Our loving pets may chew up Daddy’s shoe and get reprimanded. Two minutes later, our puppy will be wagging her tail and wanting to be back in the good graces of her favorite human, despite your anger.

I want to be more like my dog, sometimes. I have to admit it. They sit so quietly and peacefully, never worrying about much, until their attention is deserved. Then, suddenly, without a moment’s notice, they leap to attention and follow their instincts. When the moment ends, the attention dissipates. They go back to sleeping soundly within minutes. My dog teaches me the lessons of letting go every day.

We all fabricate news every day. It’s not as if we don’t expect this from newscasters. Should Williams be held accountable for his misdeeds? Absolutely. Should we be held accountable for every time we undermine our own morals and self-control? Yes, actually, but not with the judgment we give the world. We should treat our own negative thoughts and judgments like we feel about a death of someone important. They served us for awhile, but it’s time to get down to the grief and what’s behind our desire to deflect our attention.

Yes, we should take stock in how we treat others and the world, every day. As a good spiritual student of life, we should be trying better every day. Three things we can do to help this process is pray more, condemn less, and honor the human process of all sentient beings. Lastly, learn to laugh at yourself!

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A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian 

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

If you are a gay man or woman, you may want to direct your gaze to my newest blog: Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. This blog is an extension of my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/UncommonGaySpiritualWarrior/) and group meetings about the rare combination of spirituality and “being gay” defines the most important part of us, even in relationship. Join me at: http://uncommongayspiritualwarrior.blogspot.com/. 

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

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