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Meditations for a New World #9 (Judgment and self-esteem)

 

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Judging Others: She Did What?

Yesterday, I found myself saying, “OMG, she is a #piece_of_work!” I wondered just what I meant. Isn’t everyone a #piece_of_God?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not the kind of guy that sits around judging people all day, now, but when I was younger and someone got in my face and was belligerent, I could bite hard. I hate to admit that about myself at any age. Being from a large family and growing up quite the twinkle toes, I had to learn to aim for the jugular, which included watching, #judging, and #tallying everything. I needed to always be ready to find that one fault that would knock someone to his knees.

As an adult I often have to remind myself that everyone is special, even if they do periodically unnerve me. Everyone is a piece of God. Everyone is part of the One Mind, the Source, the One Incredible, Infinite Something that literally has no one name. If indeed everyone is a part of this one Source, then this means even the person that pisses you off the most is made of the same “stuff” as you are. We hate to admit this Truth, because we love to judge.

What would happen if we stopped judging completely? Could we live in a world where we did not judge at all?

During a sermon a minister gave the congregation a challenge:

“Let’s see if any of us can get through 24 hours without judgment. You are the only one who can know what you’re thinking, so if you want to participate, you have to promise to be honest with yourself.

“Here is the definition of judgment from the dictionary:

A few friends and I decided to challenge each other to see if, indeed, we could actually exist 24 hours without judgment. My first try, I made it an hour. Often, though, I didn’t make it 5 minutes without thinking some kind of judgment. The first rule of the game was that if you judged, you had to start the 24 hours over again.

It was in that first day of trying not to judge that I realized, I not only sat in a seat of moral superiority, but I thought almost everyone was doing something wrong.

The weight of all of that judgment is a heavy burden. Ask yourself, why is it so important for you judge another person? Do you need to feel better than that person? Do you need to feel superior in some way?

If you do, then ask yourself why.

If life is not making you happy, how do you expect spending your free time judging others is going to make it better? Honestly, you will be 100 pounds lighter the minute you decide that you don’t need to be better than anyone, including yourself.

Did you know that most people who judge others are even more judgmental of themselves? This is a huge problem. Judging others counters itself with a harsh reality: You must live up to the perfect ideal to which you hold others.

Today I give you the same challenge as the minister gave to her congregation.

Spend 24 hours without judgment.

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Dinner with a PornStar? #judgment and prejudice #truth #countongod #spiritualadvice #livingtruth

I went to dinner last night with an old friend from Nashville. We were laughing and cutting up as we took a selfie for Facebook. We jokingly put that he was a porn star in the description. Surprisingly, most of my friends thought it was the truth, even though the rest of the description held the truth—“AND a flight specialist.” I actually had to go back and edit the picture to save face.

Really, friends? WWJD? If a porn star wanted to have dinner with you to talk, would you not treat him or her like a human being? Maybe s/he wanted to know about spiritual things or understand your take on meditation. Maybe a porn star isn’t so different than you and I.

This seemingly funny incident made me realize just how much we all compartmentalize and judge people before we even know them. My friend could not be less of a porn star. He is actually a very spiritual and compassionate, loving person. However, both of us like to have fun and cut up, which is a part of life that most people forget about.

We are meant to play like children of God in the playground of life, joyfully embracing all the good that Spirit has to give.

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If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

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Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

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