Tag: Letting Go

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I had always thought the key to creating in life was to work hard. From the time I was a young boy, I studied hard, got straight A’s, went to college, and forced my way through closed doors. I had always felt this was the best modality, as that was what I saw around me in the effective examples of those who were bosses and executives.

However, as I began to start my own creative business, I realized that creation is much different than pushing your way to the top in a nine-to-five world. In fact, much of the creative process is about doing the hard work, and then LETTING GO!

What does this mean to someone who has spent the last three years writing a novel?

Coming from someone who had done this 14 times and pushed and pushed my way into agencies and publishing companies, I realized that nothing good comes from pushing—NOTHING! The best resolve I have had over the years has come unexpectedly and by being prepared. In other words, my job as a creator is to create. So, my advice to you is this:

  • Do you job!
  • Sow your seeds!
  • When opportunity knocks, BE PREPARED!

Once you present yourself, your product, or your art, then the rest is up to someone else, usually. So, how can any form of force, albeit even mental force, be of any help? It truly cannot. In fact, this kind of mental force will only cause disappointment in the end, especially if the end result does not go in your direction, which is the case most of the time in the creative arts.

The best resolve in this situation is to always be prepared, continue to create, and LET IT GO!

I may be speaking to the choir, but almost every day I face the possibility of rejection. I go to an audition. I do the best I can. And, the rest is NOT up to me. In fact, even after I get an audition, my part of the film may end up on the editing floor. Does it matter? In the end, no. I have done the job I was hired to do. My part is over.

The best advice I have ever gotten concerning life is that: We plant the seeds; God grows the tree.

You must be firm in your resolve to stay with this premise in every situation. You cannot force life to happen in any situation, no matter how strong-willed you think you are. Your will is often what is keeping your good from flowing easily to you!


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The dictionary defines this word as not aware or not concerned about what is happening around us. How many people do you know that are completely oblivious to life, relationship, or work ethic?

Last night I was at an ice cream joint with a friend. The line was out of the door. Four people were behind the counter. Three of them were talking and carrying on with each other. Only one was waiting on customers. Everyone in the line was thinking the same thing I was: The other three people are totally oblivious to the fact that we would all like to be waited on in the next hour. A feeling of infuriation arose in me.

Yesterday, I was on a two-lane street with a woman whose head could barely reach over the steering wheel. She drove fifteen miles an hour below the speed limit, when, of course, I had to be at an appointment on time. The woman was oblivious, or maybe just too old to care!

In situations like this, my first thought is my own ability to have empathy and compassion for those around me, sometimes to my detriment. I’m most often concerned and even rattled by the feeling of disappointing people in situations, when people are waiting on me, or I may be late for an appointment. I wonder what I would feel if I had more of a sense of oblivion in those situations. What if, instead of lack of responsibility and compassion, these people are simply doing what they need to do with no respect of what other’s think? In so doing, they are really relying on God or Spirit to direct their paths, instead allowing the weight of other’s desires to manipulate them?

When we are in situations that mirror oblivion, we are all reflecting off of each other things we need to work on in ourselves. I believe that since I have been confronted with this kind of oblivious behavior, that maybe I should consider enhancing my life with a bit more of this “letting go of other’s judgment” into my life and being a little more oblivious to the angst of what other’s feel. After all, I can’t control everyone or everything. So, I might as well acquiesce to living life without concern of other’s? (That is probably stepping a little too far over my compassion boundary.)

I’m sure, if I tried hard enough, I could find a great balance between being totally oblivious to others’ needs and being overly concerned about how everyone is affected by me. If traffic is slow moving and I’m late, could it be that God is responsible and that I should simply make a phone call to let someone know that I’m trying my best to be there on time, but a wreck has detained me? Or in a situation where twenty people are waiting to speak to me, if I just settle into the idea that each person deserves a certain amount of time to feel taken care of, I would be just fine? I can’t possibly do anymore than I’m already doing to appease all these people, so just let go and relax. Here’s to just a bit of oblivion in life!

Coming Up: I’ll be spending some time looking at prosperity—how to achieve it, why it’s not coming, and how to step forward into your dreams!


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Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle: ]



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Letting Go

I sat at the movies watching “Silver Linings Playlist” and suddenly my heart began to pound out of my chest. I felt as if all the doors in the theater were being locked. I was transported back to a time in my life when my father was drunkenly beating up my brother to a pulp. I lay on the top bunk for a half of the scenario. Then I jumped out of bed and ran to the neighbor’s house for help.

I watched from an observer’s perspective as my entire body seized with pain and anxiety. I had to leave the theater or I would have curled up in a ball and cried like a baby. PTSD had hit me and hit me hard.

This, however, was the first time in my life I had really been able to watch what was happening. Maybe, because I understood what was going on, the experience hit me harder than I had ever remembered. I drove home, which I don’t recommend, and called a therapist friend as I drove (another bad decision). After fifteen minutes of talking me down from the bridge, I realized I was driving in the wrong direction. I had been disoriented enough that I didn’t even know where home was. I ended up 10 minutes from Columbia, going in the complete opposite direction.

Since then, I have had a few PTSD moments. A couple of them have happened during the night. A dream sparked some terrible anxiety in me. I had to get up, do some EMDR exercises and meditate before I was able to get back to sleep.

Can you release something that your body and mind doesn’t want to let go of? This is a question I have asked myself many times. I believe that whatever anxiety or stress is holding on like glue, will someday—with clear, empowered belief and therapy—will be released.

My point in all of this is that now I am seeing what is happening as it is happening. I had never understood why I would act out of character sometimes and get cold and withdrawn. Now, I’m perfectly aware—so, aware, that I can ask my partner to help me as these emotions are surfacing.

Great relationships are wonderful when someone is compassionate enough to help you work through some deep issues. I suspect that God intended for us to work out most of our deepest relationship issues with our life partner, because he or she understands us in a way no one else does or would care to.

If you deal with this kind of stronghold, I recommend starting with some therapy. Many practitioners of all kinds exist to help people with disabling problems. Choose the modality you feel is right for you by doing Google searches and seeing what therapy best suits your problem. For me, Hypnosis and EMDR, which are very similar modalities are the most effective when it comes to PTSD. In fact, a great deal of my family therapist and social worker therapists are using hypnotic techniques to uncover deeply seated fear and anxiety with Parts Therapy, breathing exercises, and Regression techniques, specifically developed all through hypnosis.

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