Tag: Love

Love’s Illusions

Nothing is more ephemeral than the kind of love that #sexual_attraction garners. With sexual attraction a fire ignites that often cannot be stopped before the phase of relationship that should take time and energy, stabilizing and balancing the sexual component.

In other words, the foundation of relationship must be founded in trust, security, friendship, and yes attraction to each other’s light and personality. If I were to choose which one of these will stop a relationship from growing, it would be the sexual part.

Our illusion is solely based on what we see in dramas and in movies. Think about it. A movie writer has less than two hours to get two characters to fall in love, have some antagonist pull them apart, then they return to love again. This is the usual content of a movie. In real life, this would often happen in 7 to 8 years, not moments. But we experience life and love at a fleeting pace, which is certainly the world’s worst illusion for those of us who truly desire secure love.

I can honestly say, as the song says, “I’ve looked at love from both sides now,” and can tell you without a shadow of a doubt, there is no illusions in true love. Every moment is raw and organic. Life is an adventure. Even the boring parts are times of growing to deeper depths of emotion and eventful joy.

Dave and I were recently trapped in our condo during Hurricane Irma for 3-5 days without going many places. We took a couple of walks, but even that was difficult because of all the debris strewn about. At one point I suggested, “Do you want to play cards by candlelight?”

This time created by a natural disaster, begat some of the best moments of our relationship, times we will cherish and bind us closer and closer. However, had we not taken almost a year to get to know each other and find a lasting friendship and prayer partnership, I could see that in those times of distress, we could have ended up becoming an annoyance to each other, rather than the joyful partner who dances in the rain.

If you are in a relationship and feel as if you missed the opportunity to find this kind of foundational security, you haven’t. But your partner has to be on board to begin the exploration phase of the relationship, to ask the questions and field the hard answers you only get when love isn’t at stake.

If you are not in a relationship yet, daily imagine a person that is right for you in all (sow the seeds of love), not just the right chest size, height, muscles, and smile. Honestly, when I was blind to love, I found the friend and partner who has shown me the most love I’ve ever experienced in my life.

 

He didn’t expect it. I didn’t forsee it. And yet, the universal pull of love gently brought us quietly and organically into the warmest embrace I’ve ever known. 

True love has no illusion.

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Is Understanding a Prerequisite to Love? #facinglove #yournewstory #psychology #spiritualadvice

I have been in a long-term relationships. Probably, if two of my relationships had been in a time when gay people were allowed to marry, I would have been a spouse. However, despite the amount of understanding I had gained from being in a live-in, long-term relationship, I never really understood love until I continued to have compassion and love, even though I couldn’t and didn’t understand the choice of my partner.

People make decisions in many ways. Sometimes a decision is made quickly, sometimes slowly and painfully, sometimes with graphs and spreadsheets. But, inherently, when life hands you a decision that involves emotions, we react in three different ways:

  • avoidantly,
  • anxiously, or
  • securely.

If you do not understand the qualities of the human psyche, you may look at a partner’s decision as unfathomable, odd or even crazy. But true love takes none of that into consideration, especially when the decision does not involve the relationship. If the decision is a personal one, such as, which presidential candidate to endorse, a career change, or letting go of a long-standing friendship—these are all personal. What part of decision-making actually involves the other partner or spouse?

Many couples get into big trouble when one spouse tries to control the personal life and decisions of the other spouse; especially in the areas I have referred to above. Love has never been about “understanding” another person. Love is always about being “compassionate” in the face of not understanding.

True love is rare in these days. I feel fortunate to count myself among the few who have a relationship with his best friend, confident, and prayer partner. When all of these come together into a place where you also find a physical attraction, you have hit the jackpot! Why is this so?

We all desire to have in relationship:

  • the strength of a friendship;
  • the compassion of a mother;
  • a solid, visceral physical attraction; and
  • mostly the desire to spend time telling each other truths that you don’t feel free to share with anyone else in the world.

These special qualities in a marital or long-term relationships are paramount to success and ultimately to happiness.

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“Your New Story, Your New Life” The Metaphysical Mind.

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I’ve been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you’ll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

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What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

 

 

 

 

 

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#Belgium Bombing: Love in Every Language #languageoflove #relationshipadvice #spirituality #psychology

On this beautiful morning, as always, I meditated before I looked at the news, my e-mail, and Facebook. In fact, most mornings I avoid all such annoying frequencies, so that I can hold on to my peace for as long as life will let me. Most days, though, life catches up with me fairly quickly and begins slinging mud. Today was no different.

I opened my Facebook page to find the first message from a friend who lives in Belgium: “I’m safe!”

I, of course, had no idea why he had written such a message, but my inclination was strong. I read further down the page to find the first stories of the horrific bombing in Belgium. I wish I could have held him in that moment, but the best I could do was be with him in mind and send a message back thanking God for his safety.

I turned on the television to see President Obama speaking of the matter to an audience of Cubans. In one part of the world, Democracy is trying to mute the voice of division, while in another part of the world, hate brings a strong moral divide.

One outcome that hate never understands, nor expects, is how disaster, injury, and injustice does not do a very good job at separating victims. It actually unites them, making all of us stronger and more compassionate.

I don’t suppose there are many people this morning or this afternoon saying, “Isn’t the world a terrible place?” They are more likely to be mourning the loss of the innocent lives and are taking the high watch as their hearts and minds merge with the social consciousness that would unite rather than separate.

Cuba, on one side of the world unifies, trying to find common ground with the United States. On the other side of the world, tragedy also brings unity, love, and compassion for a much very different reason.

You do not have to study a different language for very long before you realize that most languages have more than one word for the English word love. I have always wondered why the language that seems to be the presiding spoken language around the world would diminish the many different kinds and facets of love down to just one word.

But, after this morning, I realize that the word itself doesn’t matter, what language you speak inconsequential, even how many different variations of love there are. There is but one Love operating through each of us and in the world to create peace, even in the aftermath of slaughter.

Love always seeks to build a world that denotes You AND I, not You OR I!

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Please be looking for “YOUR NEW STORY, YOUR NEW LIFE, Unlock Your Seven Spiritual Discoveries” in bookstores and in online bookstores in May or June of 2016!

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Are you in need of Life or Spiritual Coaching? I’ve been a life coach and clinical hypnotherapist and minister of New Thought for 25 years. I do my sessions online, so you can even have your session in bed, so that you can go directly to sleep during the hypnosis session. You must have a laptop or a notebook to do these sessions, either on Skype or Facetime. You can give me a call at 954-253-6493. My fee is $95 for an hour.

You can find all of my Books by Category at http://www.bosebastian.com/new-page/ All of these books have been birthed from my own spiritual growth. I guarantee you’ll enjoy how each will help you maintain a positive mind, body, and spirit. Also, if you click on the Amazon site, you’ll see all of my 15 book— Cookbooks, Novels, Self-Help Books, a Yoga DVD! All great gifts from your friend—Bo Sebastian. Simply go to this link at www.Amazon.com or type in my name. Find great gifts for yourself, family members, and friends by supporting another friend in the process! Thank you.

* * *

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…cropped-cropped-6009Color1001.jpg

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493 (All Sessions are done via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

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