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The Opacity of Human Nature

The Definition of Opacity: In a painting or photography program such a InDesign or Photoshop, the user is able to create the amount of opacity, basically, its level of blocking an object or a color that is behind. For example, if you put a completely opaque picture over top of a blue background, you will see no blue. But if you change the #opacity of the front picture to 75%, you will see 25% blue bleeding through the picture. If you change the picture to 20% opacity, that picture or color beneath it will bleed through to the point where you may not even recognize the picture on top as it once was. Also, the places in the picture that are lighter will be filled with the image beneath it. The lighter the exterior, the more vulnerable to the opacity shift.

In so many ways as humans we have the ability to be completely opaque. In fact, of of us move through life never showing what’s beneath the surface. We only show our human nature and cover 100% of the authenticity and Spirit that is within us. In negative situations, people like Donald Trump can be 100% opaque, hiding the evil and narcissism within.

In juxtaposition to the negative, the positive humans have the ability to lessen our opaque exteriors and let the light and love that is within us show through our human veneer. As never before, humans are realizing that we are not “humans with a spirit,” but “Spirits, housed in a human body.”

As we become more aware of our spiritual core and the purpose within, we can let that purpose, love, and compassion shine through us in places that are most vulnerable to opacity changes, like our eyes, our hands, and our hearts.

We can turn up the Spirit by turning down our hard human exterior simply by our ability to become observers of our humanness.The more we can see the human behavior that we exhibit, the more we are able to control how much we show at any given time or our more loving interiors.

So, how can you tell what’s inside a human being? Is he or she authentic and real? This can be seen only by his or her ability to make the exterior human transparent (by changing his or her own opacity). The more transparent you become to the world, the more the light or the darkness within will shine through.

My hope—and the hope of Ra and the positive influences trying to save the world from turning negative and becoming annihilated—is that when we expose the light and the love by decreasing our human opacity, we will eventually use the magnetic light waves of love to draw all humanity back to Source or God. In turn, we can release the magic power of love into the Earth to draw it to a heavenly, more loving and compassion state.

How do you begin this process in your own life?

Today, recognize how much of you is a hard veneer that must do task after task to stay humanized and avoid looking at the potent, negative changes in the world. Realize you can stay in your own little world and can avoid the terror of the world completely on the exterior. But what about your interior fear? Will it not eventually show through your thinning human exterior? Will your opacity change and shift as you are unable hold in the darkness that lurks within?

Remember, the darker the color behind the picture, the more the colors will bleed through the vulnerable places in your human picture. So, you carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. You hold the peace and security of your family in your heart. You watch the news constantly and wonder when your children will be in the school with the gunman holding them hostage… Is it not time to change what’s inside of you to light? to become a source of positive change to the world, not a negative polarized only by his or her internal fears?

What would happen if you meditated everyday and believed in the possibility of change in the world—the ideas that God and Love could overthrow the worst enemy of humanity? What would happen if you could hold fast to this light and let it shine through your humanity—change your human opacity to 25% and let your authentic, God-self shine through. You plus me could change the color of the world to the light that is within us and allow the Earth to polarize toward the positive.

We could save our planet, if enough of us bend in the direction of transparency.

Become a less opaque human! Turn down the opacity of your hard humanness, and turn up the power of the loving Spirit within!

It’s time to shift.

 

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Teaching a Pig to Sing

I taught voice lessons as my job for over 30 years of my life before I retired five years ago. I had taught people of all ages, levels of talent, and ones who have gone off to be famous. I never tried to teach a pig to sing, though. #Pigs_don’t_sing like humans. I don’t enjoy engaging in something with insurmountable odds.

#Teaching_a_pig_to_sing is like trying to force anybody (your children, your spouse, your mother) to be something that he or she isn’t or doesn’t want to be. Not only does that person not have the capacity to be empathetic, for example, but he or she simply doesn’t want to be what you desire for them. This is like teaching a pig to sing.

Researchers are discovering that we have as many or more neurons in our heart than we do in our brain for learning and understanding. This is an interesting paradigm, when considering just how much capacity each human has to learn empathy. 

The one problem with my original metaphor might be that your children or your mother are human and each of them should have within them the gene to be empathetic. But, what if they simply don’t. What if they are innately narcissistic? Trust me on this one, if someone is narcissistic by nature, empathy is a hard lesson to learn—maybe an impossible one. Many therapists and psychologists would agree with me on this.

When we expect of humans, we are usually broken-hearted in the end. They don’t often change. They don’t often come to understand you. They even surprise you with decisions you can’t imagine making yourself.

This is life, my friends! This is awaking spiritually while still living in a human world. You suddenly become aware of all the negligible differences between good nature and walking through life unawake and blind. You see the good that people COULD BE, wish the best, hope even more, but cannot expect anyone or anything to change because you simply want them to.

 

Everyone is on his or her own path in this world. Some may stay unawake. That might be the path they need in this lifetime. Can we expect a blind woman to see color? Can we expect a congenitally deaf person to hear the song of a bird? Can we expect an animal like a pig to sing?

Our expectations must change, but our hopes can stay high. We can envision a better world without expecting it so much that our hopes are dashed. The answer here is in the way you pray or in the way you live your life.

I had a friend who used to tell me:

The nature of humanity is to make bad choices. So, if you expect that someone will make the worst choice, when someone actually makes a great choice, you can rejoice much more. I have lived by this premise. I’m much happier today as a result.

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You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

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Teenage Meltdown: Trump Tantrum

I once saw a forty-year-old adult have a tantrum. She was so upset and distraught by things not going her way, she actually got on the floor, on her belly, and screamed as she pounded her fists alternately. It was the first time I had actually seen an adult or a president—like yesterday’s #Trump_tantrum— really lose it completely in public. We have all seen cartoons of this kind of behavior, but few of us have seen it in reality.

Psychologically, where does this kind of childlike behavior originate? Why is it still manifesting in adult form in so many people in authority positions, especially in adult males?

In Psychology Today, Joshua Gowin writes about tantrums:

When our lives are in danger, we have a built in response to mobilize our defense. The fight/flight response would naturally kick in if, on a hike in the mountains, you stumble upon a bear. The bear is processed in the brain as a potential threat to your survival, so within seconds your brain releases norepinephrine (also called noradrenaline), and within minutes a surge of cortisol will circulate through your body. These chemicals rapidly mobilize your body for energy utilization. You will release sugar into the blood stream for energy, your pupils will dilate to take in more information and your muscles will be ready to contract rapidly.

Temper tantrums are a version of the same response. Conflicts, such as a battle (over President Obama spying on you) may not be life-threatening, but it is a fight nonetheless. A tantrum also speeds the heart rate and is accompanied by bursts of norepinephrine and cortisol.

We know this happens periodically with children. What happens when the male who is running our country exhibits this behavior?

Continue reading below.

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Continued from Above:

The issue of getting angry is not the real problem here. The issue of allowing anyone’s anger to manifest in a public forum where the media can see and hear is when anxious Americans and leaders and people from around the globe look at Trump’s behavior and say, “My God, what is going to happen the World’s greatest country?”

Stephen A. Diamond, PhD, in an article “Anger Disorder and What Can We Do About It?” writes:

The most commonly used psychiatric diagnoses for aggressive, angry or violent behavior are Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder and Conduct Disorder (in children and adolescents), Psychotic Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Antisocial, Borderline, Paranoid and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Adjustment Disorder with Disturbance of Conduct, and Intermittent Explosive Disorder. This latter diagnosis is an impulse control disorder characterized by repeated “failure to resist aggressive impulses…”

So, in the case of Trump_Tantrum 101, we see that Donald Trump’s Tweet-Syndrome may be his response to anger. He can’t resist it. Not Tweeting keeps him awake at night. The only sedation Trump can get from his anger is to lash out at someone on Twitter. Does this sound like a World Leader to you?

I’m completely disarmed by watching all of Trump’s behavior unfold in front of America. I’m even more worried when, as we get so concerned over the bad behavior that we miss what happens while and before and after the—such as 10 legal documents signed and ready to be expedited to congress. A lawyer friend posted this list of Bills set into motion Friday at the White House. This took my attention away from Trump_Tantrum 101 for a millisecond:

In case anyone got overly sidetracked by the Russian spy drama, the following bills HAVE been introduced:

  1. HR 861 Terminate the Environmental Protection Agency

  2. HR 610 Vouchers for Public Education

  3. HR 899 Terminate the Department of Education

  4. HJR 69 Repeal Rule Protecting Wildlife


  5. HR 370 Repeal Affordable Care Act


  6. HR 354 Defund Planned Parenthood


  7. HR 785 National Right to Work (this one ends unions)


  8. HR 83 Mobilizing Against Sanctuary Cities Bill


  9. HR 147 Criminalizing Abortion (“Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act”)

  10. HR 808 Sanctions against Iran
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Call your House Representative and ask them to not only vote “NO”…but to speak up for our rights, health & safety, and our beautiful country.

What I know about Narcissism and Childish Behavior is this:

  1. If you are in the same room with a narcissist, you will begin to feel as if you are crazy as well.
  2. If you let a narcissist control you, you will end up being a co-narcissist, which is almost as bad as being a narcissist.
  3. If you don’t walk away and let the narcissist destroy itself, you will somehow enable the very person you want to avoid or disarm.

Most therapists find treating narcissism a waste of time, because a great narcissist has many faces and can convince you that he has changed. When, in fact, the narcissist uses every tool in his arsenal to control everyone’s behavior around him—especially those he has appointed to be closest to him—no matter what he or she has to do to make this happen.

We have seen this in the President elect. Even two days before this past incredible outburst and tantrum (3-3-17), Trump acted maturely and almost empathetically at his address to Congress. Donald Trump is a chameleon and an actor. The people who have pressed in close to help him have all become co-narcissists and helpers that probably feel trapped.

At this point, the best we can all do is get out of the metaphoric room, stay attentive to and continue to fight against everything that is out of order, and let the Narcissist destroy himself!

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Deciding on and living by your core values is a tenuous challenge. My many years of spiritual coaching and life coaching can help you with this. I have helped many people in this situation see light and overcome the darkness of the past. Give me a call: 954-253-6493. SKYPE sessions are available.

A Single Session w/Bo Sebastian

What would you feel like if everyday you loved yourself a little more…

What would you be if you loved and gave compassion unconditionally… to yourself first and then to others?

If you could imagine yourself so connected to God Source that everything you thought and every action you completed you trusted could heal yourself and, ultimately the world around you?

Create a Better Life with One Healing Session with Bo Sebastian

Call 954-253-6493
(Sessions CAN BE DONE via PHONE, SKYPE or FACETIME.)

www.bosebastian.com

Bo works with people on SKYPE and FaceTime all over the world. He is taking new clients now. Call 954-253-6493 for information.

Take the time to look at Bo’s bookshelf of self-help books, novels, healing downloads, and yoga DVD. All of Bo’s books help people such as you, make SIGNIFICANT CHANGE with habits, find your SOULMATE, your PASSION, reach YOUR DREAMS, and dictate your own FUTURE.

Chosen to show his new hypnotherapeutic techniques on The Learning Channel (TLC) and also given the opportunity to teach at the world conference for Learning, and received the award of excellence for Helping Overcome Obesity in Nashville, Bo Sebastian is the writer and director of Finding Authentic You and Uncommon Gay Spiritual Warrior. Go directly to Amazon/Amazon Kindle to buy any of his wonderfully inspired books: ]

You don’t get to this voice if reason or recognize it unless you spend time with yourself in silence, asking yourself important self-talk questions. This is like dating. You must get to know the voice of the Spirit by spending time in meditation and silence. This is the only I know to clearly download the power of wisdom and recognize the voice—IN TIMES OF TRAUMA—that is always directing YOU into safety!

 

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